(10-23-2014, 07:01 AM)robstar Wrote: Hey guys (especially Shannon).
Just looking for some advice about SM and relationships. I'm starting SM stage 3 in a few days, I've had sex with three women since the start. (After a year long dry spell, so good testimonial?) All of them multiple times. However, I'm starting to develop feelings for one, and losing a bit of interest in sex with others. Still having sex with all three though.
What are my options here?
I'm not saying I want to enter an exclusive relationship with her right away, but we've been quite affectionate with each other and I don't want to mislead her, plus I actually see a strong potential for an LTR in the future.
Should I just keep trying to keep it ambiguous for another 4 months?
Will SM make it 'impossible' to keep a monogamous LTR or just very difficult? I'm guessing stopping SM if things get serious is a bad idea due to imbalance?
Sorry for so many questions. Kinda wishing I had run WM.
Sex Magnet is designed to get you laid with as many women as you want to have sex with. Obviously, it works. But that does not mean you cannot have a relationship with one or more of them, although generally a relationship based on sex will be challenging to keep alive for very long.
I personally would never engage in a sexual or romantic relationship with more than one woman at a time unless all involved knew exactly what was going on. Women are a lot more open to being one of many than you might think, IF they know they can trust you. If you get serious and then spring it on them, you'll lose their trust and them.
I say, do what feels like the right thing to do. Do what will make you happiest, without harming any of your lovers in the process.
I wouldn't try to manipulate it into being ambiguous for another 4 months, as you may lose her. SM won't make a monogamous relationship impossible, but you'll be attracting and wanting to sex other females. I don't recommend quitting in the middle, but in the end, you can choose what you want to do even if you are using it - as is evidenced by the fact that some men run this program, and out of fear, never allow themselves to get to sex because they did not run AM enough times first.
In the end, go with your gut. If that tells you to go after this one girl, then go after her. If not, then have fun - but I advise always, always, ALWAYS being deadly honest with your lovers, especially when you have multiples at a time.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!