SargeMaximus: Blooming to Alpha

[SargeMaximus]

Sure man I got you. Basically, comfort can manifest itself in different ways depending on the context and the nature of the relationship itself. For example in regards to a woman who is attracted to you and KNOWS you reciprocate her attraction, comfort might manifest itself as her revealing she's attracted to you (assuming you don't know it yet which would be the case in an approach or first/second contact scenarios), it might manifest as her telling you her kinks and fantasies such as perhaps wanting to f*ck in a public place or wanting to be choked, things of that nature. Obviously that second example would be something that takes place a little further down the line.

In an alternate scenario, comfort might manifest itself as a woman being comfortable telling you she's attracted to a guy, wants his dick in her mouth, and/or her expressing frustration about her love life in general. In this scenario let's pretend like she's assuming you're not attracted because you never "made a move" and now assumes you genuinely like being her platonic male-boyfriend.

Notice how the women in both of those scenarios have a high level of comfort but because of the context of the relationship it manifests differently. In laymen's terms, if you don't want her company in a purely platonic manner you'll need to make it known or else that comfort might manifest itself in an undesirable way such as in scenario #2.

I purposely left it a bit vague/ambiguous because people differ in how they wish to express interest in someone.

I see. I really appreciate this man, thanks.

So, how do you remain in scenario one without triggering scenario 2? I didn't quite go full scenario 2 with my hairdresser, but she was starting to tell me what guys she liked towards the end. I assume that was scenario 2. Even though I did (from my pov) make my attraction to her known.

I guess I'm just wondering if too much comfort can trigger scenario 2, or is it only not making a move (a successful move?) that triggers it?

Or am I way off in both areas?


Also, this here has me confused:

Choose how you wish to express your interest whether it be indirect or direct but understand their are costs and benefits to each.

Do you mean:

Direct example: "I think you're cute, wanna hang out?"

Indirect example: "We should get a drink sometime"

Or am I again missing something?

I get the feeling I'm not quite understanding you so by all means correct me if I'm way off.