04-09-2014, 08:18 AM
(04-08-2014, 08:53 PM)Shannon Wrote: So I'm selective, and my criteria are also different than most guys. I have learned the hard way that the more attractive a woman is, the less likely she is going to be worth the cost to have her. The more guys she attracts, the more likely she is to stray, lie, play head games, etc. I've had a lifetime's worth of being cheated on, head games, lied to and stabbed in the back, so I aim lower and choose women who are trustworthy and have qualities that make them enjoyable to me instead of just worrying about if they're super hot. I've dated super hot, and it wasn't worth it to me.
Maybe at some point in the future, I'll try that again. But for the time being, I'm happy just enjoying a woman's company without constantly wondering who she's texting, what she's saying, whether or not she's lying to me, and if she's going to go do drugs, get drunk, and/or screw one or more guys while she's at it, behind my back. Been there, done that, not going back.
Shannon not to say you're wrong, but couldn't it just be a matter of limiting belief to feel that more attractive= more trouble? I mean sometimes less attractive women actually end up doing all those things as well. I know what you mean about not worrying about hotness, that only takes a woman so far. But I can't help but feel once an individual experiences all the cheating, lying, and manipulation it cements the belief further into one's mind. I mean if an individual grew up dating and enjoying the company of beautiful women without all the headaches then it seems more likely that's what he would attract in the future as well.
But then again I always have trouble determining when things are just the way they are, like accepting an ugly truth vs a reflection of your own internal beliefs. I don't know I guess I just like to see the best in people. And I've realized the media likes to depict attractive women as manipulative and troublesome at times. And with the whole PUA crap that spread a couple of years ago I feel like a lot of men have some really toxic ideas about women that get overgeneralized.
