(07-09-2012, 11:06 PM)SantaRich Wrote:(07-09-2012, 08:48 PM)benjamin Wrote: I'd rather get the girls I really want and not the ones just for social proof. But it is an effect so I reackon something about letting go of caring about social proof and going for who YOU want is much more important.
Exactly my thought. But then again if she is with others you really need to run some game, which is why I actually like the Mystery Method, made me realize that most women when out are in groups and it has a structure in meeting, getting the girl comfortable, and then seducing her while in a group. If she is with others and you just go up, talk to her, and forget about the group you will probably make her uncomfortable, no matter how much she may like you. So I can see where social proofing has it's place, but to some extent it is also about ego feeding, which when taken to that extent does nobody any good.
Just my two cents.
Not true. Mystery Method is all about cold approaching, which means you have no interest generated yet. Even Mystery today is more natural and has women already into him before he even goes up to them. Makes it so there is no game to play. If there is a group of girls, you can surely get her easily it's a matter of 1) are you confident enough approaching a large group of people/girls? 2) can you converse with multiple people? or 3) can you be patient until she is alone or get her away? If she is into you, she'll make it possible to where you two can be alone. Trust me.
Not that it is a game but I like how Cory analyzed it all. When you feel a connection you start to gravitate towards each other, even if you are in a group.
I think the whole propose behind WM is to become a type of guy that loves and appreciates all women. Sure, you may not be interested in romance with her but with this mindset it's more-so the "I make all women feel good" mentality. It's not so much about the social proof as it is just feeling comfortable and happy when you are around women, because you click very well. Which is another reason why many women will be comfortable around you and multiples hanging with you at a time. I'm like their gay best friend that they want to have sex with and love
They typically will not feel threatened by you whatsoever, you are the exception. It's an entirely different thing that any PUA will teach you. I can be a 'nice guy' and still get the girls.And that leads to another idea:
1-Removal of any thoughts towards feeling like women would be uncomfortable around you and know that they are not, in anyway threatened around you but rather appreciate and love it.
2-Removal of any thoughts that make you believe you have to approach, be clever or try hard to get the woman
3-Belief that love is 100% natural, attraction is natural and not forced. If there is a mutual interest it will happen anyways
4-Women are comfortable talking to me, opening up to me, and telling me anything they want
5-Multiple women enjoy being in your presence together
6-Women feel better with other women in your presence
7-Approach anxiety is non-existent because I have no agenda other than laughing, having fun, and conversing with strangers.
