05-23-2011, 05:14 PM
(05-23-2011, 02:32 PM)mat422 Wrote: Shannon, do you think anything currently being sold in the shop could help with my perfectionism? This is something that has plagued me for a while now. In a way it helps and sometimes it can be crippling to any progress I make in anything I do. I've got so many things I never progress in because I have trouble moving on and letting go. On top of that sometimes it takes the enjoyment out of what I do. When I get stuck in that all or nothing mentality I become too focused on being perfect and not just having fun with it.
I think it's important to push and challenge yourself, but sometimes it really isn't needed. I like to skateboard, just for fun and a hobby. I don't want to be famous or get sponsored, but I still have trouble just letting go and not taking it so serious. Even this post I read over about 20 times making sure it was ok. I just feel like letting go of perfectionism is so hard because if I did that I wouldn't be perfect. That actually doesn't make any sense, but that is the best way I can describe it. It's such an irrational problem and I can't figure it out, which is probably why it bugs me the most. My brain is going to explode trying to figure out why I'm like this.
I can't speak for subs or what Shannon may suggest to help you, but for me i just realized that your greatest judge is yourself. You want it perfect because you could be judged for it being off, not right, or whatever reason.
In reality people would only comment on what your doing good or bad if they have an opinion of it to help you out or knock you down a peg because of how awesome your work would be. Perfection i would think stems from thinking of not failing. Failing in the since of perfection is a negative trait.
In reality Failing is a great thing it teaches you what not to do and helps you realize that as a human your gonna make mistakes. Just realize good or bad things you do in life will make you a better person. I can't tell you how many times i have said or done stupid things mostly in the past 2 years. this all helped me out more then trying to say and do the right thing and being perfect.
My advice is don't be afraid to say the wrong things, do the wrong things, mess up, or let your ideal image of perfect ruin who you are and what you can do. There is always room for improvement.
