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Greetings From PeaceMeal and Advice Please - PeaceMeal - 12-07-2015
Hi All;
I've apparently been living under a rock for many years as I just heard about this site and the subs when it was mentioned on another Forum that I frequent. Liking many of the titles I bought a few of them and downloaded the one freebie. I don't really know where to start.
There are a few things that I'd like to get control of. Outwardly it would look like I'm very successful. Nice job, wife and children. Nice home and a bunch of toys...problem is that most of it doesn't resonate with me. I have this internal conflict with all of that in that I don't really want the toys or the big house. I'm more of a minimalist at heart, but I feel like I need to provide for my family, and I'm stuck in a wellpaying but meaningless job because I am the sole breadwinner.
As a consequence, we have quite a bit of consumer debt, about 25% of my annual pay, so it's uncomfortable and I feel very poorly about it. About half of that is due to unexpected repairs on a home, the other half is just stupid consumerism.
I've also had a pronography and masturbation addiction for a good 30 years. I think the addictions get in the way of intimacy with my wife as I feel shame about it, and of course I don't tell her about it. Doesn't help that she requires pronography on the TV when we are being intimate.
I'd like to control/eradicate those habits, or not feel so guilty about it. It's not an everyday thing, but it is a good 3-4 times a week thing (when the house is empty) and there are other things I'd like to do with my time and energy, like write music and stories...hoping that I can someday replace my job income with these other things.
So this is all to explain that I have several little things I want to address, and it's why I bought and downloaded several Subs, but don't know where to start.
Any advice would help, please. I've been reading the forum for a couple of days and find that this is a safe place to seek help, so thank you in advance.
I have ASC,
Stop Masterbating,
Overcoming Pron Addiction
Natural Song and Lyrics Writing,
Better Plot Design for Writers, and
Think Like a Millionaire,
I also have an interest in AM6, but I have a good six months or more of programs here already.
Should I start with one of these? Or something else altogether?
RE: Greetings From PeaceMeal and Advice Please - Breeze - 12-08-2015
I'd recommend:
Overcoming Pron Addiction > Stop Masturbating > ASC.
Masturbation & Porn are a pain in the ass. So the sooner you address them, the better it is. And after you get rid of those addictions, ASC will only boost your new found confidence from dropping masturbation & porn.
All the best!
RE: Greetings From PeaceMeal and Advice Please - PeaceMeal - 12-08-2015
(12-07-2015, 04:25 PM)yeah! Wrote: What are the triggers for the porn watching ( you dont have to say here)?
That's ok, I can share that. I've already gotten past the hurdle of admitting my problem on a public forum. My trigger is that the kids are already off to school and then my wife leaves errands or whatever, I have the house to myself and so the first thing I think to do is that.