09-11-2017, 10:15 AM
(This post was last modified: 09-11-2017, 10:54 AM by dissonance.)
(09-11-2017, 09:15 AM)Arsenic Wrote: Quite a few possibilities really. Some girls will text lol because they enjoy talking to you and don't know what to say because they're embarrassed from feeling flirty or the sorts. To determine if that's the case, I usually say "Lol a talkative one arentcha" but thats just me. Lots of times I get the "omg im so sorry i'm such an awkward person hahaha" text back which means theyre interested but really don't know how to respond. If she responds lol to your first text (youre a talkative one arentcha), then say "alrighty then, nice chat haha, I'll talk to you later." But... I can be somewhat of an assertive, playful, asshole at times and I don't put females on a pedestal, so, thats my approach. To me, if they're being weird and cant hold a conversation or they are not interested then they're wasting my time, because I'm generally a busy dude. Why waste time with someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Maybe they're just in a weird mood and can't conversate... ok it happens. End the conversation and talk to her another time. Or, better yet, let her talk to you first.
Also - You can and should end a conversation. This sets the stage that she's chasing you. Ok so this gets into game and stuff but basically no, you're not trying to be a total asshole and you shouldn't, but essentially by ending the conversation it establishes that youre a busy, important guy (which you should be) and as such you cant always sit down and text. Also this keeps the conversation from getting stale. You go do other things before the conversation drops off and it allows your next interaction to be more positive.
Its been 2 days now. You start up a conversation. "Hey did you hear about xyz and the blah blah it was so cool / whats up with you" and she short answers you. Her: "Yeah. lol" You: "Yeah it was crazy. good stuff. insert next topic here." her: "haha yeahhh" you: "Lol not a morning person are ya. Get some coffee in ya and I'll talk to you later - I have to run!" You are not obligated to say what youre about to go do. You're busy and you have shit to do, simple as that.
To add to this more - you're calling her out. In a nice way. You're pointing out the elephant in the room. The elephant is that she's being weird... and, you're about to be the weird one if you don't acknowledge that she's being weird, because trying to make something work and ignoring the elephant is in fact weird. It took me awhile to realize this. But the other thing to keep in mind, is you should generally assume everything (you and her, the interaction) is cool. You don't want to be that guy who asks her a million questions and worries. "omg was it something I said? did I insult you? Why are you ignoring me? ARE you ignoring me?? omg I like you so much youre really cute" Don't ever say any of that crap. Or I will come through this screen and slap you.
Happy to help. We can talk dynamics and such.
I sent her a screenshot of some reviews for the movie "it" a full day before this first screenshot's time. Also, she doesn't have notifications on for this app, so she doesn't get notified when people msg her.
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...(as in saw the movie "it")