04-14-2011, 02:30 PM
Recapping what I've observed in the last few posts:
All I can say is LOL (Note: I"m not attacking you.....but maybe I am)
- AYD indicated he is in the Jerk Phase and growing a backbone. Note: The post amplified the amount of Jerkness over the actual amount present in AYD. AYD has an Axe to grind so he tosses lobs towards Shannon (remember he is growing a backbone). Of course the lobs where meant to be veiled but anyone who read the post would know the target was Shannon. [Statement of Fact-neutral, Veiled Attack - Challenge to Shannon]
- Patti responds with "Jerk, Don't be a jerk, Ms AYD would not like that. Better to work towards true confidence." [Expression of council - mostly neutral] Note: Since AYD has no axe to grind with Patti, the expression of council (mostly neutral) was not taken as a threat. Remember Patti is one of the forum goddesses - (note the little 'g') and her posts are also taken in a motherly fashion.....(Patti do I need to suck up any more than this...)
- AYD Acknowledgment of current condition along with expression of desire to change. This could have been interpreted by Patti as "hey this is not your business", but it was not. [Clarification - mostly neutral]
- Shannon, perceiving the challenge from both AYD and Patti assumes a defensive posture by explaining the alpha transformation process, explaining why AYD is a Jerk. Shannon agreed that AYD is redeemable and should hopefully transform in to a confident alpha spoken of by Patti. Shannon directly challenges Patti with "I would disagree" then proceeded to tell Patti what she should believe. "Patti you should be attracted to a male with confidence to the edge of cocky." This statement was proceeded with "In my opinion", which allows the sayer to indicate I'm not really attacking you...but maybe I am. [Agreement, Teaching, Indirect Challenge, Lecture]
- Patti perceives the challenge and response with an direct attack "Don't tell me what to think young man. I've been pruned by your posts in the past. And I have girl friends to back me up." [Direct Challenge]
- Ron, a third party neutral observer, re-states the desired goal of confidence expressed by both Shannon, Patti, and infers that AYD may be able to attain such a level...maybe. [neurtal]
- Patti, resoundingly accepts, neutral statement as "finally" a definition without a challenge. [Declares Victory, Challenge towards Shannon]
- Shannon, accepts neutral statement with suggestion it was his position first. [Declares Victory, Challenge towards Patti]
- AYD Posts observation and fights impulse to spew a lecture to all which would conclude with the phrase "brush you teeth before going to bed...I don't want another dentist bill." (remember he is the Jerk here). [increase of strength to backbone, veiled challenge towards all, veiled attempt at grinding his axe]
All I can say is LOL (Note: I"m not attacking you.....but maybe I am)
