Longer break from Subs

[robstar]

its really emotionaly destroying and draining you will fall in love automatically with many women you sleep and even after months or years you will remember them, you will feel guilt or anger for things you have done to them and things they did to you, you will feel betrayed and ashamed of course there will be times where you will feel above other men and that you are something better but this will not last long, often you will feel very lonely it will become like and addiction you wont be able to be happy or satisfied if you dont have new women you can seduce , you will get mysogynistic views about women and loose a lot of respect, you will loose faith in love and trust less and less , you will be very dependent on your success with them, its not that you get more secure the more you **** its the opposite you will start to identify your self with the results you get and only value yourself on the number of women you have, also you will loose your ability to connect with one women, you will start to compare her with others and be less and less tolerant with little mistakes of her, somewhere along the lines you will get a void you cant fill thats were you will start to abuse drugs or alkohol to relax thats what i heard about the guys of rsd for example, they are heavy into cocain and anti depressants

also you will meet other women who are player by themself and you cant always win you will get betrayled and cheated thats where you start to cheat automaticaly on every girl to prevent being the one who is fooled, you will get jealous and mistrust your girl just because you are a cheater yourself, also there will be girls that want to bring you in jail or beaten up by other guys, their boyfriends husbands and so on....

sometimes you will abuse the girls just to feel better or ask crazy things from her tha hurt her just to show you that you mean something for her, sometimes you will feel dirty and used

its like 20% good things and 80% bad but some will still value these 20% more and take the 80% of bad things

thats just a small part of it

First of all, thank for sharing this. I believe we can all learn from this and not expect our sexual adventures to bring happiness. Though I accepted that long ago, that it will not, but like Nox said, it is an obstacle one needs to experience to realize it. That's why I still chose to run Sex Magnet.

From the sound of this post, it seems like the more of a player a man becomes, the more difficult it gets to maintain a healthy relationship. One do not really want to cheat, but do want to make a fool of oneself by being cheated upon, like you mentioned.

From my experience in online dating and having voice sex with countless girls, I did get that void you are talking about. I also developed emotions for some girls, and the better I got with online dating thing, the less I started to get involved with my emotions. And the greater the void became, more girls I seduced online and had voice sex with, more I shut down my emotions, and the cycle repeated. Until I reached a point where I start to hate to even chat with girls online. Started to hate myself for it. And stopped it all together.

So the question arises, if the player lifestyle makes it so hard to form connections, and trust a girl, is it really worth it? And if it is not, what is the alternative other than settling for one girl at a time, and regret we never dared to live a player lifestyle. Sounds like a double trap. lol

Check out blackdragonblog.com if you're interested in an alternative to the player/monogamous guy dichotomy. It describes a lifestyle in which one doesn't have to either be having emotionally distant one night stands or being in exclusive relationships with one girl. One can choose to have loving connections but without falling into society's disney relationship model. It's about thinking outside of the social conditioned box.