04-24-2016, 02:05 PM
Athena, in all honesty it sounds like you're looking for a unicorn. Your high standards and expectations of single and monogamous guys having all or most of the qualities you're looking for is unreasonable if you intentionally hold back because you're not willing to give them what they ask for, especially if you want it too. If you find someone who fits the bill and is not as sexual upfront as those you've encountered, eventually you'll find that you will complain about the lack of (likely sexual) excitement in your relationship. If you choose to open up sexually earlier on (which you seem to have done previously) you'll complain that guys only want you for sex (which you currently do).
It seems like you're looking for excuses to complain and/or offload responsibility for your lack of matches to someone else rather than ask yourself what insecurity you might be compensating for by adopting this mindset. Real men accept "good enough" and it feels like you might be looking to present yourself as "perfectionist" instead; real men often get turned off perfectionists because women who present this way often haven't actually done the work to "be perfect" and still think they're entitled to be taken care of and such.
It seems like you're looking for excuses to complain and/or offload responsibility for your lack of matches to someone else rather than ask yourself what insecurity you might be compensating for by adopting this mindset. Real men accept "good enough" and it feels like you might be looking to present yourself as "perfectionist" instead; real men often get turned off perfectionists because women who present this way often haven't actually done the work to "be perfect" and still think they're entitled to be taken care of and such.
A Better Alex (ISTJ): EPRHA → ASC → AM6 → …
A Sexy Alex (ESTJ-T): BIABWS+DAOS → DMSI → …
A Better Alex (ENFJ-T): AM6 → …
A Sexy Alex (ESTJ-T): BIABWS+DAOS → DMSI → …
A Better Alex (ENFJ-T): AM6 → …