(12-09-2011, 11:39 AM)Shannon Wrote:(12-08-2011, 07:00 PM)jimbobday Wrote: I had one more question as well. Can I use AOS during the day and let go of past relationships at night?
You could - but I suggest you consider what you're actually trying to do by doing so. Basically, trying to jump into one relationship before you're finished with another. Which suggests codependency issues... I strongly support that you spend the three months of let go of past relationships all alone, healing, and coming to terms with being your own man after such a major relationship (at least it sounds like it was major?)
Having been single and alone for a long time now, I can tell you it sucks sometimes, but I love what has happened to me as a result. I don't need anyone else. I can be perfectly happy all alone, although I do miss the sex and emotional intimacy. But now the healing process for me is almost over, and I suspect a few ladies are going to get what's coming to then in the next couple months. Hehehe...
Thanks. I agree I do have co-dependency issues and will stick with the Get over past relationships sub alone even though it is very tempting to add in AoS.
It was major both in length and emotional intensity (Which quite often happens with BPD) It was off and on for 6 years of which we only spent 4 together with the last 1.5 years living together. So really 3 months healing is nothing plus the extra month its been already. I see my ex has already jumped into a new relationship and moved on which always makes me think if she can get over it so quick why can't I but I have to remember she has BPD and is to scared to visit her issues.
Something has been helping me a little with co-dependancy issues as well. I'm a long way off being over them but neediness was down last night when I approached some girls specifically just to settle a debate with my mates. The girls actually responded very well and there wasn't as much pull to try move things forward. PUA moved me to pushing things forward at all times instead of being natural.
Looking forward to hearing your successes as well Shannon as i'm sure with most of the guys in this forum you will have some great ones coming up
The only person in life that can ever hold you back is yourself. So get out of your own way and start living the life you always dreamed of
