09-09-2018, 03:14 PM
Listening to "No More Mr. Nice Guy" on audible. A couple problems with it so far:
First, it often gets me confused and conflicted and in a bad state. I start second-guessing myself and getting very insecure and stuff. I've turned around and gone home when I wanted to be working more than once (including today). This isn't always the case, as I had a few days last week where I was listening to it before work and I had a really good day so I can't blame the book, but nonetheless I think I should only listen to it on days I'm taking off because I don't need an easy scapegoat to avoid work. I should be working if I want to hit my goals.
Second problem is that it's audio only and this makes going back to certain points and going over them again quite difficult. I plan to get a hard-copy.
Third problem is it brings up a ton of issues nice guys have but is not as abundant on solutions as it is on presenting the problems. I'm in chapter 10 of 12 and he's still listing problems niceguys have with little to no solutions presented. This makes it difficult to correct the behavior.
ION, been off porn and masturbation for a week and went back on it yesterday and today. That may have been a mistake. It seems to be affecting my state more than it has before. I hope it's not a case of DMSI imposing that on us because I've tried sales and PUA both on and off porn and masturbation before as a test, and I saw less results when I was off the porn than when I was on. So this is concerning. Especially since there are plenty of guys who watch porn and f*ck women.
Once again I'm feeling like I have to be some kind of perfect ideal to get DMSI to "work" which I find hilariously ironic since the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book is designed to help men become who they really are without all the faking and trying to please others and be perfect, yet the more I go through my journey towards becoming "alpha" and a "ladies man", the more I go against things I naturally want to do, like watch porn for example.
It's at times like these I assume I'll never consciously "get it" and instead decide to trust the wisdom of others and do what "they" say I should. How that's different from being a people pleaser, however, I'll never know. It's another one of those "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situations.
Still, I assume I'll get clarity if I keep moving towards my goals and watch closely the RESULTS I'm getting more than what I'm "supposed" to be doing.
There's a saying by, I think it's Grant Cardone, that goes like this "do what works, not what looks good" I think this is the key to pretty much everything. Results always, 100%, without exception, to the end of time, speak for themselves, so that's what I have to go by.
On the DMSI front, as you know I'm doing ver. B atm. So far I've noticed more drive and more determination internally but not as much effectiveness in the REAL world (things like skipping work and, if we're to believe abstaining from porn is effective, then porn as well). It may be several thing, I may simply be seeing things in a negative light, I may be resisting, etc.
Anyhow, not much more to say. I think I'll go back to ver. A after this simply because I'm not seeing much results-wise. Although I've seen a few ioi's, they are no where near as blatant as they were in earlier DMSI versions. And aside from the celebrity effect I enjoyed last week (possibly because I abstained from porn and masturbation all week), I haven't seen much in this version compared to side A.
First, it often gets me confused and conflicted and in a bad state. I start second-guessing myself and getting very insecure and stuff. I've turned around and gone home when I wanted to be working more than once (including today). This isn't always the case, as I had a few days last week where I was listening to it before work and I had a really good day so I can't blame the book, but nonetheless I think I should only listen to it on days I'm taking off because I don't need an easy scapegoat to avoid work. I should be working if I want to hit my goals.
Second problem is that it's audio only and this makes going back to certain points and going over them again quite difficult. I plan to get a hard-copy.
Third problem is it brings up a ton of issues nice guys have but is not as abundant on solutions as it is on presenting the problems. I'm in chapter 10 of 12 and he's still listing problems niceguys have with little to no solutions presented. This makes it difficult to correct the behavior.
ION, been off porn and masturbation for a week and went back on it yesterday and today. That may have been a mistake. It seems to be affecting my state more than it has before. I hope it's not a case of DMSI imposing that on us because I've tried sales and PUA both on and off porn and masturbation before as a test, and I saw less results when I was off the porn than when I was on. So this is concerning. Especially since there are plenty of guys who watch porn and f*ck women.
Once again I'm feeling like I have to be some kind of perfect ideal to get DMSI to "work" which I find hilariously ironic since the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book is designed to help men become who they really are without all the faking and trying to please others and be perfect, yet the more I go through my journey towards becoming "alpha" and a "ladies man", the more I go against things I naturally want to do, like watch porn for example.
It's at times like these I assume I'll never consciously "get it" and instead decide to trust the wisdom of others and do what "they" say I should. How that's different from being a people pleaser, however, I'll never know. It's another one of those "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situations.
Still, I assume I'll get clarity if I keep moving towards my goals and watch closely the RESULTS I'm getting more than what I'm "supposed" to be doing.
There's a saying by, I think it's Grant Cardone, that goes like this "do what works, not what looks good" I think this is the key to pretty much everything. Results always, 100%, without exception, to the end of time, speak for themselves, so that's what I have to go by.
On the DMSI front, as you know I'm doing ver. B atm. So far I've noticed more drive and more determination internally but not as much effectiveness in the REAL world (things like skipping work and, if we're to believe abstaining from porn is effective, then porn as well). It may be several thing, I may simply be seeing things in a negative light, I may be resisting, etc.
Anyhow, not much more to say. I think I'll go back to ver. A after this simply because I'm not seeing much results-wise. Although I've seen a few ioi's, they are no where near as blatant as they were in earlier DMSI versions. And aside from the celebrity effect I enjoyed last week (possibly because I abstained from porn and masturbation all week), I haven't seen much in this version compared to side A.
