(08-09-2011, 07:43 AM)Roy Wrote: LionMonkey,you seem to be infatuated with this girl and to attached to the situation when you hardly know her,haven't had sex with her and now you are over analyzing the situation.
It doesn't matter.Let it go.
She BSed.So what?The situation is not special.Stop wasting your time and do better things like finding other girls instead of going and trying to save a losing situation.It's a lot less effort.
Learn what you can,stop thinking and fantasizing about her.What happened
when you cuddled with her is that you had lots of pair bonding chemicals released and than she acted cold towards you and now you are getting
the effects of a big push-pull.
Quote:Ohh, she knows that I wanna f*** her. I've told and whispered to her several times when we were in bed and she also says, "I know".
She told me once that she wanted to but was afraid or something that she would be hurt also because of her recent relationships.
Anyway, I'll see how it works out. I'm definitely not the "nice-guy" ;-)
Quote:Ryan.. actually I think my situation is different. This girl isn't a very beautiful girl. To be realistic, she's a girl a bit over average and she doesn't have the most beautiful body, and she doesn't have a model like body, she's even a bit insecure about it and told me she didn't like her breasts. I praised them and I liked her for who she is.
Why would she be BS me? By taking me home after we kissed? By laying naked with me? By wanting to spend more time with me? By being honest and tell me things about herself that only few knows? BY NOT HAVING SEX WITH ME AFTER 2 NIGHTS?
Do you still think she is BS me Ryan?
Though I appreciate you guys feedback from your experiences, I really think this situation was different.
In those two last posts you are thinking and obsessing about her,caring about her feelings and not hurting her.She doesn't act as if she cares about yours.She might actually doing this just for getting approval.You wrote she wasn't enthusiastic at all about it.You are not a challenge to her anymore.
She knows you will come trying to make her feel safe and compliment her.
You are acting like a nice guy.If she was interested she would have met you already.Stop trying to figure out what's going on inside her head
and stop wasting your time on her.
Roy is right to a point...but don't put too much on yourself Lion, you are getting there. There are ways to salvage this situation and the best is yes...stop caring. "The person who cares less holds more power" that will come to you in time especially in Sex Magnet as I'm actually beginning to experience that now, but it does. We shouldn't give a crap what anyone thinks of us as long as we are happy. So try to stop caring so much, do what you want to do and you'll notice a change.
The best way to think of it...she's there for YOU, not the other way around. Once you internalize that, you'll see...you live for yourself, she lives for YOU ;P
But I know how hard something like this may be to comprehend during the changes occurring through Alpha Male, I know for a fact, I was not able to do so. But...in the end, I think that much care is going to hurt you, like it did me. So I'm sharing with you so you don't make the same mistake I did. Careless in the beginning so you don't have to try to save it in the future. Be less available and live your life for yourself. Have lots of friends, go out, enjoy yourself and let her work her way into your pants. It'll come regardless so don't put too much pressure on yourself!
One thing I'm realizing...if she is continuing to bug you about her insecurities. Simply let her know that, tell her to stop...you're done trying to convince her and it's only bugging you. She's not going to like the fact that you are not there to reinforce her like every other guy but internally she's going to want your validation even more.
