07-31-2021, 07:44 AM
(07-31-2021, 05:59 AM)RTBoss Wrote:(07-31-2021, 04:52 AM)Shannon Wrote: Jake, I have concluded that your pattern of behavior and history of 100% failure with everything prior to OFv3, and your efforts to sabotage v3, point to you being one of those rare people who is here not to actually improve, but to get attention instead. And your learned behavior for getting attention is failure and helplessness.
(07-30-2021, 02:10 AM)Jake2015 Wrote: Im unaware what fears have been touched or dealt with by this sub so far but I'm not at the half way 90 days stage yet and Im aware im still trying to find that sweet spot for me but I'm hoping by day 90 to really see something concrete so 17days left till then. I will thus stay on 4 loops as mentioned for another cycle and then not sure how to progress so will see.
If dreams are any indicator then it seems I was getting results at 1 loop US, 2 loop US, 3 loop US, I think. Unsure if hybrid has done anything but hey im seldom able to see for myself whats happening.
Good idea.
Jake, you're so "aware" of your fears, I'd think you'd be able to see where they've been reduced. Instead, you substitute some fear you feel or think about to focus on, while other fears have clearly improved. That's a clear example of willful ignorance. I hope you realize @Shannon is giving you some tough love. It's time to buck up, buckle down, and make progress.
LFG!
thanks @RTBoss. I had noticed dreams yes as mentioned in the parts you quoted. Im aware of the MAJOR and more important fears such as those around career yes as this has hounded me all my life it seems. Insects too and then there are those fears I'm aware of that Im not seeing often just when circumstances puts me in that trajectory such as say heights.
Other fears I'm unsure of as I don't life in a conscious awareness of my fears.
All I'm trying to do is follow shannon's instructions in trying to find that sweet spot. He said listen to hybrid and increase after each ARSB2 as I proceeded to do only then to be told that no stay on 4 loops a but longer so I'm going to do that. Im unaware of what my sweet spot for this sub is.
As has been told to me many times I have 'self delusion' type resistance so if that is true and I'm unaware of the success of this sub so be it surely that means continue until 180th day and see back what has changed?
What I've noticed is as soon as 1 thing is mentioned in my journal everyone seems to jump on saying it is an indicator of success. I cant be so because I am aware that such moments have occurred in the past even without this sub. For me its what is clear to me and my experience that will reveal that sub has worked.
For example dreams I have acknowledged is a success because I don't always notice dreams and noticed them more so far on OF3.
I am so far studying, but I have spent 2-3months maybe longer intending to do this as I come to the end of my degree, which indicates my pattern as a procrastinator. the fear has propelled me into action. I also know that constantly focusing on how to study best and do whatever I can drew to a close and now I had to take action and luckily I found the action to be easier than reading a book for hours on end.
However the fears I'm aware of and what I want the sub to clear are the ones I always mention, which to me are the big deal to be cleared by day 180 which are career related, whether that be studying even from a book to emailing and calling organisations etc. Some days I'm courageous and get this done (before OF3) and most times I'm not. Another fear would be spiders and insects at home. The day when I can not even care about them would show me ok you have no fear of these either. Heights and the rest I cannot assess until I am in those situations.
When I journal ofcourse if I mention anything good like studying I'm pointing it out but if I mention anything negative such as feelings of anxiety and fear I will point those out too as that's the only way to assess my reaction to the sub surely.
I focus on fear when I feel it as I'm human but more so because I'm using a sub for fear. I recall when I was on DMSI i was focused on female interactions, when I was on MLS I was looking at my studying habits etc I can only give credit to the sub when I feel ok what I'm experiencing goes beyond what is normal or has been an experience I've had before.
For example yesterday I went for a walk with my friend. Have I been on walks with my friend before yes. Have they been often no but when we do we walk for a long time sure. Is this the sub based on past experiences no but could it be sure but again only time will tell.
I have always said from day 1 that I will give this sub 180days so I'm expecting and hopeful that by day 180 I can look back and go wow (Luke Wilson style) and go yes this fear and that fear are no more.
Is that a good logical way to assess I believe so. Is any of this self sabotage I don't think so I just hit play and journal good days and bad days.
OF3 5.75.7G 13/15Vol
1L-2O/3OF; (1L-2/2 5/6); (2L 19/6); (3L 27/6); (4L 9/7); (H4L 25/7)
W 19 May
MLS 5.5G: ≈70days x2, IYGSH: 54, E2: 78+48, DMSI 3.2: 56 & 22, UMOP1: 57+UMOP2: 33 = 90+10 US v12/15=100, OF: 45, OF2: 56days
1L-2O/3OF; (1L-2/2 5/6); (2L 19/6); (3L 27/6); (4L 9/7); (H4L 25/7)
W 19 May
MLS 5.5G: ≈70days x2, IYGSH: 54, E2: 78+48, DMSI 3.2: 56 & 22, UMOP1: 57+UMOP2: 33 = 90+10 US v12/15=100, OF: 45, OF2: 56days