08-08-2018, 11:29 AM
(08-08-2018, 10:49 AM)lano1106 Wrote: I just broke a pattern.
Every time that I was correcting facts concerning me said by a girlfriend. She was accusing me to be in a bad mood. This was some sort of frame control. ie: do not argue what I say about you or else I'll accuse you to be in a bad mood.
Today, I just did reply. Correcting the facts concerning me, does not mean that I am in a bad moon. This ended the discussion about my 'bad mood'.
Later, While she was in another room, she was talking to me as I was reading. I wasn't listening and started to complain about me not listening.
I just reply. If you want to talk to me and want me to listen, you are going to walk over and talk to me in front of me and she did comply.
I love getting more assertive and witty...
NICE!
