(11-28-2018, 11:32 AM)Oversoul Wrote: @Shannon would it be helpful to have a goal like 'lose all my fears and become fearless and brave to reach the above goal' or will it be unnecessary as FRM is doing it anyway?

(11-28-2018, 08:58 AM)Hatman Wrote: Shannon, just from the way you have been handling yourself on this forum lately I can tell that USLM3 has had a very positive impact on you.

You've got a much friendlier and encouraging vibe about you now. And you are still able to do this without losing the ability to assert yourself and your ideas when the occasion arises.

(11-28-2018, 11:32 AM)Oversoul Wrote: @Shannon would it be helpful to have a goal like 'lose all my fears and become fearless and brave to reach the above goal' or will it be unnecessary as FRM is doing it anyway?

(11-28-2018, 12:30 PM)Shannon Wrote:

(11-28-2018, 11:32 AM)Oversoul Wrote: @Shannon would it be helpful to have a goal like 'lose all my fears and become fearless and brave to reach the above goal' or will it be unnecessary as FRM is doing it anyway?

FRM is doing it already, as it's goal is to remove whatever fears stand in your way of achieving whatever conscious goals you have set for yourself.

(11-28-2018, 12:30 PM)Shannon Wrote:

(11-28-2018, 08:58 AM)Hatman Wrote: Shannon, just from the way you have been handling yourself on this forum lately I can tell that USLM3 has had a very positive impact on you.

You've got a much friendlier and encouraging vibe about you now. And you are still able to do this without losing the ability to assert yourself and your ideas when the occasion arises.

When you see me get upset, it's always going to be because I'm basically stuck in a pressure cooker and things are going wring in too many directions at once while I am for whatever reason unable to fix them. Which, by the way, happens a lot under the influences I have been subjected to in the last 2-3 years, as you may have noticed.

What you're noticing now is as much my use of USLM3 as it is the fading out of those influences.

I get very frustrated when I cannot at least do something to make progress towards my goals, because that leaves me feeling hopeless to change whatever is not going well. I created USLM to force a positive mindset and refusal to stop trying regardless, because I saw that the end of this cycle was going to be particularly heavy handed on me. After years of this influence, I was exhausted, discouraged, close to giving up and in need of help.

USLM to the rescue.

Which is a pretty good testimonial for my subs, come to think of it.

When I'm not backed into a corner and forced to fail and make 10x the effort that I would normally have to make to accomplish anything, and be delayed endlessly in doing so regardless, regardless of what I do or do not do about it, by factors entirely outside of my control, I have a lot more energy for being patient and relaxed.

USLM isn't changing the cycle's influence, it is changing my response to it and my ability to keep going no matter what, regardless of how frustrated I am, how exhausted I am, or how hopeless the situation seems to be right now.

(11-28-2018, 01:39 PM)Zane Wrote: DMSI-3.3 would be your best shot.

(11-28-2018, 02:17 PM)Fluffy Wrote:

(11-28-2018, 01:39 PM)Zane Wrote: DMSI-3.3 would be your best shot.

What if I don't want to get involved with any new girls and want to focus on other things?

Sleeping with women seems counter productive. I have been seriously considering not getting involved with any new women for the next few years and focus on other areas that are of more importance.

I pretty much had 3 long term relationships back to back, my last one being the longest and the most meaningful.

I want a healthy break, but I also want to be clear of my last LTR.

(11-28-2018, 12:43 PM)THolt Wrote:

(11-28-2018, 12:30 PM)Shannon Wrote:

(11-28-2018, 08:58 AM)Hatman Wrote: Shannon, just from the way you have been handling yourself on this forum lately I can tell that USLM3 has had a very positive impact on you.

You've got a much friendlier and encouraging vibe about you now. And you are still able to do this without losing the ability to assert yourself and your ideas when the occasion arises.

When you see me get upset, it's always going to be because I'm basically stuck in a pressure cooker and things are going wring in too many directions at once while I am for whatever reason unable to fix them. Which, by the way, happens a lot under the influences I have been subjected to in the last 2-3 years, as you may have noticed.

What you're noticing now is as much my use of USLM3 as it is the fading out of those influences.

I get very frustrated when I cannot at least do something to make progress towards my goals, because that leaves me feeling hopeless to change whatever is not going well. I created USLM to force a positive mindset and refusal to stop trying regardless, because I saw that the end of this cycle was going to be particularly heavy handed on me. After years of this influence, I was exhausted, discouraged, close to giving up and in need of help.

USLM to the rescue.

Which is a pretty good testimonial for my subs, come to think of it.

When I'm not backed into a corner and forced to fail and make 10x the effort that I would normally have to make to accomplish anything, and be delayed endlessly in doing so regardless, regardless of what I do or do not do about it, by factors entirely outside of my control, I have a lot more energy for being patient and relaxed.

USLM isn't changing the cycle's influence, it is changing my response to it and my ability to keep going no matter what, regardless of how frustrated I am, how exhausted I am, or how hopeless the situation seems to be right now.

@Shannon

After this pass concludes on 27 December, will there any more cycles or passes in the immediate future?

Quote:And with the conclusion of the cycle, will this expedite the completition of 6G? I feel like you are so close to completing it but external circumstances have dictated otherwise

(11-28-2018, 01:26 PM)Fluffy Wrote: @Shannon

What would help me heal, move on, let go of, forget.... my last LTR?

I get triggered by certain things that remind me of her. Funny as it sounds but I was watching a movie last night and the girl the guy was having sex with in the movie had the same body type and breasts as my last girlfriend and after the movie I started thinking of her again and the emotional aspect of that came back.

I also noticed when I find new girls attractive they kind of have similar features to my ex girlfriend, it's like I am trying to find her again. So she is obviously still "active" in my being even though I was the one that broke up with her months ago!

I obviously do miss her to some extent, and how we gradually stopped speaking, it was left with misunderstandings.

Unfortunately we were both on different paths though...

it is just weird that every girl I am comparing to her and things trigger me and the emotional aspect of missing her being comes back, which seems out of no where.

When I was speaking with and getting closer to a girl recently, I couldn't get my ex girlfriend out of my mind, as if I was still "with" her. As if I didn't want to cheat on my ex girlfriend... It has very strange and emotional aspects to it all.

What do you think? E2?, USLM3? Or DMSI 3.3?

Thanks for your help.

(11-28-2018, 01:26 PM)Fluffy Wrote: @Shannon

What would help me heal, move on, let go of, forget.... my last LTR?

I get triggered by certain things that remind me of her. Funny as it sounds but I was watching a movie last night and the girl the guy was having sex with in the movie had the same body type and breasts as my last girlfriend and after the movie I started thinking of her again and the emotional aspect of that came back.

I also noticed when I find new girls attractive they kind of have similar features to my ex girlfriend, it's like I am trying to find her again. So she is obviously still "active" in my being even though I was the one that broke up with her months ago!

I obviously do miss her to some extent, and how we gradually stopped speaking, it was left with misunderstandings.

Unfortunately we were both on different paths though...

it is just weird that every girl I am comparing to her and things trigger me and the emotional aspect of missing her being comes back, which seems out of no where.

When I was speaking with and getting closer to a girl recently, I couldn't get my ex girlfriend out of my mind, as if I was still "with" her. As if I didn't want to cheat on my ex girlfriend... It has very strange and emotional aspects to it all.

What do you think? E2?, USLM3? Or DMSI 3.3?

Thanks for your help.