09-22-2011, 11:58 AM
(This post was last modified: 09-22-2011, 11:59 AM by LionMonkey.)
Quote:First off, you told her to join you for a drink Saturday night...which is putting a lot of pressure on her and most likely going to get shot down. Simply say something along the lines of "you can join me if you want" and go on your way.
My bad. I wrote something else than I said. I said, "I'm going to the town saturday night.. why don't you come with me for a drink?" Something along that. And by the way, it was her who really wanted to be friends with me.
Quote:When you got shot down the first time, you persisted for a second option (she wasn't sure about) and you continued to hope she would call you/get in touch with you to do something. When if you read the signs...you would have seen she wasn't interested and giving you excuses, you simply should have walked away. It's just natural as a man to in our society to act, don't get yourself down, you probably don't see it...but persisting in such a way is because you ultimately want something out of her, yes? Her pursuing you...a date...sex? whatever. I mean ask yourself...why is it that you really want this girl to join you for drinks? And why does it matter to you that she didn't take your number?
Yeah, I would like to share some quality time with her outside of school. Hmm.. I invited her to join me for drinks because I liked her and wanted to have a good time with her and then just let things happen.
I was curious of why it went that way because she seemed interested (she had to take a bus but instead walked the whole way with me) and I noticed her playing with her hair at a point along the walk.
It didn't matter if she took it or not. Just had a fading doubt about that crap.
I see where you are coming from Ryan. I like it that way but I have to experience and balance it with where I am right now.
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.