It's only been 3 days: EPRAHA2

[Shannon]

Just wondering if divorce is the right thing to do. I mean couldn't you guys stay away from him, give him some time to reflect. It's said that distance heals.

My parents have been married for 27 years now and it's been hell every step of the way.

How much time do you think this guy needs? How many times does he have to repeat the cycle for it to sink in that something needs to change? Multiple people are being damaged here, and all because someone is stuck on the idea that they're not allowed to do what is best for them because someone told them it's wrong.

Forgive my sarcasm, but yeah, just give him some time to reflect. It'll all just go away. Spoken like a true believer.

Legal marriage makes less and less sense every day for reasons exactly like this. When two people love one another and choose to be together and make it work, they can - with or without a ring and a piece of paper and the law stepping into their bedroom. But when you involve the law and other "moral authorities" and it's not a good match, you get this. And for what? So someone can be controlled by society to their own detriment?

If this woman decides her marriage is in need of ending, and what the OP has said is true, I'm all for it. But regardless of what any of us thinks, it's her choice, and only she knows what's really going on in her marriage from her point of view - the point of view of the person deciding what should happen to her marriage. For the rest of us, it's just hearsay.

In any case, I'd say 27 years of repetition of the cycle is enough for anyone to know it's not going away just by giving the person time to reflect. That's just assinine.