06-05-2019, 01:36 AM
I despise the PUA idea of daygaming which consist of wandering around for the sole purpose to hit on women in public place.
OTOH, I need to get out home and meet people if I want something to happen and it is so easy to stay home given that I work from home. So the compromise that I have found and with which I'm comfortable with considering my beliefs is to find something that I like to do and open women that cross my path during my activity.
So today, I wanted to cycle to a nearby park and meet at least 3 new women. And no, I haven't been able to do that. For my defense, the conditions weren't very good:
- It was a week day
- It was cold and cloudy
- If some people go at the park at lunch time, it was too late to meet them
So basically, the park was empty. I'm pretty sure that I would have succeeded my challenge with a more target-rich environment. I had to kick start some social momentum that I didn't have while outside.
But still on my way, I have seen maybe 5-6 women and I didn't stop to meet them for any reason such as:
- Too young
- Too old
- Not attractive enough
- She is busy and I'll disturb her
- So on
This made me realize something:
I'm very social and relaxed for opening and interacting with women as long as I have a reason for interacting with them. Staff in a store or she is at the same social gathering than me. I'm also very good to use situational openers.
The only reason for which I am not comfortable to open women is when the only reason that I would have to open them is that I want to have sex with them.
At the gym later in the afternoon, I have met the small brunette in my class and another hot girl. The vibe was definitely not the same than yesterday. She was more distant than yesterday (or maybe it was me that wasn't in the same mood). I feel like I am beating too much around the bush and by pulling the trigger more directly to push things forward would be helpful to make things clear. Yes, she wants the same thing that I want or no she don't and I stop flirting with her.
OTOH, I need to get out home and meet people if I want something to happen and it is so easy to stay home given that I work from home. So the compromise that I have found and with which I'm comfortable with considering my beliefs is to find something that I like to do and open women that cross my path during my activity.
So today, I wanted to cycle to a nearby park and meet at least 3 new women. And no, I haven't been able to do that. For my defense, the conditions weren't very good:
- It was a week day
- It was cold and cloudy
- If some people go at the park at lunch time, it was too late to meet them
So basically, the park was empty. I'm pretty sure that I would have succeeded my challenge with a more target-rich environment. I had to kick start some social momentum that I didn't have while outside.
But still on my way, I have seen maybe 5-6 women and I didn't stop to meet them for any reason such as:
- Too young
- Too old
- Not attractive enough
- She is busy and I'll disturb her
- So on
This made me realize something:
I'm very social and relaxed for opening and interacting with women as long as I have a reason for interacting with them. Staff in a store or she is at the same social gathering than me. I'm also very good to use situational openers.
The only reason for which I am not comfortable to open women is when the only reason that I would have to open them is that I want to have sex with them.
At the gym later in the afternoon, I have met the small brunette in my class and another hot girl. The vibe was definitely not the same than yesterday. She was more distant than yesterday (or maybe it was me that wasn't in the same mood). I feel like I am beating too much around the bush and by pulling the trigger more directly to push things forward would be helpful to make things clear. Yes, she wants the same thing that I want or no she don't and I stop flirting with her.
