Stage 1, Day 10:
While I was doing AM6 program I did stumble into Mode One book from Alan Roger Currie. Upon my first reading, I thought that I was operating under Mode Two which is you end up expressing your interest but you beat around the bush a lot. I was saying that because when I'm feeling it, I like to flirt with women while being avoiding to directly expressing my sexual interest. The rational that I was providing myself for doing so was: Well, 95% of all communication is non-verbal so I'm going allow myself to feel my sexual feelings while I am conversing normally with the woman and my state should transfer to her and something will happen magically. Actually, this is the promise of DMSI. If she is very attracted, things will happen by themselves.
I think that I was fooling myself by providing my conscious mind a justification for not being direct about my desires!
I have just completed his other book 'Ooooh say it again' which discuss mostly how to use Mode One in a seduction context. This is very inspiring book, BTW. In it, he returns back on the various modes and provide the following clarification about Mode 3. Mode 3 has 3 sub-categories: a) You feel so much fear of rejection to express your interest that you don't approach women at all. b) You talk a lot to women but limit the topics to 'small-talk' kind of things. And never express your interest. c) You lie about your true interests by saying that you are interested in a platonic friendship.
On first Mode One book, there wasn't that Mode 3 sub-categorization (as far as I remember) and because I don't mislead women about my true intent, I did figured that I wasn't Mode 3.
but I do a lot of small talk without expressing my interest.
I started to follow him on YT and there is a video where he explains that there is 3 flavor of Mode 1.
Hardcore: Within 2 minutes, you are going to say that you want to have sex and you are going to use explicit language
Normal: Within 5 to 10 minutes, you are going to express your sexual interest again with explicit language but maybe less hardcore than hardcore mode
1.5: You are straightforward about your intent but you do it properly by using PG-rated language (like I did with the massage therapist)
So, if I want to make an honest assessment of how I used to behave, I would say that I was Mode 2.5.
In my last week experiences, when I have the strong intent to open women to express them my interest, I have a hard time doing it (that is mode 3). I said that I have no issue talking about anything with women as long as it is small-talk only (That is mode 3) and sometimes (when I feel cocky, I guess), if I'm seeing IOIs from a girl, I will give myself permission to flirt with her (IOW, beat around the bush Aka: Mode 2).
I think that it is important to make honest assessment of where you are when you are trying to change your behavior. You cannot change much if you are in denial about what you currently do...
BTW, if SM3 ever gets updated, suggested reading could include ARC books and 'Oooooh say it again' in particular and if the program itself gets tweaked, I think it could be an improvement to integrate some ideas from ARC philosophy. Being direct about your desires is certainly the most honest, alpha and ethical method (possibly the most efficient one too) out there to be a successful polyamorous seducer.
Actually, I think that I have stumbled into some great idea.
AM: Embed honest and straightforward Mode One communication (Must be some of it already in current version) (Mode One isn't about seduction per say. Only honest communication)
SM3: Erotic seductive Mode One communication from his book 'Oooooh... say that again'. (Mode One communication used for seduction purpose)
Again some of the ARC ideas must already be inside IML AM/SM programs but I really think that ARC books are great references containing ideas that has possibly the potential to make 2 programs even better...
While I was doing AM6 program I did stumble into Mode One book from Alan Roger Currie. Upon my first reading, I thought that I was operating under Mode Two which is you end up expressing your interest but you beat around the bush a lot. I was saying that because when I'm feeling it, I like to flirt with women while being avoiding to directly expressing my sexual interest. The rational that I was providing myself for doing so was: Well, 95% of all communication is non-verbal so I'm going allow myself to feel my sexual feelings while I am conversing normally with the woman and my state should transfer to her and something will happen magically. Actually, this is the promise of DMSI. If she is very attracted, things will happen by themselves.
I think that I was fooling myself by providing my conscious mind a justification for not being direct about my desires!
I have just completed his other book 'Ooooh say it again' which discuss mostly how to use Mode One in a seduction context. This is very inspiring book, BTW. In it, he returns back on the various modes and provide the following clarification about Mode 3. Mode 3 has 3 sub-categories: a) You feel so much fear of rejection to express your interest that you don't approach women at all. b) You talk a lot to women but limit the topics to 'small-talk' kind of things. And never express your interest. c) You lie about your true interests by saying that you are interested in a platonic friendship.
On first Mode One book, there wasn't that Mode 3 sub-categorization (as far as I remember) and because I don't mislead women about my true intent, I did figured that I wasn't Mode 3.
but I do a lot of small talk without expressing my interest.
I started to follow him on YT and there is a video where he explains that there is 3 flavor of Mode 1.
Hardcore: Within 2 minutes, you are going to say that you want to have sex and you are going to use explicit language
Normal: Within 5 to 10 minutes, you are going to express your sexual interest again with explicit language but maybe less hardcore than hardcore mode
1.5: You are straightforward about your intent but you do it properly by using PG-rated language (like I did with the massage therapist)
So, if I want to make an honest assessment of how I used to behave, I would say that I was Mode 2.5.
In my last week experiences, when I have the strong intent to open women to express them my interest, I have a hard time doing it (that is mode 3). I said that I have no issue talking about anything with women as long as it is small-talk only (That is mode 3) and sometimes (when I feel cocky, I guess), if I'm seeing IOIs from a girl, I will give myself permission to flirt with her (IOW, beat around the bush Aka: Mode 2).
I think that it is important to make honest assessment of where you are when you are trying to change your behavior. You cannot change much if you are in denial about what you currently do...
BTW, if SM3 ever gets updated, suggested reading could include ARC books and 'Oooooh say it again' in particular and if the program itself gets tweaked, I think it could be an improvement to integrate some ideas from ARC philosophy. Being direct about your desires is certainly the most honest, alpha and ethical method (possibly the most efficient one too) out there to be a successful polyamorous seducer.
Actually, I think that I have stumbled into some great idea.
AM: Embed honest and straightforward Mode One communication (Must be some of it already in current version) (Mode One isn't about seduction per say. Only honest communication)
SM3: Erotic seductive Mode One communication from his book 'Oooooh... say that again'. (Mode One communication used for seduction purpose)
Again some of the ARC ideas must already be inside IML AM/SM programs but I really think that ARC books are great references containing ideas that has possibly the potential to make 2 programs even better...
