Sounds like you need "Life Tune Up" and "Love And Appreciate Yourself" too.
Keep using them. Stop expecting women to hit on you. Most women expect you to hit on them. They believe that hitting on a guy is improper, unless they are frenzied.
I can see that you're in the same hole than I was in when I got started. What you need to do is prioritize. Women come after self. Clear and build your self, and then worry about women. Especially if you are returning to a life you don't want soon. Once you have built yourself up properly, the women will happen automatically. Much more important is healing yourself, my friend. If I did it, you can do it.
Also, consider this. No man is an island. This usually means that we need others to succeed but if you consider this from a temporal (time-based) point of view, it also means that we can change our circumstances. Maybe you fit your definition of a loser in the past. Okay, but that doesn't mean it has to stay that way. You can, and should, strive to become a winner.
Also, remember that being a winner isn't all or nothing. You can be a winner without being the best there ever was, is, or can ever be. We all fall somewhere long the strata between the absolute best and the absolute worst. Sometimes when I am feeling down and hopeless, I consider how good I really have things. People tend to take the good things in their life for granted and focus on the negative too much. Where thoughts go, energy flows - and that is how we create our reality. That is why Ultra Success isn't just aimed at making you successful; it is literally working on making you
become success! When you become successful, you can still fail. If you
become success then no matter what life throws at you, you will eventually return to your natural state - success.
I am succeeding, because
I AM SUCCESS!
The only loser is the person who chooses to be a loser. If that is not the case for you, then do what it takes to change it - which you are doing.
Literally, then, by doing what you are doing, you have already proven that you cannot possibly be a loser, because you choose to be other that that - otherwise you would not be trying to make changes.
One foot in front of the other. A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. Just keep going.