(05-29-2021, 01:47 AM)AriGold Wrote:

(05-29-2021, 01:38 AM)Benjamin Wrote: I see this in a different way.

I don't think you should completely rely on DRS to stop people from being an asshole to you, and personally I wouldn't want it to completely.. because it brings a perfect opportunity to learn to stand up for yourself.

I see this as it possibly bringing some of these situations to you so that you can learn to stand up for yourself, and most importantly deal with the fear around standing up for yourself because that's the core of the issue.

I completely agree with what Benjamin is saying. "Waiting for something to take care/protect you" is in my eyes a victim thinking. Taking care of my own well being is in my eyes the only way forward, to make decisions, show boundaries, stopping people or even shutting people out of your life that are not good for you. Surely you will sometimes make mistakes as we all do, sometimes you might go a little over the top, sometimes you might not be direct enough for others to understand it, but you will learn and grow in the process and become the master of your life.

Quote:I disagree. It would be like saying ‘Waiting for something to get rid of all your fears is victim thinking - you don’t want OF to get rid of all your fears so you can stand up for yourself.”