08-10-2011, 05:06 AM
(This post was last modified: 08-10-2011, 05:09 AM by LionMonkey.)
Stage 1 - Day 30,
Caught up with some great buddy's last night. Went to a bar. Noticed that I cared less.
Had some extremely vivid dreams last night, which I remember well. It's actually fascinating how real it felt this time. Maybe it was the drinks?
Yeah, I was infatuated with her for a day or so after the night where we held each other.
That wasn't my intention to be that but as I wrote earlier.. she just influenced me and changed my frame. I gotta be stronger I guess = more careless..
Must have been:
Honestly, I'm lucky to have trained martial arts in a long time and am still training + I'm healthy, which made the situation much more easy to comprehend.
You guys are right. I thought she cared more about me
I wasn't thinking about what she thought. The thing is, I was thinking about that I thought she was courageous and if she did those things with me and told those things about herself, why wouldn't she care for me? I thought that was evidence enough but I guess I was blinded by it.
Alright, that seems fair. Just couldn't do it from the start at this point in my life.
Mainly I think that she is a person, who is very fragile, needs a lot of security and tries to get validation all the time.
- LM
Caught up with some great buddy's last night. Went to a bar. Noticed that I cared less.
Had some extremely vivid dreams last night, which I remember well. It's actually fascinating how real it felt this time. Maybe it was the drinks?
Roy Wrote:LionMonkey,you seem to be infatuated with this girl and to attached to the situation when you hardly know her,haven't had sex with her and now you are over analyzing the situation.
Yeah, I was infatuated with her for a day or so after the night where we held each other.
That wasn't my intention to be that but as I wrote earlier.. she just influenced me and changed my frame. I gotta be stronger I guess = more careless..
Must have been:
Quote:What happened
when you cuddled with her is that you had lots of pair bonding chemicals released and than she acted cold towards you and now you are getting
the effects of a big push-pull.
Honestly, I'm lucky to have trained martial arts in a long time and am still training + I'm healthy, which made the situation much more easy to comprehend.
You guys are right. I thought she cared more about me
Quote:In those two last posts you are thinking and obsessing about her,caring about her feelings and not hurting her.She doesn't act as if she cares about yours.She might actually doing this just for getting approval.You wrote she wasn't enthusiastic at all about it.You are not a challenge to her anymore.
She knows you will come trying to make her feel safe and compliment her.
You are acting like a nice guy.If she was interested she would have met you already.Stop trying to figure out what's going on inside her head
and stop wasting your time on her.
I wasn't thinking about what she thought. The thing is, I was thinking about that I thought she was courageous and if she did those things with me and told those things about herself, why wouldn't she care for me? I thought that was evidence enough but I guess I was blinded by it.
Ryan Wrote:One thing I'm realizing...if she is continuing to bug you about her insecurities. Simply let her know that, tell her to stop...you're done trying to convince her and it's only bugging you. She's not going to like the fact that you are not there to reinforce her like every other guy but internally she's going to want your validation even more.
Alright, that seems fair. Just couldn't do it from the start at this point in my life.
Mainly I think that she is a person, who is very fragile, needs a lot of security and tries to get validation all the time.
- LM
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
