S Magnet 3

[CatMan]

...after posting the legotroll...

I may, or may not have been a part of such an endeavor...

I'm not saying anything, until I talk to a lawyer!

[CatMan]

...after posting the legotroll...

I may, or may not have been a part of such an endeavor...

I'm not saying anything, until I talk to a lawyer!

Be a 'Moderator' on this site. You are qualified. :angel:

Haha!

A few people have suggested that to me, actually!

That would be an incredible honour. I don't know if another mod is needed right now or not. Maybe when 6G comes out and the store gets far busier. As at that point, the programs will be much more widely marketable as they will have much lower usage times to get results. Then maybe I'll be needed to pitch in. Who knows.

Thank you for your words.

[Shannon]

Being rude, attacking people personally, and not following the rules does not make you welcome on any forum. And your 100,000 plus viewers will not care if you get blocked for that. That is common sense and common courtesy.

Furthermore, there is no law, as you suggest, in the USA (where we are based, by the way) or anywhere else in the world that says a forum cannot have one moderator. So if you're trying to get yourself banned, by all means, disregard the rules and common sense and common courtesy. If not, it's a good time to start following those.

[Ricardo]

also, does anyone know about this dejavu phenomena?

I believe it's "remembering in the wrong direction"

[eternity]

thanks ben, i agree with you that it's beneficial in the greater scheme of things, it just sucks being in the middle of it all. it's funny how nothing really matters as much the next day as it does when you're right in the midle of it!

i had a dream last night that I got drunk, but was convinced in my dream that it didn't count as a relapse, and that I could get away with getting drunk that one time, even though in real life i've been sober for 326 days in a row, and in real life taking even one drink = death to me.

I wonder what my mind is telling me? The crazy thing is this is the second dream of that type this month.

[dissonance]

[quote='Shannon' pid='87643' dateline='1445586404']
Being rude, attacking people personally, and not following the rules does not make you welcome on any forum. And your 100,000 plus viewers will not care if you get blocked for that. That is common sense and common courtesy.

Furthermore, there is no law, as you suggest, in the USA (where we are based, by the way) or anywhere else in the world that says a forum cannot have one moderator. So if you're trying to get yourself banned, by all means, disregard the rules and common sense and common courtesy. If not, it's a good time to start following those.

Or the mod is just being careful about how he wants to deal with things, so he asks the boss to help. Kind of like a middle-level worker asking a higher-up executive for help. Not that strange of a thing.

[eternity]

stage 4 day 9


I jacked up the counting on my days in this journal. I'm actually on day 9 TODAY.
Quick Note: I switched to trickling stream last night to attack my subC on a different level. WITH insane result! I had a dream I can remember !

I had a crazy Inception style dream last night! I and my crush both were 3 dreams deep together. Me and her were planning on spending Saturday together, and in my dream I took her to the place we were going to eat at, and she mentioned she had already been there before and I was sad because I wanted to surprise her by taking her to a vegetarian restaurant that she hopefully would have not eaten at. In the next dream layer, I and her went to an AA meeting together, which seemed out of place because the meeting took place INSIDE my house, but the inside looked like a different club, and was filled with people from yet another club. In the 3rd dream layer, we were trying to leave a parking lot, but I had left the car in drive so the car wouldn't turn on, and I was freaking out. So I called my mechanic friend, and he shows up and lifts the hood, and we see a spare car cigarette lighter conveniently placed on the under side of the hood, and I remember thinking "oh that's where the spare cig lighter is!" in the dream.

Now, the crazy thing is, [in REAL LIFE now], my crush and I went out to eat, and I told her about the dreams, and told her I hope she has never eaten at this place before, and as we are driving up to the place, she's like "I USED TO WORK HERE!" which really surprised me because I thought this was a hole in teh wall place nobody knew about!!!!!!!! AND IT PROVED MY DREAM RIGHT LOL

premonitions!?!?!?!?

After eating, we go to whole foods, hang out for a bit and get some stuff, then leave and go to a tea shop and share a pot of matcha tea. It was a really fun day and I REALLY enjoyed spending time with her and getting to know her. She's really awesome and WORTH getting to know, and she's definitely attracted to me too. She laughed so hard at ALL of my BAD JOKES and BAD PUNS lmao.

I don't know what is holding me back from ACTUALLY asking her out. I keep dropping lines of "yes i really like you" and "oh all my friends think we're such a cute couple and i don't disagree" and stuff like that. It's like an implied bf gf VIBE, but it's not actually there yet. I'm afraid that if I wait any longer I will completely screw this up. BUT it goes back to my irrational fear of being in a relationship AND fear of being alone, and now I'm at a point where I'm in NO MANS LAND and it's super detrimental and I am too much of a puss to make the move, even though there's OBVIOUS attraction back and forth......... There might be something within me that won't feel right being tied down with her in a LTR knowing that I am capable of having multiple women at one time... There also might be not wanting to get with her because she's so new to recovery (she's got like 70 days sober, and it's not good to get in a relationship when you're still learning who you are WITHOUT the substances), or what I think is truly the cause: i'm AFRAID. I'm almost convinced I need to run OF after this.


So I turn to my online friends on Sub Talk who may understand where I'm coming from and can most likely give me constructive criticism -

Anyone got any advice on asking a girl out that you like and clearly lieks you back? like what do i say? i feel like an idiot who's inexperienced with what normal people would consider "standard knowledge"... Am I over thinking this?

[Dubls]

You make a great point about her being new to recovery and how a relationship can impact her success. My advice would be to prioritize that consideration.

I've also been meaning to tell you how much I admire what you've achieved in your own journey. I've hit rock bottom and it was drug related, but addition was not a factor; nor were the drugs hardcore. I cannot begin to imagine the hell you've experienced but I can appreciate the strength you've demonstrated and continue to have. Thank you for sharing these deep corners of your life with us. For most of us here, yours is a unique and interesting perspective.

[4Kingdoms]

[in REAL LIFE now], my crush and I went out to eat,
After eating, we go to whole foods, hang out for a bit and get some stuff, then leave and go to a tea shop and share a pot of matcha tea. It was a really fun day and I REALLY enjoyed spending time with her and getting to know her.

I don't know what is holding me back from ACTUALLY asking her out.

So I turn to my online friends on Sub Talk who may understand where I'm coming from and can most likely give me constructive criticism -

Anyone got any advice on asking a girl out that you like and clearly lieks you back? like what do i say? i feel like an idiot who's inexperienced with what normal people would consider "standard knowledge"... Am I over thinking this?

I'm lost? You are asking for advice to ask her out and you already went out with her. I apologize in advance if I sound like I'm dense...

[eternity]

[in REAL LIFE now], my crush and I went out to eat,
After eating, we go to whole foods, hang out for a bit and get some stuff, then leave and go to a tea shop and share a pot of matcha tea. It was a really fun day and I REALLY enjoyed spending time with her and getting to know her.

I don't know what is holding me back from ACTUALLY asking her out.

So I turn to my online friends on Sub Talk who may understand where I'm coming from and can most likely give me constructive criticism -

Anyone got any advice on asking a girl out that you like and clearly lieks you back? like what do i say? i feel like an idiot who's inexperienced with what normal people would consider "standard knowledge"... Am I over thinking this?

I'm lost? You are asking for advice to ask her out and you already went out with her. I apologize in advance if I sound like I'm dense...

my bad, i meant i need advice to take the next step to make it "official" or to "seal the deal" so to speak. There is a fear of rejection going on, possibly fear of the unknown too. FEAR seems like it's creeping up on me big time these days.

ESSY, thanks or the point you bring up, I will definitely keep that in consideration however i feel like we can still have a relationship as long as both of our recovery is first and foremost. I should not get in the way of her recovery and she should not get in the way of mine.

[dissonance]

stage 4 day 9


I jacked up the counting on my days in this journal. I'm actually on day 9 TODAY.
Quick Note: I switched to trickling stream last night to attack my subC on a different level. WITH insane result! I had a dream I can remember !

I had a crazy Inception style dream last night! I and my crush both were 3 dreams deep together. Me and her were planning on spending Saturday together, and in my dream I took her to the place we were going to eat at, and she mentioned she had already been there before and I was sad because I wanted to surprise her by taking her to a vegetarian restaurant that she hopefully would have not eaten at. In the next dream layer, I and her went to an AA meeting together, which seemed out of place because the meeting took place INSIDE my house, but the inside looked like a different club, and was filled with people from yet another club. In the 3rd dream layer, we were trying to leave a parking lot, but I had left the car in drive so the car wouldn't turn on, and I was freaking out. So I called my mechanic friend, and he shows up and lifts the hood, and we see a spare car cigarette lighter conveniently placed on the under side of the hood, and I remember thinking "oh that's where the spare cig lighter is!" in the dream.

Now, the crazy thing is, [in REAL LIFE now], my crush and I went out to eat, and I told her about the dreams, and told her I hope she has never eaten at this place before, and as we are driving up to the place, she's like "I USED TO WORK HERE!" which really surprised me because I thought this was a hole in teh wall place nobody knew about!!!!!!!! AND IT PROVED MY DREAM RIGHT LOL

premonitions!?!?!?!?

After eating, we go to whole foods, hang out for a bit and get some stuff, then leave and go to a tea shop and share a pot of matcha tea. It was a really fun day and I REALLY enjoyed spending time with her and getting to know her. She's really awesome and WORTH getting to know, and she's definitely attracted to me too. She laughed so hard at ALL of my BAD JOKES and BAD PUNS lmao.

I don't know what is holding me back from ACTUALLY asking her out. I keep dropping lines of "yes i really like you" and "oh all my friends think we're such a cute couple and i don't disagree" and stuff like that. It's like an implied bf gf VIBE, but it's not actually there yet. I'm afraid that if I wait any longer I will completely screw this up. BUT it goes back to my irrational fear of being in a relationship AND fear of being alone, and now I'm at a point where I'm in NO MANS LAND and it's super detrimental and I am too much of a puss to make the move, even though there's OBVIOUS attraction back and forth......... There might be something within me that won't feel right being tied down with her in a LTR knowing that I am capable of having multiple women at one time... There also might be not wanting to get with her because she's so new to recovery (she's got like 70 days sober, and it's not good to get in a relationship when you're still learning who you are WITHOUT the substances), or what I think is truly the cause: i'm AFRAID. I'm almost convinced I need to run OF after this.


So I turn to my online friends on Sub Talk who may understand where I'm coming from and can most likely give me constructive criticism -

Anyone got any advice on asking a girl out that you like and clearly lieks you back? like what do i say? i feel like an idiot who's inexperienced with what normal people would consider "standard knowledge"... Am I over thinking this?

Damn I think everyone is starting to realize how much FEAR dominates their lives. Thanks Geodude for being the catalyst for putting the magnifying glass on the power of OF 1.1. Hopefully Shannon makes a 5G Overcoming Fear; I'm not looking forward to the resistance and turbulence that you described in your journal.

How far into SM3 are you eternity? I'm definitely going to do OF 1.1 after my AM6 which ends in about 1.5 weeks. Maybe we can do it concurrently

[dissonance]

Herpa derp. Nevermind you're on Stage 4, as it says clearly in your post.

[dissonance]

One thing i'm really worried about though is blowing my entire load prematurely and embarassing the shit out of myself in front of the (un)lucky girl who helps me wet my dry spell

OF 1.1
OF 1.1
OF 1.1

seriously though I can't wait to start this sub after my AM6. Hopefully my resistance and turbulence isn't as bad as Geodude described in his journal.

[apollolux]

[in REAL LIFE now], my crush and I went out to eat,
After eating, we go to whole foods, hang out for a bit and get some stuff, then leave and go to a tea shop and share a pot of matcha tea. It was a really fun day and I REALLY enjoyed spending time with her and getting to know her.

I don't know what is holding me back from ACTUALLY asking her out.

So I turn to my online friends on Sub Talk who may understand where I'm coming from and can most likely give me constructive criticism -

Anyone got any advice on asking a girl out that you like and clearly lieks you back? like what do i say? i feel like an idiot who's inexperienced with what normal people would consider "standard knowledge"... Am I over thinking this?

I'm lost? You are asking for advice to ask her out and you already went out with her. I apologize in advance if I sound like I'm dense...

my bad, i meant i need advice to take the next step to make it "official" or to "seal the deal" so to speak. There is a fear of rejection going on, possibly fear of the unknown too. FEAR seems like it's creeping up on me big time these days.

I believe 4Kingdoms's signature has it right: You miss 100% of the shots you never take. Yes, it's understandable to want to be considerate of her recovery process, but why should you put yourself and your feelings on hold longer than you have to? Why should you deny your own sexual desires and potentially become her doormat or "emotional tampon?" If it's clear you two vibe, escalate and see what happens.

Yes, she is a separate person with her own needs and wants, and you've made it sound like she either needs and/or wants you, so overcome your fear of rejection and make things happen. The best way I've found to overcome such a fear only with your own willpower is to convince yourself the opposite result is the worse thing to fear (i.e. to overcome fear of rejection convince yourself that not escalating results in a much more fearful outcome than being rejected). This was how I originally overcame my original fears of rejection long before listening to ASC, and since ASC I've pretty much internalized that not approaching, not making moves, not escalating, leads to a more fearful outcome than being rejected for any non-legitimate reason.

I've always been a huge advocate of the direct approach, for better or worse, and as long as your actions and your words jive with your feelings and intentions she'll most likely respect you for your honesty. I'll stress it more: as long as your actions and your words jive with your feelings and intentions she'll most likely respect you for your honesty. Be congruent with yourself and what you want and feel. I only wish I knew about congruency years ago and I wish I knew back then what exactly I needed to do to make that happen.