Oversoul UMS

[Shannon]

True.

How would you deal with the people that hit on you when they are secretly committed? Or even if they are committed but claim to be unfulfilled or unsatisfied (though in their boyfriend's/girlfriend's face they act like everything's great?

If they'll do it with their partner, they'll do it with you. It's their pattern,Its their shit to heal or not. It's a choice.
 Is this question based on how guilty you will feel if you cross that line or something else??? There other ways to git laid quickly if thats all ur after.what is the underlying theme here? Attention,to be appreciated? None of the abouve?

I agree with you that theyll do it to me. TBH I would not keep them. As you said it would just be sexual in nature.

But the thing is I would not know until after I had sex with them that they have a boyfriend. Does that take responsibility off of me?

If I was to seduce a 'taken' girl, it would probably be out of pride and arrogance more than anything. Also maybe as a challenge or just 'because I can and it feels good knowing I can'. But then again, I dont feel like I need to do that anymore, I'm growing out of it. Could be because I am looking for SMV validation (sexual market value validation) from them. But as I said, I don't do it anymore.

Ok, if you don’t know she’s taken, you have no responsibility whatsoever unless there’s some blatant sign (like a wedding ring) that you should have picked up on and didn’t look for.  If that happens it’s on her.  But.  It’s a good idea for your personal safety to try to make sure that it doesn’t happen.  I wound up in a really nasty fight in college because I didn’t know the woman I was hooking up with was married.

It is your responsibility to do your due diligence.  If there is no ring, ask if she is involved.  Ask people who know her if she is married or involved.  Beyond that, not much you can do.