(05-29-2021, 01:47 AM)AriGold Wrote: [ -> ] (05-29-2021, 01:38 AM)Benjamin Wrote: [ -> ]I see this in a different way.
I don't think you should completely rely on DRS to stop people from being an asshole to you, and personally I wouldn't want it to completely.. because it brings a perfect opportunity to learn to stand up for yourself.
I see this as it possibly bringing some of these situations to you so that you can learn to stand up for yourself, and most importantly deal with the fear around standing up for yourself because that's the core of the issue.
I completely agree with what Benjamin is saying. "Waiting for something to take care/protect you" is in my eyes a victim thinking. Taking care of my own well being is in my eyes the only way forward, to make decisions, show boundaries, stopping people or even shutting people out of your life that are not good for you. Surely you will sometimes make mistakes as we all do, sometimes you might go a little over the top, sometimes you might not be direct enough for others to understand it, but you will learn and grow in the process and become the master of your life.
I disagree. It would be like saying ‘Waiting for something to get rid of all your fears is victim thinking - you don’t want OF to get rid of all your fears so you can stand up for yourself.” A program has a goal and ideally it should achieve that goal in full. If that’s not possible, you’re on your own of course, but if it is possible, I do want the program to do everything I paid for
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Quote:I disagree. It would be like saying ‘Waiting for something to get rid of all your fears is victim thinking - you don’t want OF to get rid of all your fears so you can stand up for yourself.”
I think you may have really misinterpreted, as your comparision doesn't make sense to me.
Say you start to rely on DRS to stop anyone having a go at you, criticizing you or anything and then you stop and suddenly they start doing so and you haven't developed the ability to stand up for yourself.
There's inevitably going to be people who get offended, in fact people get offended by all kinds of stupid shit now and personally I want to learn to stand up to that and act and express myself despite of that so I can build the skillset, ability and assertiveness to do so. If i'm completely relying on DRS to just stop it then i'm not doing so and say if I then do something without DRS I won't be able to do so.
Plus I see part of overcoming a fear of conflict for example as actually dealing with conflict, and realizing that it's okay and that you can handle it and then move on which is why I see it as possibly the program bringing those situations up to do so.
Restarting my OF v3 journey again after 3 years hiatus.
Day 1 ~ 1 Loop US
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My broken teeth suddenly hurt (so much) after running 1 loop OF and suddenly, my head is experiencing intense headache. Not a coincidence.
EDIT : Painkiller is solution. I take 1 pill and everything is alright. Reducing a lot my headache and the part of my gum that hurts.
Day 2 ~ 3 Loop US
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It seems like everything is going smoothly now. It feels very different from when I did this 3 years ago. Maybe because I'm getting older, I'm becoming wiser—the feeling of "holding onto the fear of letting go of fear, because fear is safe" has drastically diminished.
Take day off tomorrow if autoconfig doesnt influence me to listen this awesome sub
