Stop Masturbating-4G

[Daredevil]

Don't worry so much about it. If you put too much importance into it, it will only make it harder. You have to get to a point where masturbating is no big deal.

I know what you're going through. When I was growing up I was lonely and depressed. I used masturbating as a way to make myself feel better about my shit life. I would do it everyday just to try to feel normal. I would try to be a good guy as much as I could and I wondered why no girl were interested in me, I wasn't popular and had almost no friends (yes I know it's lame, but it is what it is) . It's so hard to break when you associate it with something. It's a struggle when you're in withdrawal. You get headaches and cramps in your balls. And it's so difficult to be experiencing negative things and have to hold yourself back from masturbating.

Even now, I just got hit with some knowledge that is making me feel like shit right now. And the thought of going home and masturbating crossed my mind. But I've been through this situation before and honestly masturbating isn't as pleasurable as it used to be, and the mental brain fog that it causes isn't worth it.

I've been trying to quit for years, but I've only made progress in the last 2 years. When I do masturbate it's usually when I'm depressed and make a conscious decision to do it because I don't care. Honestly these days I am quite depressed and lonely these days, but the temptation is gone.

Now instead of looking for ways to medicate my pain and negative feelings, I try to improve myself so I don't feel them in the first place. Using subs, tapping, etc.

Sorry for taking up so much space in your journal, just wanted you to know that it's difficult but you're not alone.

I know buddy...Its just that I am sick of this .I have been listening to this sub for like 70 days and I have only seen changes in my thought pattern related to emotions (Guilt,shameand fear) but in terms of streaks ..not much. I am listening for like 16 hours daily...

I recently relapsed 8 times in 24 hours....I just broke my own 15 year old record

I really wish if someone would give me a time estimate like 4-5 months .....

If you try to use your will to not masturbate you will be sure to relapse in the next 3 years definitely. You need to find the root of WHY you masturbated in the first place and what was lacking in your life that you tried to compensate with masturbation. Then convince yourself you do not need that thing and kill the root. Another mistake men make is that they use Masturbation as a pain reliever and for when they feel bad. Not knowing that this is only going to contribute to the cycle of them feeling bad because of dophomane desensitization. Dophomane is responsible for making you feel good. Also fill your time with stuff with other stuff that will suck your mental energy and physical energy so at then end of the day you will not have the energy to fap like HIIT and Basketball pick up. I'm on day 6 going on to 7 and I don't think I'll have a relapse problem again.