(05-05-2020, 01:33 PM)RogueTwelve Wrote: Thanks for the words of encouragement, CatMan. I notice that when I relapse I tend to be stressed, or thinking about a girl I like, or thinking about fantasies I'd like to try. I guess I just need to catch myself more and be more self aware as it happens, and tell myself this isn't the way to deal with things.
Day 17 update: I relapsed without porn in the morning, have been clean since. Annoyed at myself though, but will resolve to do better tomorrow.
Don't be annoyed at yourself. You're still learning your triggers etc. It's expected to be awkward at the start. Just don't make the same mistake again and learn how your body goes through the process of this, adapt to prevent it, and you'll be okay.
When you feel those feelings pop up, do a pattern interrupt.
Go see a family member or somebody you live with. You aren't likely to engage in porn and masturbation in their presence, so that will keep you in line. That can distract you and get you to focus on enjoying their company.
If that won't work, especially now during this virus and depending on your living situation, then video call someone. That will achieve the same goal.
Basically, no matter what, make SURE you don't stay alone, and in that state, and you should be able to avoid the relapse. As being alone, and in that state, is prime time for the urge to strike as that's how both behaviours are done. Generally, when you're alone, and in a state pushing an urge.
If you do this, the urges get WAY easier to control after even a short period. Trust me on that. I don't even get them anymore. I got over the hump. And you can too!
