I have a major issue that I need to work on in order to fully mature as a man.
I am very indecisive, both in my romantic life, but also in other areas of life.
I've been dating a woman for 3 months, she has many attractive qualities, we get along really well, sex is good, she is a beautiful woman. Physically, I find her attractive, she is probably not my ideal body type in a woman, but you can't always have it all, am I right? If you find a woman you get along really well, and see yourself having a future with her, then you can overlook that she doesn't have a perfect 10 body.
The problem is that I'm undecided whether to commit to her. The indecisiveness is killing me. Would I be happy to make her my wife? Maybe, maybe not. What if I get bored of her? What if I start desiring even hotter women? What if I make the wrong decision?
I've also been undecided in my previous relationship, so it's definitely a pattern and not an isolated case.
I am also terrified of hurting her, or women/ people in general. I'm afraid of breaking up with a woman, if I come to the conclusions that she is not the one.
I don't want to hurt her, but at the same time, being indecisive and not fully committed with my relationship with her, is hurting her. I've already hurt her once, I did the same with my ex.
I don't want to string her alone, and make her fall in love with me, when I am not sure if I want to stay with her for much longer.
So I guess I'm afraid of speaking the truth I feel within, I am very conflict avoidant., and I believe it might be rooted in trauma.
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Shannon If you could offer some perspective on this, I would highly appreciate. Would a future AM7 be able to heal and improve on this part for me?
Any advice you or others would have related to or outside of subliminals is welcomed.
How do I, as a man, learn to make better decisions, to trust my own judgement more?