(10-20-2015, 08:41 PM)Dzemoo Wrote: [ -> ]Shanon good explaination by the way,
Shanom i am afraid of commitment with a woman being in a relationship getting tamed and loosing power, i am also afraid of marriage, bonding long term and falling in love, i am using your women attraction subs for a while now 3 years (am, sm, wm) but i am only getting better in hooking up with girls and making superficial connections. The better i get and with the more women i sleep i trust them less and they trust me less, also my invest decreased a lot, i am not patient enough to build comfort with her or spending time to get to know her, so if i have something with a woman its mostly a experienced justifier type of girl, when what i really want is a romantic, denier type of girl. So i have two problems fear of commitment, and attracting the wrong type of girl
What is there to fear, if you have control of yourself and your life? If you don't want to get married - don't. If you don't want to be "tamed" - don't. If you choose not to lose power - don't. As an alpha, you won't have those fears because you won't let those things happen.
Now, bonding and falling in love, those are a little different. You're used to attracting idiots, flakes and manipulators because you're out doing the PUA thing. You think that all females are like that because that's all you find where you look and with what you're doing to pick them up. But that's not the case.
Quality females do exist. Trustworthy females. Worthwhile females. Valuable females. Loving females. Caring females. Females worth being in a long term relationship with. But until you stop with the PUA crap, you're unlikely to meet that kind of female because you're only looking for the wrong kind. And what's the wrong kind? Basically young, exceptionally attractive and shallow. They have a lot of options, and very rarely do they get called out on bad behavior. When they do, they usually just turn left and say, "Next," because they know some other guy will do whatever it takes to get between her thighs. They don't have to learn or grow up because guys let them get away with too much, instead of refusing to deal with her bullshit en mass.
To find quality females, you have to first understand that they exist, and second, understand that they will not respond to PUA crap. It is manipulative, and you reap what you sow. Start sowing the seeds of love, kindness, genuineness and trust and that's what you'll attract as a result. But you have to BE it, not just act it.
You want the ones who you don't find in clubs. You want the ones you don't find in bars. You want the ones who don't worry too much about fashion. You want the ones who are more mature. You want the ones who either wear no makeup, or wear it sparingly. You want the ones who have good self esteem, good self respect, and a good sense of self worth without being selfish, arrogant, etc.
Stop looking only for the "hotties". Most guys are interested only in "hotties" and they don't even realize that this is more because those females are a way to impress other guys and buy social status, than it is they are really attracted to such females. Every guy wants those females, and because of that they tend to be shallow, immature, one trick ponies who can be selfish, thoughtless and behave badly. The 7s and 8s are therefore a better goal; they're good looking, without usually being badly behaved.
Consider also that some of the chubby girls might be worth considering. They have to try harder to get and keep a man's interest, and they are therefore typically much more willing and eager to be well behaved, considerate, thoughtful, etc. They also tend to make better lovers, for that reason and for other reasons as well. In my life, I have only one woman who wasn't chubby who ranks in my top five best lovers. She happened to be my "perfect lover". The rest of the skinny or athletic or slender women were either just plain bad lovers, too skinny to have painless sex with or were users, cheaters, liars, etc. Not saying this is always the case, but it's common. Most guys overlook the best lovers and the best girlfriend/wife material because of this.
The ones who have a little meat on their bones? They also make great relationship material because they tend to have that extra meat on their bones because they have an emotional focus to their personalities. That means she wants an emotional connection with you, and that means she's interested in a relationship and a mutual exchange of genuine love and caring. You want a woman who will go out of her way to make you happy? Start looking at the ones who are a little less skinny. You don't have to get into overweight for this, either. Thick and/or voluptuous, curvy and soft-but-defined females are great picks.
I have had multiple times where I had a girlfriend who was thick, voluptuous or soft-but-defined and I would have them treat me like a king. Without asking for it or expecting it, I would frequently get foot massages, back massages, b js, frequent requests for sex, food cooked for me, and even have them clean my house and do laundry. You know what these women want in return? They want to know you really care and love them, and that their emotions are safe with you. They want a stable relationship. They want to know they can trust you. They want to know you're honest, and if you choose to be with only her, they want to know you're faithful. Treat her with decency, and she'll do wonders for you.
Now of course this is not to say that there are no good females who are hot, skinny, what have you. But they are the exception and not the rule. And that's not to say that all thicker chicks or 7/8's are like I described. But when you stop with being manipulative in trying to pick women up and start genuinely looking for someone who is worth more than just a fuck, you'll find they come to you naturally. The females you've experienced for the last while are reflections of what you are putting out there, and you are attracting what you are expecting and believing to be true. Change that, and you'll see a lot of difference.
I'd say you could use either another run of AM6 or EHPRA.
(joking)
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