(10-01-2012, 08:54 AM)Spiral Wrote: What really helped me was finally being ok with it. I'm almost 25 and I've never had a girlfriend. First and foremost you must be honest even with new people. Honest about everything. Who the fuck cares if you are 25 and have never had a girlfriend. If someone actually cares they have their own problems and insecurities which stems from that it self (being a late bloomer). Anyone who is grounded, successful, and gets loads of women could care less. In fact those people may want to help you.

One of my buddies who is incredibly successful flawless with women and is honest and knows himself has helped me. Ive actually had other friends who seemed like they would poke more fun at me but they would always say they are jsut trying to help me grow. My college friends were better than most of my high school friends.

But it's ok Javier. your standards are going up.. your perspective is changing as well as your priorities. I've been on the SM refresher for aseveral days now and lol... my sex drive hasn't increased much and I've become more indifferent. it's very empowering because I know I have priorities above getting a ***** girlfriend.. letting alone getting laid. Once you figure out that the only person that can give you the value, love, and validation you seek is yourself.. you will become happy.

(10-01-2012, 09:30 AM)Shannon Wrote: Javier, Spiral nailed it, but there's another thing to consider. You never help yourself by lying. Here's an example.

By saying you have a girlfriend, you're telling women, "Stop, back off, I'm taken." Why would a woman continue to pursue you at that point? You're killing your own chances of having a girlfriend by claiming to already have one.

And... by lying... any woman who knows you're lying, or finds out you're lying, won't trust you. And that kills your chances of dating her!

It never, ever pays to lie to women, because you'll never get anything back but what you don't want.

Quote:Yeah man I should stop lying. But I never told them I currently have a girlfriend. Just had one or two in the past but not that serious. The problem is I basically am known by having that history. If I tell a new girl the truth she might eventually discover that I instead be lying because my friends will say otherwise.

One reason that I lie is that I seem to get more confident and more IOIs from girls when I tell them that in the past, I have a lot of women in my life. I feel it's preselection. If I continue to present myself as being that guy that has never been loved, women will see me as that - without any preselection from other women.

(10-02-2012, 10:52 AM)Shannon Wrote: The shame comes from your belief that you have to judge your own progress by that of others. That is not true. Your progress is only judgeable by comparing it to your own past progress. What others do is not an accurate way to judge your own situation because others are not you. Let go of the belief that you have to do what others are doing, and allow yourself to be your own man, and move at your own pace.

(10-02-2012, 09:57 PM)Shannon Wrote: Once upon a time there was a man who stepped on a thorn, which became embedded deep in his foot. He knew it would be painful to pull out, so he did not. Eventually, it became infected, and the infection caused his foot to swell and become very sensitive and sore. Whenever he touched the thorn to pull it out, it hurt so bad he didn't dare. As the infection got worse, so did the pain. Eventually the infection became life threatening and the pain was absolutely unbearable. He had to have the thorn removed by a doctor, who charged him so much he went bankrupt after having a heart attack and dying. After he died and went bankrupt, his family had to pay his medical bill and his burial costs, which meant they couldn't afford to buy food, and they all died of starvation. When this happened, they couldn't afford to be buried, so their corpses started a horrible plague which infected and killed everyone on earth. And then the earth exploded.

Now, if that man had simply faced the fact that the thorn would hurt coming out, but not as much as it would hurt staying in, he would still be alive, and so would everyone on earth, and the earth wouldn't have exploded.

While I am being a little silly here because I'm tired, the moral here is that doing the wrong thing because it's easier than fixing it, is only going to make fixing it harder, more painful and more costly later on.

So you can keep lying, and stay single forever... or you can be honest, own the truth, and eventually get a girl.

Your choice. But people who don't take my advice invariably live to regret it. I suggest you consider carefully how to proceed.

(10-01-2012, 11:01 AM)jimbobday Wrote: Hey dude I know what its like. I used to do the exact same things. I would lie to even my best friends about my women situation. I would act like I have had a lot of women in my life. One thing that did end up getting me was a women that lied herself. The funny thing was I was so good at lying that I even convinced myself of my lies and this attracted women who were similar in that respect. At the end of the day I ended up getting hurt quite badly through being lied to and deceived.

I then made a promise to myself to cut out my lies around that specific aspect of life and you know what I get on with my friends better than ever now and I even have the odd women approach me that has genuine self esteem and self confidence. I started out just sharing honestly with a few people and realising that hey they still like me I don't need to put on this act any longer Letting go of it has helped me with my neediness because I feel its ok not to have a girlfriend or not to have had a huge amount of experience with girls

I know the shame man but at the end of the day if they are good friends they will still like you and as spiral said will more times than not want to help you out.

(10-11-2012, 05:08 AM)Spiral Wrote: Dude Awesome Javier!

Thats a huge step. Flirting with the sales lady alone whilst maybe others are behind you in line or whatever.

That was a big change for me too a while back. Things started to gradually progress and I virtually do it to any woman in sales, or department stores etc naturally. And being sexy full time rocks!

(10-11-2012, 06:27 AM)Javier Gerardo Wrote: Anyway, when I listen to ASC 5G nowadays I don't encounter any headaches, nausea etc. Like I can barely notice the difference whether I turned my player for ASC 5G or not.
Does this mean that my mind isn't anymore resisting this 5th Generation sub? Or I already have milked every last ounce that I can get from this sub?

(10-11-2012, 08:54 AM)Elusive Wrote:

(10-11-2012, 06:27 AM)Javier Gerardo Wrote: Anyway, when I listen to ASC 5G nowadays I don't encounter any headaches, nausea etc. Like I can barely notice the difference whether I turned my player for ASC 5G or not.
Does this mean that my mind isn't anymore resisting this 5th Generation sub? Or I already have milked every last ounce that I can get from this sub?

I think that your brain has become used with the extra 5G effort.
Beefed up the brain so to speak. Better circulation of blood, oxygen and stuff.
Just a guess tho.

(10-11-2012, 10:53 AM)Sean Wrote:

(10-11-2012, 08:54 AM)Elusive Wrote:

(10-11-2012, 06:27 AM)Javier Gerardo Wrote: Anyway, when I listen to ASC 5G nowadays I don't encounter any headaches, nausea etc. Like I can barely notice the difference whether I turned my player for ASC 5G or not.
Does this mean that my mind isn't anymore resisting this 5th Generation sub? Or I already have milked every last ounce that I can get from this sub?

I think that your brain has become used with the extra 5G effort.
Beefed up the brain so to speak. Better circulation of blood, oxygen and stuff.
Just a guess tho.

Shannon has mentioned this elsewhere, that the brain demands more blood to deliver the nutrients required for being run at 100% while processing a 5G subliminal. Once your body adapts, and meets this increased demand, that type of headache will disappear.

(10-11-2012, 08:02 AM)Sean Wrote: I'll second that! Good job flirting with the saleslady! The great thing about flirting with them is that it's their job to be nice to you. You're guaranteed to have good practice, and that will make your future flirtations more comfortable.

Keep it up, man!