Stage 3, day 24:
I start to be really indifferent about outcomes with women. For instance, tinder girl texted me yesterday afternoon. I know that conventional wisdom is to wait a little bit before replying back. I did 2 things.
1. I just did remove messaging notifications from my phone. So it means, that I'm going to reply only when I think looking if I did receive new messages.
2. When I saw her reply, I wanted to reply back a bit later because I was busy but I didn't stop to push back the moment that I reply.
I ended up replying back only this morning.
Another interesting realization. PUA coaches teach a method called push/pull. I just realize that women do use it too. She tease me with the possibility of sex. I bite to the hook, then pull back the invitation. I suppose the idea is to set the frame where the target is now chasing.
It is the second time that this specific girl propose a date then the proposal is jeopardised by her periods that appears to come earlier than expected... or maybe not... she puts me on standby.
idk what is being a woman and how to manage periods but I find it a bit suspicious that this problem happens 2 times in a row and I wonder how is it that she waited the very last moment to invite me knowing that doing it now.. this problem could come...
That being said. This issue is something that is outside of my control. This type of situation, while under control, used to frustrate me... This time around... I feel nothing. It is total indifference... There is also no resentment for the apparent attempt to manipulate. It is simply the human and/or female nature. You have to accept how things are...
The text exchange went like this:
her: Saturday evening or Sunday evening
Me: Sunday
Her (this morning): You know I don't mind if we meet tonight or tomorrow
Me: Tomorrow is perfect for me.
Her: My periods may start earlier than expected this month. I'll update you tomorrow if we can meet
I didn't reply back... Another option is that she did tried to put pressure on me to finally make me change my mind and accept to see her tonight...
This feel really Alpha. I made my mind.. and no matter what she throws at me. I don't flinch.
The funny thing is that I have been in similar situation before. I didn't react exactly the same way and I ended up losing her interest. I was demonstrating more empathy. Saying stuff like: no worries. I understand and such...
Now, I'm just 100% indifferent and non-reactive... I just don't care about the outcome... I'll report back how things go.... but I suspect that my current hard to get behavior is probably spiking her interest even more into me....
My behavioral changes which are effortless btw, are very interesting to observe... very very interesting... I really enjoy SM3 a lot....
As a final side note... I'm very eager to to see the new DMSI version released... Not that I'm eager to try it myself. I'm still commited to SM3 for another 3 months but it seems like the only active journals are either for LTU and UMS... I'm sure the journey of these participants is awesome as well but I would enjoy more reading stories/challenges/changes from others that are similar to what I currently experience.... Some variety would be good for the reading pleasure of all....
I start to be really indifferent about outcomes with women. For instance, tinder girl texted me yesterday afternoon. I know that conventional wisdom is to wait a little bit before replying back. I did 2 things.
1. I just did remove messaging notifications from my phone. So it means, that I'm going to reply only when I think looking if I did receive new messages.
2. When I saw her reply, I wanted to reply back a bit later because I was busy but I didn't stop to push back the moment that I reply.
I ended up replying back only this morning.
Another interesting realization. PUA coaches teach a method called push/pull. I just realize that women do use it too. She tease me with the possibility of sex. I bite to the hook, then pull back the invitation. I suppose the idea is to set the frame where the target is now chasing.
It is the second time that this specific girl propose a date then the proposal is jeopardised by her periods that appears to come earlier than expected... or maybe not... she puts me on standby.
idk what is being a woman and how to manage periods but I find it a bit suspicious that this problem happens 2 times in a row and I wonder how is it that she waited the very last moment to invite me knowing that doing it now.. this problem could come...
That being said. This issue is something that is outside of my control. This type of situation, while under control, used to frustrate me... This time around... I feel nothing. It is total indifference... There is also no resentment for the apparent attempt to manipulate. It is simply the human and/or female nature. You have to accept how things are...
The text exchange went like this:
her: Saturday evening or Sunday evening
Me: Sunday
Her (this morning): You know I don't mind if we meet tonight or tomorrow
Me: Tomorrow is perfect for me.
Her: My periods may start earlier than expected this month. I'll update you tomorrow if we can meet
I didn't reply back... Another option is that she did tried to put pressure on me to finally make me change my mind and accept to see her tonight...
This feel really Alpha. I made my mind.. and no matter what she throws at me. I don't flinch.
The funny thing is that I have been in similar situation before. I didn't react exactly the same way and I ended up losing her interest. I was demonstrating more empathy. Saying stuff like: no worries. I understand and such...
Now, I'm just 100% indifferent and non-reactive... I just don't care about the outcome... I'll report back how things go.... but I suspect that my current hard to get behavior is probably spiking her interest even more into me....
My behavioral changes which are effortless btw, are very interesting to observe... very very interesting... I really enjoy SM3 a lot....
As a final side note... I'm very eager to to see the new DMSI version released... Not that I'm eager to try it myself. I'm still commited to SM3 for another 3 months but it seems like the only active journals are either for LTU and UMS... I'm sure the journey of these participants is awesome as well but I would enjoy more reading stories/challenges/changes from others that are similar to what I currently experience.... Some variety would be good for the reading pleasure of all....
