How is Tinder going for you?

[Shannon]

If you want to attract a man for a relationship, expect the following.

1. You are going to have to know what you want in a man.
   
2. You are going to have to know where that man would go and what he would be doing, in order to find him.
   
3. You're going to want a man who isn't asking for sex right off the bat.
   
4. You're going to have to have sex with him, but not necessarily because he wants it from a purely physical perspective; it's a way to show him that he is someone you consider worth being more intimate and serious with. Even at my most interested, for the highest value women I encounter, if I have not had sex with a potential relationship partner within 2 weeks of starting our courtship dance, I almost always friend zone her: She has told me she's not interested in me or a relationship with me, which requires sexual intimacy for it to be fulfilling emotionally for me. And a lot of high quality men will do something along these lines, but their time lines may vary.
   
5. No man is perfect. You're going to have to look through a lot of guys to find a good one.
   
6. Most women have to deal with dozens or hundreds of new guys A DAY on dating sites. If you gals weren't so picky, it wouldn't be that way.
   
7. I understand why you are picky, though, and it's going to be a trade off: be picky and don't get hurt as much, or don't be as picky and get hurt more, but have more options and experiences. Risk = reward; at a cost.
   
8. You have to let something happen, without being careless.
   
9. You can find good men where the price to be there is higher than losers are willing to pay. Be prepared to also pay whatever that price is - Money, education, experience, etc.
   

If you want to find a man who is primarily focused through a high intellect, you'll need to go where such men go, for example. Does he need to be muscular? The gym. Does he need to be smart? College or a place where knowledge is stored or accessed. Does he need to be sporty? Go to adventure outings on horseback, bungee jumping, surfing, etc.

In other words, go live the life you love, and let that lead you to the man who shares your passion for that same thing.

Hope this helps a little.