(02-12-2017, 08:48 AM)risingwarrior Wrote: I've seen a trend in my dating life. I've always dated women who were 'unavailable' emotionally, physically or otherwise. These girls would have a lifestyle busier than me and that'd end up leaving me feel alone for the most part of the relationship. One time I dated this blonde, who was a med student. I would see her like 3 times a month or even less. That leads to me asking for more dates, which turns them off, and leads to a break-up.


The same pattern keeps repeating through out my dating life, till this date. Any way I could break this spell?

(02-12-2017, 01:10 PM)AbundanceCH Wrote: risingwarrior, this is a common situation a lot of people go through on their path to becoming the strongest version of themselves and finding inner happiness. The women you date much like everyone else in your life are just teachers sent to teach you lessons you need to learn as you grow into your greatest version.

I been through his same lesson. For a long time the girls I dated could only see me once or twice a week, sometimes less. I had one girl that would only spend at best maybe 3-4 hours with me just one day a week because she was a busy student.

I was so jealous of my friends who would have girls that would spend almost every day with them all day. Why can't I find a girl like that I would ask myself? It was only until later that I realized that it wasn't the girls I was finding but the issue was ME.

Whether they are busy, not busy, the whole "if you were brad pitt they would be spending all day with you" excuse or whatever, the fact of the matter is YOU ARE NEEDY. YOU ARE NOT HAPPY ALONE.

You need to learn to be happy alone. Once you are happy alone and your happiness comes not girls but from inside of you then you have mastered the lesson that life is trying to teach you with all these women.

After I mastered this lesson all the women I have manifested into my life have been ones that are crazy about me and spending time with me. The reason for that is because I have become a complete man. The whole notion of "finding your other half" is a lie. That in itself means that you are broken and looking for your other piece.

To be a complete man is to be a man that is complete within himself and does not need outside validation. You don't need a woman or other people to feel happy because your happiness comes from within. This was the difference between me and my friends. They were a lot more complete than I was. Because of that they attracted women that wanted to be around their completeness.

If you are needy you will tend to attract unavailable girls because the universe wants you to man up and learn this lesson (to find inner happiness and learning to be happy alone). If you are complete you will tend to attract women that are either complete themselves or will want to spend a lot of time with you because they can feel your completeness and that you don't need them. Ive seen this over and over again.

Start focusing on yourself more and your goals. You need to have goals which have nothing to do with women. Start reading books, work on your hobbies whatever. Make yourself stronger on an inner level.

I hope you read this and realize it has nothing to do with the girls but more to do with how you are still very much weak as a man in some ways (no offense) and need to grow stronger. Find your inner happiness and learn to be happy alone.

Before I used to have to ask women to see them. The only times I ask to see a woman now is if I just met her and we are on our 1st,2nd,3rd date etc. After I fk them I don't ask to see women. They all ask for my time i'm completely happy being alone on a saturday night working on my goals I don't need them. If they want to see me they can ask me.

(02-13-2017, 02:32 AM)robstar Wrote: There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting sex and affection more than "3 times a month". It is simple, when you meet a girl who is unavailable like this do not give them exclusivity, save that for girls who are available for you.

Quote:Haha. Wow. Just reminds me of how ***** society is. And no, it's not entirely him being needy.

First thing, you have to face that you were nothing but a fuckboi. Women these days are "empowered" and have a plethora of options, so they take full advantage of it. They can be anything they want - "you go girl" - and have constant source of dopamine rush plus validation from their phone apps if they didn't get enough fake compliments already from their friends. So, you are seeing unchecked female hypergamy and branch swinging, where they are never satisfied and always thinking they can do better by trading up. She has no remorse in leading you on or anything like that. Emotional needs? Pfff! What are those? A serious relationship doesn't exist with these women; they are ruined. "A woman is only as faithful as her options" but these ones will only end up as lonely old spinster cat ladies because they were sold a lie of fake empowerment and ultimately a life that is unfulfilling.

Some may shout that it's insecure to want a girlfriend or a wife that is needy and emotionally/physically dependent on you, the man, but that's how it was in previous centuries and it worked out pretty well. Women these days don't respect men nor need them so it's no wonder they show such lame behavior. Of course, you would also have to realize how close most of them are to sociopaths to really understand this. You guys can keep playing a game of who cares the least and who is the most independent lol but unfortunately that's not entirely sustainable. Society is *****.

Being unavailable as a man is more normal than her doing so. Wrongly taught unfeminine women tend to mimic what behavior they find attractive in the opposite sex which is a huge mistake. No, acting like a leader does not make them sexy or desirable, even if that behavior can and does attract them! I say this because traditionally women wouldn't have a problem with polygamy, but the opposite situation doesn't necessarily work out.