Shannon's Journal

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I have a few questions and I want your opinion on what's the best option for me at this moment.

I'm doing SM2011 and I'm on stage 1.
If I stick to 32 days per stage, I will have ended the stage last night/just this morning and will start stage 2 tonight.
I've been thinking of changing it to 40 days per stage, thoughts?
I am also thinking of traveling and will be gone this weekend. Any exposure to subliminals will be unlikely, so that means Friday and Saturday I will not have any exposure to subliminals.
I guess since I'm missing only 2 days, I just assume I add 2 days to the end of whichever one i choose to do (32 or 40 days per stage)?

At this point, I'm really diggin what's been going on. I think I might stick with stage 1 for a while so should I be fine if I just have 8 more days of listening to stage 1 assuming I go traveling and miss 2 days this weekend? Or should I add an extra day because I'm consecutively missing 2 days?

[ncbeareatingman]

Rule of Thumb Man, STICK to the DIRECTIONS as directed....trust me as one who knows, Shannon knows what the hell he's doing and with as much investment,energy,research,time and spirit,THERE are SOME DEEP REASONS he created this program and the exact-ness on the time limit used.
Follow the directions to the letter...on missing a day and make up time, wait fer shannon 'er some other soul to show up and give feedback and direction on. all the best. NcBear.

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Well, instructions for SM say anywhere between 32-64 days. I just like to be extra careful when it comes to this.

I recall reading somewhere if you miss 1 day you add 1 day, but if you miss a certain amount of time you add 1.x times the amount of days you missed. I just do not remember where this was posted or if I'm making this up.

[boromir]

I have been in the same predicament when I went on vacation, so I just played it longer to equally compensate. I think Shannon has said that this is feasible in the past. If not, then I guess I will have to do what others have done, and start all over again which does sound enticing.
I know this will sound flippant or sarcastic, which is not my intent, but I truly wonder what would happen if I started listening to ALPHA in reverse, now that I am about done. Go back through 5 then 4 ...- I can hear the resounding NO.
It seem my brain sometimes enjoys reading and comprehending a subject from the end to the beginning. This is probably a tell tale sign of something, but it is the truth.

[Shannon]

I have been in the same predicament when I went on vacation, so I just played it longer to equally compensate. I think Shannon has said that this is feasible in the past. If not, then I guess I will have to do what others have done, and start all over again which does sound enticing.
I know this will sound flippant or sarcastic, which is not my intent, but I truly wonder what would happen if I started listening to ALPHA in reverse, now that I am about done. Go back through 5 then 4 ...- I can hear the resounding NO.
It seem my brain sometimes enjoys reading and comprehending a subject from the end to the beginning. This is probably a tell tale sign of something, but it is the truth.

The solution is to follow the directions. It should be covered in the directions what to do in case of missing days, and if it's not, here's the rule of thumb.

If you miss a few days, add a few days at the end.

If you miss more than a few days, but less than a week add 1.25 days to the end per day you missed.

If you miss 1-2 weeks, add 1.5 days per day you missed.

If you miss more than 2 weeks, start that stage over.

Always try to avoid missing days whenever possible.

And as to the idea of doing ALPHA in reverse... it's designed specifically to be used as directed. Using it in reverse would be downright ridiculous, and would remove all the benefit of my years of effort in crafting it into the masterpiece that it is. Do you buy a Lamborghini and then put training wheels on it and drive it at 1.5 miles an hour? Do you read college books backwards? It just makes no sense.

[Shannon]

Shannon, one little concern I have about reading experiences about alpha male and some other programs is that the not caring whether the girls are into you might have been carried a little far. I don't want my desire for woman to decrease, since my enjoyment of them would decrease with that too. I think that the ideal sweet spot is that you care, but you also know that you are gonna be totally fine regardless of what happens. any way you could address this for alpha 2012 and sex magnet 2012?

The whole point is to disconnect your caring about what they think of you, and about being with them, partly as a way to become the man they're going to be more intrigued by, and partly to focus you more on self growth in order to become the alpha. You cannot always focus in multiple directions at once when you're making such huge changes. If you want to become an alpha, you'll need to have what the program is doing to get there. It's all there for a good reason.

Trust me, when you don't care, she's going to be more interested because you don't care and you're not needy. But again, the point of the alpha set is to make you an alpha. Sometimes it requires putting aside other things to achieve sufficient self growth.

As for SM, there's no lack of interest in women in that program.

[jonathanzx10]

I think a better way to ask this is: can you really fall in love with a girl after doing the am?

[Shannon]

I think a better way to ask this is: can you really fall in love with a girl after doing the am?

That's a reasonable question. The answer is, of course you can. The change is that you're no longer going to settle for being mistreated, disrespected, ignored or walked on, and you're no longer going to allow yourself to be with woman who isn't worth your time.

The program doesn't take away your ability to love or fall in love with a woman. For a time, it focuses you inwardly enough to accomplish the necessary changes, and when it's done, you won't NEED a woman to be happy. When that happens, you're going to be demonstrating through your words, deeds and actions that you don't need a woman to be happy or support yourself emotionally, and when a healthy, high value woman sees that, she will naturally be more attracted to you because that's what worthwhile women are looking for.

The goal is not to need her anymore, and I think you'll find that your fear is coming from a position of needing a woman to feel complete. Alphas don't need someone else to feel complete, or take care of them, or give them the attention they want, or the love they need. Alphas are self sufficient. When an alpha enters a relationship with a woman, it is not because he needs her to make him whole or to take care of him, it's because he chooses to share himself with her and accepts her sharing herself with him in return.

When you're with a woman because you choose to be, but you don't need to be, you'll find that your selection of women is much better. And when she is with you for the same reason, you'll find that your relationship is much healthier. Love and neediness are not the same thing.

But yes, you can fall in love with a woman after doing the alpha set. You can also stay in love with a woman you're also in love with, even if you choose to leave her because she's no longer right for you. I will always be in love with my ex, but she is not right for me, and I will not be with her for that reason. The alpha set has not taken away my love for her, but has pushed me to respect myself too much to allow myself to be treated the way I was being treated by her.

[Shannon]

Getting close to finished building the key script for the 4G weight loss program.

[Shannon]

I am starting to think that the weight loss program needs to be broken into two six stage sets... one focused on achieving the ideal weight, and one focused on maintaining it.

[Benjamin]

Getting close to finished building the key script for the 4G weight loss program.

Cool. The challenge for me will be whether to continue SM when it's done or to start that. I wasn't getting much benefit from the 3g one, but i've seen the difference between 3g and 4g and it's alot, especially a 6 stage program.

I am starting to think that the weight loss program needs to be broken into two six stage sets... one focused on achieving the ideal weight, and one focused on maintaining it.

Interesting, how come?

Isn't there similar reasons for both? Something with the self image or something? Not that I can really comment as I haven't been able to achieve it, and when I did get down to 85 kg I wasn't able to maintain it permanently unfortunately. It seems my mind was so uncomfortable with it that I put on even more weight after getting back to what I originally was.

-Ben

[Shannon]

Getting close to finished building the key script for the 4G weight loss program.

Cool. The challenge for me will be whether to continue SM when it's done or to start that. I wasn't getting much benefit from the 3g one, but i've seen the difference between 3g and 4g and it's alot, especially a 6 stage program.

I am starting to think that the weight loss program needs to be broken into two six stage sets... one focused on achieving the ideal weight, and one focused on maintaining it.

Interesting, how come?

Isn't there similar reasons for both? Something with the self image or something? Not that I can really comment as I haven't been able to achieve it, and when I did get down to 85 kg I wasn't able to maintain it permanently unfortunately. It seems my mind was so uncomfortable with it that I put on even more weight after getting back to what I originally was.

-Ben

I suggest you finish SM and then do weight loss.

I am thinking two six stage programs because the situation is so complex that it will require at least six months to achieve results with just one of these goals for most people who are resistant to weight loss. The more focus there is on one goal, the better. It's basically a slower, but better, way to deal with the complexity and resistance to the change desired.

[Benjamin]

Ok cool makes sense.

So the second one is more to make it permanent and part of 'who you are'.

As much as I like fast results, i'd rather go for deeper changes even if it takes longer.

-Ben

[boromir]

Thanks Shannon for the info on losing time-that helps a lot for my time allocation.
I did once drive my friends Porsche Boxer in reverse way past his driveway, and it definitely got his blood a pump'n.
So, no reverse, then can you go back and listen to stages over? I apologize if you have already covered this question.
So, I could listen to ALPHA three, four, five and six again and expect further enhancement? Best thing is move on and wait for the latest and greatest.