06-05-2018, 12:56 AM
(06-05-2018, 12:45 AM)Greenduck Wrote:(04-25-2018, 10:20 AM)Determined Wrote:(04-25-2018, 02:33 AM)Greenduck Wrote:(04-24-2018, 12:10 PM)Determined Wrote: Lol, I remember you having these same issues several months back. Don't you think it's time you got over all of this?
I learned a nifty little trick via hypnosis called "compartmentalisation". Before I'd be just like you, allowing people into my mind but now I can just exile any and all unwanted attention or behaviour. It's done wonders for my boundary setting.
Trust me, it haven't been an issue about attitude. If I just could have "get over it" I would have. It's the same thing as telling a depressed person to "get over it"/"pull yourself out of it". It takes more than just putting your mind into it, or (sorry) "nifty tricks". I understand that kind of basis for argumenting, but if you haven't experienced a state which you can't consciously "pull yourself out of", it's maybe hard to relate to it.
The problem have been in my body, as the problem with depression is. And my stress have been around my heart, showing symptoms comparable to PTSD. Finally, I have reached a new threshold in the way I feel, I'm starting to be able to breathe again fully. I can smell the smell of flowers when sitting in the garden, hearing the birds chirping - stuff that I have even forgotten existed or happened. I'm starting to get close to peaceful inside and coming over my PTSD!
I'm also reaching improvements through the TRE-exercises combined with the root-chakra meditation as I am getting more grounded. I feel in "contact" with life again, with nature and things around me - not fully, but clear improvement. More in contact with my body as well, and hence also the present moment.
You mistake my intent. I'm giving you a call to action.
Having come out the other end of PTSD and similar boundary issues I know what it's like to be trapped in a hopeless state.
I was just offering a solution. If you think about, not everyone is ***** up. The difference between a healthy mind and what you're going through is in my opinion the ability to "compartmentalise".
I've found it helpful. It also gives credence to the notion that depressed people can just "get over it" because a healthy person would simply compartmentalise what the depressed person would agonise over.
Now, a little more than 1 moth later, I get what you are saying. Totally. I am more able to compartmentalise things that I couldn't before. I was living in one "compartment" and thus the agony.
People who tend to "globalise" (that's an NLP term) their problems do struggle with this.