SargeMaximus: Blooming to Alpha

[rayrocanaldo]

I am probably not going to send private msgs to let you know how much I have changed, I'll write it directly in your journal.

Lol, no you won't. If you want to journal your progress, make a journal. If you want to PM me, that is fine, but you are not invited to spam my journal with your posts.

Lol ! Hahaha ! I meant to write it once not a billion times lol just to let you know I've changed and if you want to follow in my footsteps. I had no intentions of spamming your journal. I am wise enough to open my own lol. If I am allowed to journal my journey without using a sub, which I am sure I cant, I'll document it in a journal on the site.

[SargeMaximus]

I am probably not going to send private msgs to let you know how much I have changed, I'll write it directly in your journal.

Lol, no you won't. If you want to journal your progress, make a journal. If you want to PM me, that is fine, but you are not invited to spam my journal with your posts.

Lol ! Hahaha ! I meant to write it once not a billion times lol just to let you know I've changed and if you want to follow in my footsteps. I had no intentions of spamming your journal. I am wise enough to open my own lol. If I am allowed to journal my journey without using a sub, which I am sure I cant, I'll document it in a journal on the site. I'll probably be the most successful

Oh, well to be honest I was looking forward to your regular updates. But if you want to just place a large post at the end of your journey (will it ever end?) then go ahead. I'd say open a journal tho.

Also, if you don't mind me asking, why not use a sub?

[rayrocanaldo]

I am probably not going to send private msgs to let you know how much I have changed, I'll write it directly in your journal.

Lol, no you won't. If you want to journal your progress, make a journal. If you want to PM me, that is fine, but you are not invited to spam my journal with your posts.

Lol ! Hahaha ! I meant to write it once not a billion times lol just to let you know I've changed and if you want to follow in my footsteps. I had no intentions of spamming your journal. I am wise enough to open my own lol. If I am allowed to journal my journey without using a sub, which I am sure I cant, I'll document it in a journal on the site. I'll probably be the most successful

Oh, well to be honest I was looking forward to your regular updates. But if you want to just place a large post at the end of your journey (will it ever end?) then go ahead. I'd say open a journal tho.

Also, if you don't mind me asking, why not use a sub?

I dont want to use subs because I dont feel it's necessary. Goal setting is all I will ever need. I am positive goal setting will prove itself very valuable.
I am confident that once I start working on my goals, I'll be successful. Btw, I decided that I will PM you instead of creating a journal. We can have private conversations about my results over PM. Btw, I cant work on my goals right now but once I start, I will let you know.

Cheers !

[SargeMaximus]

I am probably not going to send private msgs to let you know how much I have changed, I'll write it directly in your journal.

Lol, no you won't. If you want to journal your progress, make a journal. If you want to PM me, that is fine, but you are not invited to spam my journal with your posts.

Lol ! Hahaha ! I meant to write it once not a billion times lol just to let you know I've changed and if you want to follow in my footsteps. I had no intentions of spamming your journal. I am wise enough to open my own lol. If I am allowed to journal my journey without using a sub, which I am sure I cant, I'll document it in a journal on the site. I'll probably be the most successful

Oh, well to be honest I was looking forward to your regular updates. But if you want to just place a large post at the end of your journey (will it ever end?) then go ahead. I'd say open a journal tho.

Also, if you don't mind me asking, why not use a sub?

I dont want to use subs because I dont feel it's necessary. Goal setting is all I will ever need. I am positive goal setting will prove itself very valuable.
I am confident that once I start working on my goals, I'll be successful. Btw, I decided that I will PM you instead of creating a journal. We can have private conversations about my results over PM. Btw, I cant work on my goals right now but once I start, I will let you know.

Cheers !

Fair enough Ray. I look forward to it. Cheers.

[SargeMaximus]

It's so funny how different people are.

Talking with the aussie today. The guy is SO good at pick up (his looks are a major factor) but just talking with him about what techniques I use vs what techniques he uses are interesting.

He also has an interesting mindset. I told him about the Russian girl I went out with last year and how she talked about suicide. This guy not only said that was a good sign (because it showed she really trusted me) BUT he said he'd have slept with her for sure.

Funny.

[K-Train]

It's so funny how different people are.

Talking with the aussie today. The guy is SO good at pick up (his looks are a major factor) but just talking with him about what techniques I use vs what techniques he uses are interesting.

He also has an interesting mindset. I told him about the Russian girl I went out with last year and how she talked about suicide. This guy not only said that was a good sign (because it showed she really trusted me) BUT he said he'd have slept with her for sure.

Funny.

In the old pherotalk forum there was a thread called "Poop?" or something to that effect where it talked about certain pheros (I'll take a wild guess and say B-nol/Instant Honesty) caused women to talk to the wearer about defecation . On one hand, it seems off-putting to say the least however some of the fellas there stated that it's actually a good sign because women rarely if ever open up to people about sh!t (no pun intended) like that therefore it signifies she has a high level of comfort and trust. In my own experience, I can confirm this because I wore A314 and B-nol around a chick quite frequently and she brought up the subject. I took it in stride and didn't freak out (at least not on the outside ).

[SargeMaximus]

It's so funny how different people are.

Talking with the aussie today. The guy is SO good at pick up (his looks are a major factor) but just talking with him about what techniques I use vs what techniques he uses are interesting.

He also has an interesting mindset. I told him about the Russian girl I went out with last year and how she talked about suicide. This guy not only said that was a good sign (because it showed she really trusted me) BUT he said he'd have slept with her for sure.

Funny.

In the old pherotalk forum there was a thread called "Poop?" or something to that effect where it talked about certain pheros (I'll take a wild guess and say B-nol/Instant Honesty) caused women to talk to the wearer about defecation . On one hand, it seems off-putting to say the least however some of the fellas there stated that it's actually a good sign because women rarely if ever open up to people about sh!t (no pun intended) like that therefore it signifies she has a high level of comfort and trust. In my own experience, I can confirm this because I wore A314 and B-nol around a chick quite frequently and she brought up the subject. I took it in stride and didn't freak out (at least not on the outside ).

I find this SO fascinating!

I just love the trust thing and how people can be so trusting and open if you can be a person people can trust.

Did you ever get laid with that girl btw?

I often get this reaction from people. They really open up to me and start talking about all the stuff they might otherwise be afraid to (not everyone. People who are guarded are almost offended by me, I think this may be why.)

Anyhow, yeah. I've had that so many times. My hairdresser even started talking the shit (pun kinda intended ) with me for a while.

[K-Train]

LOL, nah not with that chick. I self-sabotaged myself. She was hook, line, and sinker though. Pisses me off a bit thinking of it now because with the stuff I know now it would have been an easy lay to say the least.

The only cautionary thing I'd add is that when you get women that comfortable you have to make sure they know you're interested using whatever "game" identifies with you/the situation the best (indirect or direct game) or else they'll see you only as a male-girlfriend. Believe me, you don't want that...

[SargeMaximus]

LOL, nah not with that chick. I self-sabotaged myself. She was hook, line, and sinker though. Pisses me off a bit thinking of it now because with the stuff I know now it would have been an easy lay to say the least.

Ahhh, that's the worst. Oh well, live and learn.

The only cautionary thing I'd add is that when you get women that comfortable you have to make sure they know you're interested using whatever "game" identifies with you/the situation the best (indirect or direct game) or else they'll see you only as a male-girlfriend. Believe me, you don't want that...

Yes I suspected as much. Can you explain what you mean for the part I've put in bold tho?

[rayrocanaldo]

Might be a while before I start working on my goals but it will come.

[K-Train]

Sure man I got you. Basically, comfort can manifest itself in different ways depending on the context and the nature of the relationship itself. For example in regards to a woman who is attracted to you and KNOWS you reciprocate her attraction, comfort might manifest itself as her revealing she's attracted to you (assuming you don't know it yet which would be the case in an approach or first/second contact scenarios), it might manifest as her telling you her kinks and fantasies such as perhaps wanting to f*ck in a public place or wanting to be choked, things of that nature. Obviously that second example would be something that takes place a little further down the line.

In an alternate scenario, comfort might manifest itself as a woman being comfortable telling you she's attracted to a guy, wants his dick in her mouth, and/or her expressing frustration about her love life in general. In this scenario let's pretend like she's assuming you're not attracted because you never "made a move" and now assumes you genuinely like being her platonic male-boyfriend.

Notice how the women in both of those scenarios have a high level of comfort but because of the context of the relationship it manifests differently. In laymen's terms, if you don't want her company in a purely platonic manner you'll need to make it known or else that comfort might manifest itself in an undesirable way such as in scenario #2.

I purposely left it a bit vague/ambiguous because people differ in how they wish to express interest in someone. Choose how you wish to express your interest whether it be indirect or direct but understand their are costs and benefits to each.

[SargeMaximus]

Sure man I got you. Basically, comfort can manifest itself in different ways depending on the context and the nature of the relationship itself. For example in regards to a woman who is attracted to you and KNOWS you reciprocate her attraction, comfort might manifest itself as her revealing she's attracted to you (assuming you don't know it yet which would be the case in an approach or first/second contact scenarios), it might manifest as her telling you her kinks and fantasies such as perhaps wanting to f*ck in a public place or wanting to be choked, things of that nature. Obviously that second example would be something that takes place a little further down the line.

In an alternate scenario, comfort might manifest itself as a woman being comfortable telling you she's attracted to a guy, wants his dick in her mouth, and/or her expressing frustration about her love life in general. In this scenario let's pretend like she's assuming you're not attracted because you never "made a move" and now assumes you genuinely like being her platonic male-boyfriend.

Notice how the women in both of those scenarios have a high level of comfort but because of the context of the relationship it manifests differently. In laymen's terms, if you don't want her company in a purely platonic manner you'll need to make it known or else that comfort might manifest itself in an undesirable way such as in scenario #2.

I purposely left it a bit vague/ambiguous because people differ in how they wish to express interest in someone.

I see. I really appreciate this man, thanks.

So, how do you remain in scenario one without triggering scenario 2? I didn't quite go full scenario 2 with my hairdresser, but she was starting to tell me what guys she liked towards the end. I assume that was scenario 2. Even though I did (from my pov) make my attraction to her known.

I guess I'm just wondering if too much comfort can trigger scenario 2, or is it only not making a move (a successful move?) that triggers it?

Or am I way off in both areas?


Also, this here has me confused:

Choose how you wish to express your interest whether it be indirect or direct but understand their are costs and benefits to each.

Do you mean:

Direct example: "I think you're cute, wanna hang out?"

Indirect example: "We should get a drink sometime"

Or am I again missing something?

I get the feeling I'm not quite understanding you so by all means correct me if I'm way off.

[SargeMaximus]

Noticing a "flip-flop" of abundance vs. scarcity. It's very noticeable. I assume it's the H/C.

It's like at times I can see how there is complete abundance and everything will work out fine/as I want it to, other times everything seems difficult and scarce, like I have to fight for every inch and won't succeed anyways.

[SargeMaximus]

Starting to think I'm a psychic vampire. O.o

If I am, I imagine the best way to "feed" would be to summon the most positive feelings in people and then empathize. Rinse and repeat.

Or I could just be tired. lol.

I did want to mention however that I've had more intense energy feelings In my heart, particularly when meditating or just before I'm falling asleep.

The other night it felt like my soul was leaving my heart in a mighty wind. Afterwards, I felt lighter.

I don't know what that is. :o