08-06-2011, 07:50 AM
The short answer is to walk away and find another one that actually fits your goal of:"just a casual, intimate, fun girl, I would be seeing, without too much feelings in it."
What happened is you met her,you went to her house meaning along the way she knew what is happening and gave you go ahead signals you both got hot and bothered but than she said no and you stayed and cuddled with her all night.
You failed a sh*t test.She brought up a ASD and you stayed and cuddled.
You should have lost interest in her and leave.You rewarded her for misleading you.She lead you on and deceived you and got rewarded.
And now she is assuming you will call her because she is leading you with
your p***s.
As for the part of her ex BF hit her when she didn't want to have sex with him,that means she has low self esteem as she stayed with him him after he began to hit her.She won't be a casual,fun,intimate relationship as her being her and you already failing shit test and letting her lead you.
There's a book called The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others it talks about people getting into dysfunctional relationships trying to rescue their partners from their problems while ignoring their needs.The results is a very unhealthy relationship.
You can try to be all kind and loving and try to save her.Either that or you can try her default mode of relationship and hit when she refuses to have sex as she kind of expects it.From some reason I don't think you will enjoy it.
You are not are therapist,no one is paying you for fixing her and restoring her faith in humanity helping her opening her to others and trust men.You don't need the drama she will cause in your life.Even if you stay and try to do that she will play her control games on you and probably manipulate you with sex and won't be letting you have it for a long time.She already started.
Even if you can get past all this she still expects to be treated badly as she was with her ex BF.Sort of like what happened with Ryan and the BDD girl.
Leave her.Don't call or contact her and if she does it's not going to work.
Find another woman to have fun,casual and intimate relationship with her.
What happened is you met her,you went to her house meaning along the way she knew what is happening and gave you go ahead signals you both got hot and bothered but than she said no and you stayed and cuddled with her all night.
You failed a sh*t test.She brought up a ASD and you stayed and cuddled.
You should have lost interest in her and leave.You rewarded her for misleading you.She lead you on and deceived you and got rewarded.
And now she is assuming you will call her because she is leading you with
your p***s.
As for the part of her ex BF hit her when she didn't want to have sex with him,that means she has low self esteem as she stayed with him him after he began to hit her.She won't be a casual,fun,intimate relationship as her being her and you already failing shit test and letting her lead you.
There's a book called The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others it talks about people getting into dysfunctional relationships trying to rescue their partners from their problems while ignoring their needs.The results is a very unhealthy relationship.
You can try to be all kind and loving and try to save her.Either that or you can try her default mode of relationship and hit when she refuses to have sex as she kind of expects it.From some reason I don't think you will enjoy it.
You are not are therapist,no one is paying you for fixing her and restoring her faith in humanity helping her opening her to others and trust men.You don't need the drama she will cause in your life.Even if you stay and try to do that she will play her control games on you and probably manipulate you with sex and won't be letting you have it for a long time.She already started.
Even if you can get past all this she still expects to be treated badly as she was with her ex BF.Sort of like what happened with Ryan and the BDD girl.
Leave her.Don't call or contact her and if she does it's not going to work.
Find another woman to have fun,casual and intimate relationship with her.
