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RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - EvolvingPhoenix - 10-17-2019
(10-17-2019, 01:54 PM)Benjamin Wrote: I had something come up reading a few posts back that I had to bring up.
Referring to yourself as an 'incel' is something you really shouldn't be doing. It's a stupid bs term used by sjws to attack alot of men, and the people who actually identify by it and have forums and such are never the type of people you ever want to be associated to.
And the damage it does to yourself thinking in that way. It's not going to benefit you in any way.
You're just a virgin, and you can do something about that. Thinking of it in the other way will*****you up, especially if you are part of any group that 'identifies' as that. It refers to someone who has totally given up, and you haven't, you're still moving forwards.
My friend was a virgin until around 30. We met some girls one night, I seen the one I was talking to the next day and she said that after my friend said he was a virgin her friend found it hot and if she had the chance would have taken his virginity.
If the ***** concept of 'incel' existed back then and he instead said that. It would have been a big '***** no' because it entails something completely different.
You're right Benjamin. Lesson duly noted. I now choose to drop this label from my sense of identity. Thank you for that. I appreciate what you just told me. Thanks very much!
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - Benjamin - 10-17-2019
All good, glad you understood.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - EvolvingPhoenix - 10-18-2019
Day 7 of carpetbombing. Just waking up, tired as hell. That's not a good sign. Fuckin resistance. Bloom begins tomorrow. We'll see if anything noteworthy occurs.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - EvolvingPhoenix - 10-18-2019
Been using this for almost 2 months. It disappoints me I haven't made more progress. Still, I've made some. So that's good.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - Ale - 10-18-2019
Some progress is better than no progress! Always try to see the positive side of things my friend
Hang in there and be consistent, you will see your desired results eventually.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - EvolvingPhoenix - 10-18-2019
Thanks for the support, Ale. I AM doing better than I was before I started. I'm at least generally more positive, optimistic and ambitious. So that's an important internal change at least. Now to start actually MAKING MONEY nah'msayin?
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - Shannon - 10-18-2019
How about you first consider what an amazing fact it is that you were able to stonewall for most of that time, and recently the program has broken through your ability to do that? How about you consider that to stonewall a program like this requires an incredible amount of willpower and strength and energy, and for it to be able to make progress regardless means it's just a matter of time? How about you consider that change takes time, and that your conscious and subconscious selves are all part of the same YOU, so you should be kind, understanding and patient with yourself?
Gratitude and appreciation are vastly more powerful for achieving your goals in life than you would imagine.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - EvolvingPhoenix - 10-18-2019
(10-18-2019, 08:52 AM)Shannon Wrote: How about you first consider what an amazing fact it is that you were able to stonewall for most of that time, and recently the program has broken through your ability to do that? How about you consider that to stonewall a program like this requires an incredible amount of willpower and strength and energy, and for it to be able to make progress regardless means it's just a matter of time? How about you consider that change takes time, and that your conscious and subconscious selves are all part of the same YOU, so you should be kind, understanding and patient with yourself?
Gratitude and appreciation are vastly more powerful for achieving your goals in life than you would imagine.
Those are ALL good points Shannon. Thank you for sharing that.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - Paul1131 - 10-18-2019
(10-18-2019, 06:08 AM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote: Been using this for almost 2 months. It disappoints me I haven't made more progress. Still, I've made some. So that's good.
If you’d been making no progress before and now you are, you are kicking butt brother. We each go at our own pace. Celebrate what you’ve done, give yourself credit, and you’ll probably get more of it.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - EvolvingPhoenix - 10-19-2019
Day 1 of bloom. Got to sleep in today, so I'm feeling well rested. We'll see if I notice anything noteworthy today.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - EvolvingPhoenix - 10-19-2019
Another "down" day. Same old issues resurfacing. A sense of Oneitis over my exfriend. Feeling like I'll never find anybody as good. Thinking I might never find a way to reconcile. I keep telling myself "Never mind the past. It's all about the present, and I can create whatever present I want for myself" but I don't fully feel convinced of that. I've got a lot of healing to do and a lot of learning regarding manifestation techniques.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - Infinite - 10-19-2019
I don't know if this has already been said on your journal. Try to think about your future as you would like it to be. When thoughts about that girl come, put the brakes on and think about the future that you would like to have instead. I know it won't seem easy because your feelings are involved, but if you keep thinking about those thoughts then the feelings will continue. Instead of feeding the thoughts that are bringing you down, think about the future that you want to create for yourself. Instead of thinking that you might never find a way to reconcile, think about ways to actually reconcile. Thinking about a solution to the problem will help you to succeed in that area.
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - EvolvingPhoenix - 10-19-2019
(10-19-2019, 11:59 AM)Infinite Wrote: I don't know if this has already been said on your journal. Try to think about your future as you would like it to be. When thoughts about that girl come, put the brakes on and think about the future that you would like to have instead. I know it won't seem easy because your feelings are involved, but if you keep thinking about those thoughts then the feelings will continue. Instead of feeding the thoughts that are bringing you down, think about the future that you want to create for yourself. Instead of thinking that you might never find a way to reconcile, think about ways to actually reconcile. Thinking about a solution to the problem will help you to succeed in that area.
Thanks. I am wavering some days between being positive and thinking I can change things the way I want to and on other days feeling hopeless. Today, I've been feeling discouraged. But I'll find a way to turn it around, I'm sure! Thanks for the support
RE: EP UMS JOURNAL - Paul1131 - 10-19-2019
(10-19-2019, 12:25 PM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote:(10-19-2019, 11:59 AM)Infinite Wrote: I don't know if this has already been said on your journal. Try to think about your future as you would like it to be. When thoughts about that girl come, put the brakes on and think about the future that you would like to have instead. I know it won't seem easy because your feelings are involved, but if you keep thinking about those thoughts then the feelings will continue. Instead of feeding the thoughts that are bringing you down, think about the future that you want to create for yourself. Instead of thinking that you might never find a way to reconcile, think about ways to actually reconcile. Thinking about a solution to the problem will help you to succeed in that area.
Thanks. I am wavering some days between being positive and thinking I can change things the way I want to and on other days feeling hopeless. Today, I've been feeling discouraged. But I'll find a way to turn it around, I'm sure! Thanks for the support
Here’s something that helped me get through my oneitis. Make up a woman, don’t use anyone who actually exists. Fill in looks, personality, everything you can. Now for a while imagine yourself having a healthy relationship that makes you happy with her. Then do it again, but with a different imaginary woman. That gets you used to the idea that there are many possibilities out there for you, and that many of them could make you happy. I didn’t do any major formal meditation or visualization thing with that, I just daydreamed a little to sidetrack it when I thought of my ex. You can do that with friends or whatever too.