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RE: MLS 5.5 - Duke.Togo - 10-05-2017
(10-05-2017, 08:39 AM)Raikahoken Wrote: Hi Duke, firstly I want to thank you for your latest post. I have indeed been thinking about what kind of woman would suit me and what sexuality means to me, and your post was awesome. I have a question for you. I am almost finished with the story of O. How did reading the story of O, or all those other books, help you realise your sexuality? Did you find yourself desiring that kind of woman like O? Did you see yourself in the characters, maybe sir Stephen? What makes the story of O so special to you?
Hey Man, all great questions. I want to give you a great answer, but, what I say may fall short of your expectations. That being said...
I first learned of the story of O from reading the first few pages of the Dark Room. There was a quote from O in the book. I then stopped reading The Dark Room and instead opted to read O.
I was about 20 years old when I read it, and it did change many views about myself and understanding what sexuality meant to me.
As you read O, who do you think had the real power in the relationship; Sir Stephen for being the dominating one, or O for submissing to every one of Sir Stephen's whims?
Most would say the power was in Stephen's hands, but I think the power really rested with O. I say this because the journey was one that O took. Not Sir Stephen. He only participated as a character in her arc.
Throughout the process of her self discovery, she learned what her sexuality meant to her, and ultimately all the glories and fantasies of all the men there, were based on her whim. Their pleasures were dependent on her willingness to submit.
This ultimately is the dynamic that all men wrestle with throughout their lives. Women understand and use their sexuality. Men, being who we are, gravitate towards that sexuality. Rarely do we understand what that sexuality means for ourselves.
If I could make it as generalized as possible, women have used sexuality to enhance their power - think a Femme Fatale. Men, have used our strength, it's why being Alpha is so important for us. But, being Alpha does not translate to sexuality in the same way.
You may not agree with this next statement, but if there was one performer, who at his height embraced his sexuality, and always had it as a matter of fact throughout his career, it was Prince.
The guy was 5'5 tall, wasn't much of a looker, yet he made women soak themselves wet with desire. He understood something innately about himself that translated to how he interacted with the world around him.
I believe that all men have that same power, that same energy that we can channel. But, to enhance that energy, we have to embrace those parts of ourselves. I don't think that embrace is a natural thing for men. Mostly because, we identify with masculinity more than anything else.
The biggest thing that I think happens when you own your sexuality is you come to the knowledge that you will, to put it crudely, be the f*ck of a woman's life. That happens when you own your sexual frame with such ferocity that she has no choice but to adhere to it.
Let me tell you, when that happens, nothing is off-limits and the term raw sex takes on a new meaning.
I referenced some of this in my previous 3.1 journal, accessing that primal aspect of yourself. I think part of that primal aspect also conforms to the idea of realized inner sexuality.
I'm not sure if I answered your question completely, but I am grateful that both you and Plouf raised the question. The more I try to verbalize my thoughts, the clearer and more tangible the core of these feelings are becoming.
RE: MLS 5.5 - AlphaRomeo - 10-05-2017
^^
I don´t spend as much time on forum as I used to, but this has to be one of the best posts I have read in a long time, especially when it comes to male/female dynamics or sexuality. Reps given.
btw, Prince was one of my favorite performers in my teens, and at some point the most favorite. I always considered the guy charismatic and sexy as hell (coming from a straight man) but never gave it that much thought at the time as why so. Sad that he died not that long time ago. Saw The Story of O movie when I as in early teens and remember it being highly fascinating, but have never read the book. Thanks for the reminder...maybe I do read it in the near-ish future.
I´m also on MLS btw, started 3 days ago, so a lot to learn and do etc, hopefully finding time also for books like Story of O. Will be reading your journal from time to time. Also thinking to start my own, which would be my first journal despite the fact that I have run couple other IML subs before (DMSI recently).
RE: MLS 5.5 - Raikahoken - 10-06-2017
Thanks Duke. I guess gaining clarity on our sexuality is a gradual process. Thanks for pointing out that books can be a good source of clarity too. When I read the story of O, it's all very interesting, but I don't identify with those characters. I was never interested in BDSM or D/s play anyway. Maybe the other books you recommend will be more suitable for me. I guess people discover their sexuality from experiences over their lives, and it's true that so far what's given me the most clarity were encounters with various women. But accelerating this discovery of our sexuality from other sources (books, art, films etc) is very important as well. As you said, defining what we want is the most crucial first step. I'm recently drawn to movies from the 90s like Fight Club, American Beauty, Falling Down etc. Hope MLS will help me gain clarity as well!
Wish MLS continue to bring you clarity in your life too!
RE: MLS 5.5 - Benjamin - 10-07-2017
You just named 2 of my favourite movies
Falling Down was pretty good too, but the other 2 i've watched several times.