08-05-2011, 12:51 PM
(This post was last modified: 08-05-2011, 12:56 PM by LionMonkey.)
Stage 1 - Day 25,
A week left before stage 2. What a ride!
I have this story about a girl I've met, hope someone is able to shred some light on this situation:
I got together with her again 2 days after we met. We went home to her place. I initiated sex but she stopped me at the last piece of clothe.
She said she was afraid to lay too much in it and be hurt because she likes me. She asked if I would sleep over tonight and I just felt that it would be wrong / unnatural to do so. She even said that she didn't knew me well and has only been with me 2 times. I could see that there was something she wasn't telling me. So I asked her what it was and said, "trust me".
Eventually she told told me that her last boyfriend would hit her, when she didn't wanted to have sex with him, so she has a very hard time to trust people and said it was f***ed up and began to have few tears.
I got compassionate and told her I would stay tonight. Naked we were, laying in the arms of each other.
Next day, we part away, I kiss her and as I was about to go I say, "Call me or text me" which she replied, "Or you can call me or text me".
Now I have become a little confused about this thing. I sense that I am not really honest with myself, that my compassion and sensitivity has come in my way for what I originally wanted - just a casual, intimate, fun girl, I would be seeing, without too much feelings in it.
Also, the quote "The one who cares the least has the most power in a relationship". It's like she creates stuff, which makes me care more.
- LM
A week left before stage 2. What a ride!
I have this story about a girl I've met, hope someone is able to shred some light on this situation:
I got together with her again 2 days after we met. We went home to her place. I initiated sex but she stopped me at the last piece of clothe.
She said she was afraid to lay too much in it and be hurt because she likes me. She asked if I would sleep over tonight and I just felt that it would be wrong / unnatural to do so. She even said that she didn't knew me well and has only been with me 2 times. I could see that there was something she wasn't telling me. So I asked her what it was and said, "trust me".
Eventually she told told me that her last boyfriend would hit her, when she didn't wanted to have sex with him, so she has a very hard time to trust people and said it was f***ed up and began to have few tears.
I got compassionate and told her I would stay tonight. Naked we were, laying in the arms of each other.
Next day, we part away, I kiss her and as I was about to go I say, "Call me or text me" which she replied, "Or you can call me or text me".
Now I have become a little confused about this thing. I sense that I am not really honest with myself, that my compassion and sensitivity has come in my way for what I originally wanted - just a casual, intimate, fun girl, I would be seeing, without too much feelings in it.
Also, the quote "The one who cares the least has the most power in a relationship". It's like she creates stuff, which makes me care more.
- LM
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.