02-19-2011, 10:24 PM
Felt like writing some things down that are in my mind right now. I've realized in the past I used to think expressing anger was wrong and being assertive was wrong. I think a lot of this came from my father and how he yelled a lot when I was a kid and expressed a lot of anger. I think I might have internalized that anger was wrong and made you a bad person. I feel like kids at a young age make very simple but powerful associations that affect their behavior.
I am a very peaceful person in general, it takes a lot to make me angry, but I'm learning from this sub that anger has it's place as well. I'm not talking about huge shouting anger, more like that feeling of anger and expressing it in a way that is actually productive. In a perfect world I would like to believe that being kind to everyone would result in other's passing it on, but I've come to realize that some people really do need to be taught a lesson and be told how they have crossed the line. Some people even do it unconsciously, so it's like making them aware of their unacceptable behavior. The important thing is to do it from a position of maturity and being coolheaded about it.
In the past I guess I never really had much self esteem, which made me not care about people disrespecting me. But now I expect respect from people and if they get out of line I let them know it. It's like I'm learning all these mini life lessons I missed when growing up and the pieces of the puzzle are slowly coming together to give me the big picture.
I am a very peaceful person in general, it takes a lot to make me angry, but I'm learning from this sub that anger has it's place as well. I'm not talking about huge shouting anger, more like that feeling of anger and expressing it in a way that is actually productive. In a perfect world I would like to believe that being kind to everyone would result in other's passing it on, but I've come to realize that some people really do need to be taught a lesson and be told how they have crossed the line. Some people even do it unconsciously, so it's like making them aware of their unacceptable behavior. The important thing is to do it from a position of maturity and being coolheaded about it.
In the past I guess I never really had much self esteem, which made me not care about people disrespecting me. But now I expect respect from people and if they get out of line I let them know it. It's like I'm learning all these mini life lessons I missed when growing up and the pieces of the puzzle are slowly coming together to give me the big picture.
