09-17-2010, 12:05 AM
I am voting for Overcome Guilt title.
Although many people would like to have us believe that guilt is necessary to keep people in check, I think that very belief comes from fear of others.
A person, who has his emotional and intellectual capabilities in check will easily discern what kind of consequences is his behavior creating without having to feel guilty.
And responsibility should belong to individual's hand.
If anything, in my own experience, guilt leads to two extremes:
a) constructing false nice personality based on the issue of guilt, in turn leading to trading one's power away and letting others step over you - in turn increasing guilt and feeling of worthlessness, creating a vicious circle.
b) paradoxically, becoming more aggressive because one feel himself unable to assert his needs and be satisfied with himself otherwise, again in turn leading to more guilt in the end.
Many aggressive people are paradoxically troubled by excessive guilt, which they are so fed up with that they decide - now I will not give a fuck, cause I wanna be free from all of this.
It is very, very common for people who have no criminal records, did no extraordinary evil, to feel incredibly guilty for no obvious reasons - guilty about their needs, their wants, their very existence. And they will not be able to tell you why, so it must be some kind of pattern adopted in one's childhood or infancy,perhaps through inappropriate parental punishments.
Although many people would like to have us believe that guilt is necessary to keep people in check, I think that very belief comes from fear of others.
A person, who has his emotional and intellectual capabilities in check will easily discern what kind of consequences is his behavior creating without having to feel guilty.
And responsibility should belong to individual's hand.
If anything, in my own experience, guilt leads to two extremes:
a) constructing false nice personality based on the issue of guilt, in turn leading to trading one's power away and letting others step over you - in turn increasing guilt and feeling of worthlessness, creating a vicious circle.
b) paradoxically, becoming more aggressive because one feel himself unable to assert his needs and be satisfied with himself otherwise, again in turn leading to more guilt in the end.
Many aggressive people are paradoxically troubled by excessive guilt, which they are so fed up with that they decide - now I will not give a fuck, cause I wanna be free from all of this.
It is very, very common for people who have no criminal records, did no extraordinary evil, to feel incredibly guilty for no obvious reasons - guilty about their needs, their wants, their very existence. And they will not be able to tell you why, so it must be some kind of pattern adopted in one's childhood or infancy,perhaps through inappropriate parental punishments.
