Subliminal Talk - Rocks x4a-1000 Journal

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(03-13-2024, 01:36 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ][quote="Shannon" pid='263438' dateline='1710356460']
It means something when she remembers and starts using your name.

Here's a little tip for all you guys, if you didn't already know it.

Names are important to women. If you remember her name, and use it, she will feel like she is important to you enough that you remember her name. It makes her feel valued.

This is extremely important when you're dealing with servers, staff members and anyone you want to have a good relationship with. A small detail, but it matters.

I make a point of asking for a specific server, if s/he is available and when/where where that makes sense to do, and I use their name while we are interacting. Not all the time, and not rarely. But conversationally. Enough to make sure they know I know their name, and that I consider them a person, not just some random server to be ignored otherwise.

I choose to ask for servers who I know do a good job and who I get along with. This ensures that I always get better than average service, which is improved upon by me being pleasant with them and making their job easier by always ordering the same thing, so eventually they just remember it and it saves them some time and hassle. I also tip well when they do a good job, and when and where that makes sense, which is usually since they know and like me also as a result.

The result is that whenever I show up at a given restaurant, the entire staff usually recognizes me (because I am one of those rare customers who makes their job easy and serving me isn't a hassle) and they almost all like me. I get better service, and they have an easier time and save time because my order doesn't take much time. They have less stress and we usually have pleasant conversation. Over time, I have noted that doing this also results in two specific additional benefits:

1. I get special treatment that other customers don't get, and I am offered special options and deals. For example, one restaurant I go to offered me a "gold membership" a couple months ago. The owner himself offered this to me because we are regulars and among their most pleasant to serve customers. Only people who are regulars and who they like are even made aware that this exists, and offered a chance to buy in. A gold membership is $300, but it gets you 50% off all food orders there for life. I bought one for myself and one for my girlfriend, and now whenever we go there we eat for the price of one person, not two. We eat there on average maybe 1.5 times a week, so that times 52 means spending that $600 saves me about $1,404 per year, every year I stay in the area. Not a bad deal, and I would never have known it was even an option if I wasn't being polite and considerate as a customer. Furthermore, they only have a small number of these memberships, and once they're sold, they are gone. Not that this will happen at every place you go to, it's probably pretty rare, but the point is, being a good, polite, considerate customer gets you places.

2. The female servers tend to start forming relationships with us. There is one restaurant we go to where the lead server always serves us, and she considers us "her" customers. She will even pull rank to get us, and has been known to stay and serve us even though she's been cut already. She knows our order (even though mine is ridiculously complex and specific at that restaurant) and she will not tolerate mistakes from the kitchen staff. We have seen her actually yell at them when they got GF's eggs wrong twice in a row. She also spends more time with us than other customers, and seems to consider us family. And this isn't the only restaurant where this has happened. At another restaurant, we have three servers and a manager who do this, while at yet a different one, we have another four who do it, and two of the managers will go out of their way to talk to us there.

This latter point matters because if I wasn't taken, this would open me up to the option of dating at least four or five of these servers if I was so inclined, and some of them are definitely high quality wife material.

So consider things from the server's/staff's point of view: they're people just like you, and they have to deal with the public all the time. usually people who are crabby and impossible to please and don't tip well or treat them as people, never mind being nice. Be polite, considerate, thoughtful, bus your table, make their lives easier, be kind and where tipping is appropriate, tip well if they did a good job. It's not an overnight thing, but it comes back in spades.

@Shannon

I agree with all of this.

Tipping well when appropriate and treating the servers well has always been something I do.

Morgan and Maddy will bring my drink to me and make sure I'm having the usual before getting the food.

Morgan and Maddy are both exceptional servers.

I think Morgan has claimed me cus as I said Maddy hasn't been coming to my table and talking lately.

The other girls see me and get Morgan and tell her I'm there.

Morgan gives me discounts that I didn't know about and she'll Write water on the bill even though I always get coke.

Maddy, on the rare occasion she is my server, she fixes it where I pay very little.

It's good she is calling me by name. She just used it a lot today and She hadn't done that before that I can recall.

I wasn't sure what she was trying to convey she said my name so much.

She also kinda does some sorta opera singing sometimes when she bring me another coke.

She's definitely getting more comfortable with me.

Those are all signs they like you. Especially risking getting in trouble to give you discounts.

(03-14-2024, 10:33 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]Those are all signs they like you. Especially risking getting in trouble to give you discounts.

That's good.

I just need to wait for the opportunity to ask them to do something outside of their work.

Morgan does like movies and I thought of asking Morgan and Maddy if they'd like to meet me to see the new Ghostbusters movie.

I'm not sure on that.

I've been thinking lately about switching to Money Magnet.

I don't know if Im getting Pulled in that direction yet.

I've not really had trouble with girls it's just sometimes the ones I want to date just don't want to date me.

That's why I chose X4a 1000.

So in regards to the twins X4a 1511 would be more beneficial than Money Magnet 5.11 correct?

(03-15-2024, 07:26 AM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-14-2024, 10:33 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]Those are all signs they like you. Especially risking getting in trouble to give you discounts.

That's good.

I just need to wait for the opportunity to ask them to do something outside of their work.

Morgan does like movies and I thought of asking Morgan and Maddy if they'd like to meet me to see the new Ghostbusters movie.

I'm not sure on that.

I've been thinking lately about switching to Money Magnet.

I don't know if Im getting Pulled in that direction yet.

I've not really had trouble with girls it's just sometimes the ones I want to date just don't want to date me.

That's why I chose X4a 1000.

So in regards to the twins X4a 1511 would be more beneficial than Money Magnet 5.11 correct?

Well it's like this.

In the short run, X4A-1511 will help with that more than MM will because it's more direct and to the point. But in the long run - presuming you execute MM well - women almost always favor a man with more resources over one with less. And the most universal resource is money.

I have been using MM for a while now and I absolutely love it, but it's not just handing the results to me on a silver platter. It is however keeping me on track in a way that makes it very hard for the deeper subconscious parts of me that want to fight it to do so. They have to resort to making me forget to run it, or making me want to run something else instead. Neither of which works well.

You may not have as much resistance to becoming wealthy as I seem to have, since I am dealing with a very stubborn, very instinctual (as opposed to thinking), traumatized 1 or 2 year old version of me who is fighting me tooth and nail even after all the other versions of me with trauma have been dealt with and brought on board with the mission. But in any case, MM isn't a magic bullet, and it takes significant time to achieve it's goals. Several months, maybe multiple years. It's like walking up a mountain. Lots of steps, and sometimes you're going down instead of up, but eventually you get there if you persevere.

If you really want either of those girls (or maybe both of them), I'd be using something focused either on arousal (X4A is a good choice) or on self improvement. The only other way to the goal is to make yourself a better man, but that will also take significant time. That would include AM6, E6, OGSFv2, etc.

Given all that, I would at least give X4A-1511 a few months to see how it went, and then decide from there. Of course, you are your own man, and you will make the choices that are best for you.

(03-18-2024, 01:15 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-15-2024, 07:26 AM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]That's good.

I just need to wait for the opportunity to ask them to do something outside of their work.

Morgan does like movies and I thought of asking Morgan and Maddy if they'd like to meet me to see the new Ghostbusters movie.

I'm not sure on that.

I've been thinking lately about switching to Money Magnet.

I don't know if Im getting Pulled in that direction yet.

I've not really had trouble with girls it's just sometimes the ones I want to date just don't want to date me.

That's why I chose X4a 1000.

So in regards to the twins X4a 1511 would be more beneficial than Money Magnet 5.11 correct?

Well it's like this.

In the short run, X4A-1511 will help with that more than MM will because it's more direct and to the point. But in the long run - presuming you execute MM well - women almost always favor a man with more resources over one with less. And the most universal resource is money.

I have been using MM for a while now and I absolutely love it, but it's not just handing the results to me on a silver platter. It is however keeping me on track in a way that makes it very hard for the deeper subconscious parts of me that want to fight it to do so. They have to resort to making me forget to run it, or making me want to run something else instead. Neither of which works well.

You may not have as much resistance to becoming wealthy as I seem to have, since I am dealing with a very stubborn, very instinctual (as opposed to thinking), traumatized 1 or 2 year old version of me who is fighting me tooth and nail even after all the other versions of me with trauma have been dealt with and brought on board with the mission. But in any case, MM isn't a magic bullet, and it takes significant time to achieve it's goals. Several months, maybe multiple years. It's like walking up a mountain. Lots of steps, and sometimes you're going down instead of up, but eventually you get there if you persevere.

If you really want either of those girls (or maybe both of them), I'd be using something focused either on arousal (X4A is a good choice) or on self improvement. The only other way to the goal is to make yourself a better man, but that will also take significant time. That would include AM6, E6, OGSFv2, etc.

Given all that, I would at least give X4A-1511 a few months to see how it went, and then decide from there. Of course, you are your own man, and you will make the choices that are best for you.

X4a 1511 it is then lol

I've been on a break from x4a 1000 since the 5th of March so by my calculations that's 2 weeks.

Is it good to purchase and begin x4a 1511 now?

(03-19-2024, 02:43 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-18-2024, 01:15 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]Well it's like this.

In the short run, X4A-1511 will help with that more than MM will because it's more direct and to the point. But in the long run - presuming you execute MM well - women almost always favor a man with more resources over one with less. And the most universal resource is money.

I have been using MM for a while now and I absolutely love it, but it's not just handing the results to me on a silver platter. It is however keeping me on track in a way that makes it very hard for the deeper subconscious parts of me that want to fight it to do so. They have to resort to making me forget to run it, or making me want to run something else instead. Neither of which works well.

You may not have as much resistance to becoming wealthy as I seem to have, since I am dealing with a very stubborn, very instinctual (as opposed to thinking), traumatized 1 or 2 year old version of me who is fighting me tooth and nail even after all the other versions of me with trauma have been dealt with and brought on board with the mission. But in any case, MM isn't a magic bullet, and it takes significant time to achieve it's goals. Several months, maybe multiple years. It's like walking up a mountain. Lots of steps, and sometimes you're going down instead of up, but eventually you get there if you persevere.

If you really want either of those girls (or maybe both of them), I'd be using something focused either on arousal (X4A is a good choice) or on self improvement. The only other way to the goal is to make yourself a better man, but that will also take significant time. That would include AM6, E6, OGSFv2, etc.

Given all that, I would at least give X4A-1511 a few months to see how it went, and then decide from there. Of course, you are your own man, and you will make the choices that are best for you.

X4a 1511 it is then lol

I've been on a break from x4a 1000 since the 5th of March so by my calculations that's 2 weeks.

So I'm going to purchase x4a 1511 and begin tonight

Notice any difference in how they acted and treated you while you were off X4A-1000?

(03-20-2024, 06:41 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]Notice any difference in how they acted and treated you while you were off X4A-1000?

I haven't seen Maddy because my schedule changed and we have the same days off. So I only get to see Morgan on Wednesday now.

I did see Morgan today. Once I was seated by a different girl.

Morgan brought my drink and said Hey Rocky how are you. I replied. She told me she had a headache. I said you've not had coffee she said Yeah.

I asked to move tables and she said sure sit wherever you like.

I ordered and a different girl brought my food. Morgan followed up and asked how it looked and if I need anything. She got me Mayo off the bar and let me squeeze it on the sandwich.

She said it'd be on the bar if I want more.

She walked by several times and she checked on me.

I was feeling nausea cus of medicine. She must have noticed cus I had barely eaten. I told her was okay.

She brought the check and said Here ya go Rock ee.

Told me no rush. She came back a few minutes later and asked about more coke and I asked for one to go.

So she brought it and said enjoy. I think she's joking because it's from her it's really good. Idk.

So I get ready to go and I see her. She is hold shrimp baskets. She asked do you like shrimp. I said it's okay. I know you don't like it.

She agreed and I said are you able to ring me up. She said I can, give me a minute.

So I waited in line and she took over at the register and she asked how was everything and I said it was good and said I was on meds cus I hurt my foot and it caused nausea.

As I was writing in the time I asked is $500 tip okay. She laughed and said That’s never happened before.

She joked about making it $1000. I said That’s Maddy and she said What in a exaggerated high pitch.

Then she said you better be halfing that between us.

Then somehow she mentioned going on a cruise and I said she and Maddy should go with me to Ireland.

She kept talking as we both got further away from one another and I said cya. I think she did too.

The Ireland thing was just a throw away comment.

So any advice before I start x4a 1511?

(03-20-2024, 07:45 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-20-2024, 06:41 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]Notice any difference in how they acted and treated you while you were off X4A-1000?

I haven't seen Maddy because my schedule changed and we have the same days off. So I only get to see Morgan on Wednesday now.

I did see Morgan today. Once I was seated by a different girl.

Morgan brought my drink and said Hey Rocky how are you. I replied. She told me she had a headache. I said you've not had coffee she said Yeah.

I asked to move tables and she said sure sit wherever you like.

I ordered and a different girl brought my food. Morgan followed up and asked how it looked and if I need anything. She got me Mayo off the bar and let me squeeze it on the sandwich.

She said it'd be on the bar if I want more.

She walked by several times and she checked on me.

I was feeling nausea cus of medicine. She must have noticed cus I had barely eaten. I told her was okay.

She brought the check and said Here ya go Rock ee.

Told me no rush. She came back a few minutes later and asked about more coke and I asked for one to go.

So she brought it and said enjoy. I think she's joking because it's from her it's really good. Idk.

So I get ready to go and I see her. She is hold shrimp baskets. She asked do you like shrimp. I said it's okay. I know you don't like it.

She agreed and I said are you able to ring me up. She said I can, give me a minute.

So I waited in line and she took over at the register and she asked how was everything and I said it was good and said I was on meds cus I hurt my foot and it caused nausea.

As I was writing in the time I asked is $500 tip okay. She laughed and said That’s never happened before.

She joked about making it $1000. I said That’s Maddy and she said What in a exaggerated high pitch.

Then she said you better be halfing that between us.

Then somehow she mentioned going on a cruise and I said she and Maddy should go with me to Ireland.

She kept talking as we both got further away from one another and I said cya. I think she did too.

The Ireland thing was just a throw away comment.

I m starting x4a 1511

(03-20-2024, 07:45 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-20-2024, 06:41 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]Notice any difference in how they acted and treated you while you were off X4A-1000?

I haven't seen Maddy because my schedule changed and we have the same days off. So I only get to see Morgan on Wednesday now.

I did see Morgan today. Once I was seated by a different girl.

Morgan brought my drink and said Hey Rocky how are you. I replied. She told me she had a headache. I said you've not had coffee she said Yeah.

I asked to move tables and she said sure sit wherever you like.

I ordered and a different girl brought my food. Morgan followed up and asked how it looked and if I need anything. She got me Mayo off the bar and let me squeeze it on the sandwich.

She said it'd be on the bar if I want more.

She walked by several times and she checked on me.

I was feeling nausea cus of medicine. She must have noticed cus I had barely eaten. I told her was okay.

She brought the check and said Here ya go Rock ee.

Told me no rush. She came back a few minutes later and asked about more coke and I asked for one to go.

So she brought it and said enjoy. I think she's joking because it's from her it's really good. Idk.

So I get ready to go and I see her. She is hold shrimp baskets. She asked do you like shrimp. I said it's okay. I know you don't like it.

She agreed and I said are you able to ring me up. She said I can, give me a minute.

So I waited in line and she took over at the register and she asked how was everything and I said it was good and said I was on meds cus I hurt my foot and it caused nausea.

As I was writing in the time I asked is $500 tip okay. She laughed and said That’s never happened before.

She joked about making it $1000. I said That’s Maddy and she said What in a exaggerated high pitch.

Then she said you better be halfing that between us.

Then somehow she mentioned going on a cruise and I said she and Maddy should go with me to Ireland.

She kept talking as we both got further away from one another and I said cya. I think she did too.

The Ireland thing was just a throw away comment.

So any advice before I start x4a 1511?

I don't see anything in all of that that really matters. The only advice I can give you at this point is...

Identical twins have to share everything growing up. They may or may not be okay with sharing their man. Most likely not, and since there seems to be competition, I would say not.

So if I were in your shoes... I would pick one and stick to that one. The other may not like it, but you'll most likely get a lot further than if you don't.

And it would make sense that you'd pick the one who's not involved.

But you will know your situation better than me, so it's just a suggestion.

(03-22-2024, 06:32 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-20-2024, 07:45 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]I haven't seen Maddy because my schedule changed and we have the same days off. So I only get to see Morgan on Wednesday now.

I did see Morgan today. Once I was seated by a different girl.

Morgan brought my drink and said Hey Rocky how are you. I replied. She told me she had a headache. I said you've not had coffee she said Yeah.

I asked to move tables and she said sure sit wherever you like.

I ordered and a different girl brought my food. Morgan followed up and asked how it looked and if I need anything. She got me Mayo off the bar and let me squeeze it on the sandwich.

She said it'd be on the bar if I want more.

She walked by several times and she checked on me.

I was feeling nausea cus of medicine. She must have noticed cus I had barely eaten. I told her was okay.

She brought the check and said Here ya go Rock ee.

Told me no rush. She came back a few minutes later and asked about more coke and I asked for one to go.

So she brought it and said enjoy. I think she's joking because it's from her it's really good. Idk.

So I get ready to go and I see her. She is hold shrimp baskets. She asked do you like shrimp. I said it's okay. I know you don't like it.

She agreed and I said are you able to ring me up. She said I can, give me a minute.

So I waited in line and she took over at the register and she asked how was everything and I said it was good and said I was on meds cus I hurt my foot and it caused nausea.

As I was writing in the time I asked is $500 tip okay. She laughed and said That’s never happened before.

She joked about making it $1000. I said That’s Maddy and she said What in a exaggerated high pitch.

Then she said you better be halfing that between us.

Then somehow she mentioned going on a cruise and I said she and Maddy should go with me to Ireland.

She kept talking as we both got further away from one another and I said cya. I think she did too.

The Ireland thing was just a throw away comment.

So any advice before I start x4a 1511?

I don't see anything in all of that that really matters. The only advice I can give you at this point is...

Identical twins have to share everything growing up. They may or may not be okay with sharing their man. Most likely not, and since there seems to be competition, I would say not.

So if I were in your shoes... I would pick one and stick to that one. The other may not like it, but you'll most likely get a lot further than if you don't.

And it would make sense that you'd pick the one who's not involved.

But you will know your situation better than me, so it's just a suggestion.

I agree. Morgan is the one I'd really like to date. Being as Maddy has been Dating to same guy 4 years.

Tonight will be my second run of x4a 1511.

I will probably only see Morgan on Wednesdays and I hope x4a 1511 grabs her attention within the hour that I'm there.

(03-22-2024, 06:48 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-22-2024, 06:32 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]I don't see anything in all of that that really matters. The only advice I can give you at this point is...

Identical twins have to share everything growing up. They may or may not be okay with sharing their man. Most likely not, and since there seems to be competition, I would say not.

So if I were in your shoes... I would pick one and stick to that one. The other may not like it, but you'll most likely get a lot further than if you don't.

And it would make sense that you'd pick the one who's not involved.

But you will know your situation better than me, so it's just a suggestion.

I agree. Morgan is the one I'd really like to date. Being as Maddy has been Dating to same guy 4 years.

Tonight will be my second run of x4a 1511.

I will probably only see Morgan on Wednesdays and I hope x4a 1511 grabs her attention within the hour that I'm there.

1511 took some time to fully power up for me - about a week, maybe a little more. An hour should be fine for exposure. Also keep in mind that whether she responds or not, it is a woman's perogative (spellcheck says it's spelled 'prerogative'), given their physical design, to be able to entirely hide their response if they so choose. So if she does not feel like she has sufficient privacy to express her arousal or desires, she may not. Logistics matter, my friend.

(03-23-2024, 12:18 AM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-22-2024, 06:48 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]I agree. Morgan is the one I'd really like to date. Being as Maddy has been Dating to same guy 4 years.

Tonight will be my second run of x4a 1511.

I will probably only see Morgan on Wednesdays and I hope x4a 1511 grabs her attention within the hour that I'm there.

1511 took some time to fully power up for me - about a week, maybe a little more. An hour should be fine for exposure. Also keep in mind that whether she responds or not, it is a woman's perogative (spellcheck says it's spelled 'prerogative'), given their physical design, to be able to entirely hide their response if they so choose. So if she does not feel like she has sufficient privacy to express her arousal or desires, she may not. Logistics matter, my friend.

I was just thinking this morning that it may take a week to kick in.

I'll keep in mind that she may hide her response.

I'm hoping that during conversation Morgan will give an opportunity to ask her on a date.

I think she'll give me that opportunity but if she decides to hide her response then should I give it a week or two then ask her out?

Also I did x4a 1511 ultrasonic last night 1 hour and today before work I listened to X4A-1000 masked for 8 minutes and 54 seconds.

I accidentally deleted x4a 1000 ultrasonic from my phone and all I had left was masked open surf.

(03-23-2024, 12:55 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-23-2024, 12:18 AM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]1511 took some time to fully power up for me - about a week, maybe a little more. An hour should be fine for exposure. Also keep in mind that whether she responds or not, it is a woman's perogative (spellcheck says it's spelled 'prerogative'), given their physical design, to be able to entirely hide their response if they so choose. So if she does not feel like she has sufficient privacy to express her arousal or desires, she may not. Logistics matter, my friend.

I was just thinking this morning that it may take a week to kick in.

I'll keep in mind that she may hide her response.

I'm hoping that during conversation Morgan will give an opportunity to ask her on a date.

I think she'll give me that opportunity but if she decides to hide her response then should I give it a week or two then ask her out?

Also I did x4a 1511 ultrasonic last night 1 hour and today before work I listened to X4A-1000 masked for 8 minutes and 54 seconds.

I accidentally deleted x4a 1000 ultrasonic from my phone and all I had left was masked open surf.

Get rid of 1000. That kind of mistake is going to cost you.

Instead of waiting for her to give you an opportunity to ask her out, make one.

Instead of asking her on a date, which in my opinion you should NEVER do until she's already your steady girlfriend, I do something like this:

"I'm going to see a movie tonight. You're welcome to join me if you like. Since I invited, I'll cover it."

Now it doesn't have to be a movie, that's just to demonstrate what I'm talking about. What I did here was that I CASUALLY made a statement of fact: I am going to do X tonight. Then I CASUALLY welcome her to join me if she likes. Then (if there is a question of who pays for it) I must decide if I want her to know I am paying or say nothing. In most cases, I will say nothing if the activity is free or low cost, or make it known that since I am inviting, it is reasonable that I am paying. This kills any hesitation she may have about going because of cost, and also puts to bed the debate about who pays, when, why, yada yada because I am simply being polite by paying as a common courtesy since I invited her. So even hardcore feminists shouldn't have an issue with it.

This approach works beautifully for doing the following:

1. IF you do it properly -- that is, CASUALLY and NONCHALANTLY -- you are expressing that you wouldn't mind enjoying her company, without being needy or desperate. You're expressing interest, without using the D word (date), and suggesting an activity that you can do together that would be enjoyable as casual time spent together, but which could become more if everything feels right.
2. You're opening a door for her to step through instead of waiting for her to do the door opening. A man should never wait for her to open that door - audaces fortuna juvat. As a man, you should decide what you want, go after it and get it. My opinion, of course, but women will respond well to this approach if you do it right.
3. You're not asking her. You are going to go do this with or without her, and you're going to have a good time either way. But it would be fun if she came along and enjoyed it with you. This way, she cannot reject you; she can only choose not to go have fun with you, which you will be having with or without her.

One of my cardinal rules is this:

NEVER, EVER, EVER, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE,S EVER, EVER, EVER, ASK ANY WOMAN ON A DATE, EVER, NO MATTER WHAT, EVER.

I don't care what she looks like, how much I like her, how sweet that body is, how attracted or aroused I am by her, how much money she has, how much status she has, or anything else. Asking a woman on a date always, ALWAYS has a critical deadly flaw which sinks a man's boat 99.9999+% of the time before he ever finishes the sentence in which he asks her out: he uses a key trigger word, "date".

This word has come to have a LOT of baggage. You say that word, and her whole world view shifts instantly because it sets off a cascade of if-then statements in her subconscious which ALWAYS result in a specific set of expectations, and those expectations are ALWAYS unreasonable in this day and age. Now she expects you to do certain things, say certain things, not do and say certain things, and you've also entered an impossible trap. No matter what you do on a date, she can ALWAYS find some reason to get upset by what you did and be offended, upset, etc. etc. Furthermore, "date" isn't a date anymore, it's a job interview, and most women are only interested in what they can get out of you. You say "date", and if she accepts, she will almost always ask you the following things on a date:

"What do you do for a living? How much money do you make?"

If you're asking her out because you want a relationship, this isn't going to result in it. This is why dating apps don't work anymore. This is why so many men are choosing to "go their own way" and ignore women entirely. I'm not advocating for MGTOW or against it, here, just making a statement.

If you want to get into a relationship with her, then you want to get to know her and let her get to know you, without ridiculous artificial expectations. Society, and ESPECIALLY social media, has trained multiple generations of women now that there should be endless and ridiculous hoops for a man to jump through if a "date" is involved.

BUT!

If you're just going to walk on the beach in the afternoon, and maybe take your dog, and she wanted to join, well, no expectations there. No pressure to wear the right clothes or do anything in particular or make a lot of money or be a certain age or whatever else. No pressure to kiss her or fuck her or for her to kiss or fuck you. Nobody has to pay, because the activity can be absolutely free. And if it's not, then you invited so you state ahead of time that you're covering it as a result of being the one who invited.

I have managed to get myself into multiple relationships this way. Everything from getting together to walk our dogs to playing games of D&D to kayaking together to attending drum circles to walks on the beach to doing photo shoots together to walks in the woods and more. In every case, it worked because we managed to get together for the purpose of having fun, not "going on a date". We had fun, and there were NO EXPECTATIONS from either side. We got to know each other, and when we were compatible, I had them say things to me like, "Why haven't you kissed me yet?", "Wanna come over? I'm alone.", "Can we go back to your house?" and in one case, having her simply put my hand down her pants and into her (very wet) underwear.

It doesn't happen with every woman. It doesn't always get that forward. It doesn't always end in sex. And it doesn't happen after just one get together. But once she gets to know you and feel comfortable with you, and sees that you have no expectations, but you just want to have fun and enjoy her company while she also has fun, and she starts associating having fun with you... well... a lot of times, compatible women will just naturally start to bond with you, and a relationship starts without them even realizing it at first.

Whenever I have "gone on a date", I have had the woman get upset with me over some expectation she had. I didn't dress up enough. I didn't open the door for her, or pull out her chair. (You earn that kind of treatment from me first, woman.) I didn't order for her. I didn't pay for her. I did pay for her. I suggested going Dutch and we pay for ourselves. I didn't compliment her hair. And on and on and on. Only one date I ever went on resulted in a relationship, and he was someone I had already dated 13 years before.

So not to terrify you here, just trying to make a suggestion and show you how I do it.

EDIT: Almost forgot, if she's got prior plans, no biggie. Let it go, and go do that thing anyway. Then you have stories for her of how much fun you had. Then try again a week or two later, and compensate by giving her the option of more time to have an open calendar.

The key is, NO expectations, NO neediness, and NO issues if she can't or won't.

Believe it or not, this is now I got my GF to date me, and we have been together almost 7 years now.

Also, if there's enough age difference that you can't find common ground, you can find some way to be helpful to her. I was in that position, so I taught her how to drive. (Everyone who should have taught her to drive somehow shirked their responsibility, so she was very much wanting to learn to drive when I first met her.) Took several sessions, she got to know me, and then she was comfortable going to the beach with me, where we had fun walking on the beach together.

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