04-13-2019, 09:37 PM
“If her beliefs are the primary problem, or habitual negative thinking, or habituated coping through attacking you or treating you that way is the real cause, then LTU5 should make a HUGE difference in how much and whether or not she acts like that.”
(How do you quote only part of a post? I’m having trouble figuring that out.).
I don’t know if I mentioned it or not, but she is not being exposed to LTU at all. When I was on USLM 1 and 2 she was exposed two nights a week when I wasn’t working, and she seemed to have somewhat of a negative reaction. I think she was getting enough to resist but not enough to even start to get past it, so I decided not to expose her until we can sleep at the same time every night. So whatever changes have caused the improvements are in me not her.
I’ll second the notion that depression can be cured by shifting beliefs. I now recognize that I really missed about ten years of my life due to depression. Now that my thinking has changed drastically, no more depression. Hell, I didn’t even realize how bad I felt until now when I feel good most of the time.
“Not all examples of a "Type 8" are this extreme, some people have this aspect to their personality but it is not necessarily dominant, or dominant all the time. But yes, to make a long story short, Type 8 is extremely polar, extremely irrational and potentially (frequently) violent, physically, emotionally and/or mentally. They cannot handle being in a conflict they don't dominate or "win" and they can be unlimitedly cruel, selfish, violent and conniving when trying to "win", especially when they believe they are being wronged - which is almost always whenever someone has been wronged. They are the type who can betray you, stab you in the back, and then call 911 and report that you did to them what they did to you. They are consummate liars and self deceivers, lovers of power and control, and love to manipulate others and the legal system to their advantage thereby. I know one who is a bail bonds-woman who once threatened very seriously to kill me unless I did something she wanted. When I pointed out that that was illegal to even say, she laughed and said, "I'm a poor helpless woman. I'm small and you're a big bad man. I also know all the police and lawyers and judges. Who do you think they're going to believe? And regardless, I know how to work the system, so it wouldn't matter anyway." Mind you, this "poor helpless woman" may have been 5'0" tall, but part of her job as bail bonds woman was to hunt down and drag fugitives to justice, which she commonly talked about doing alone, and frequently...”
Yup, that’s her, sort of. She’ll do anything to win an argument, though she hasn’t been that dishonest to my knowledge. She has kept it to verbal and emotional violence for the most part, but back before the meds I got the distinct impression that the only reason she didn’t hit me was that she was afraid to. She hasn’t involved law enforcement. That may be because I have a distinct advantage when dealing with them (or she thinks so anyway.).
And then sometimes she’s not like that at all, and now she’s sometimes visibly trying to restrain herself.
Thanks For the info Shannon, I may have allowed myself to get into a real bad situation.
BTW, your run in with the bail bonds woman sounds like a real interesting story.
(How do you quote only part of a post? I’m having trouble figuring that out.).
I don’t know if I mentioned it or not, but she is not being exposed to LTU at all. When I was on USLM 1 and 2 she was exposed two nights a week when I wasn’t working, and she seemed to have somewhat of a negative reaction. I think she was getting enough to resist but not enough to even start to get past it, so I decided not to expose her until we can sleep at the same time every night. So whatever changes have caused the improvements are in me not her.
I’ll second the notion that depression can be cured by shifting beliefs. I now recognize that I really missed about ten years of my life due to depression. Now that my thinking has changed drastically, no more depression. Hell, I didn’t even realize how bad I felt until now when I feel good most of the time.
“Not all examples of a "Type 8" are this extreme, some people have this aspect to their personality but it is not necessarily dominant, or dominant all the time. But yes, to make a long story short, Type 8 is extremely polar, extremely irrational and potentially (frequently) violent, physically, emotionally and/or mentally. They cannot handle being in a conflict they don't dominate or "win" and they can be unlimitedly cruel, selfish, violent and conniving when trying to "win", especially when they believe they are being wronged - which is almost always whenever someone has been wronged. They are the type who can betray you, stab you in the back, and then call 911 and report that you did to them what they did to you. They are consummate liars and self deceivers, lovers of power and control, and love to manipulate others and the legal system to their advantage thereby. I know one who is a bail bonds-woman who once threatened very seriously to kill me unless I did something she wanted. When I pointed out that that was illegal to even say, she laughed and said, "I'm a poor helpless woman. I'm small and you're a big bad man. I also know all the police and lawyers and judges. Who do you think they're going to believe? And regardless, I know how to work the system, so it wouldn't matter anyway." Mind you, this "poor helpless woman" may have been 5'0" tall, but part of her job as bail bonds woman was to hunt down and drag fugitives to justice, which she commonly talked about doing alone, and frequently...”
Yup, that’s her, sort of. She’ll do anything to win an argument, though she hasn’t been that dishonest to my knowledge. She has kept it to verbal and emotional violence for the most part, but back before the meds I got the distinct impression that the only reason she didn’t hit me was that she was afraid to. She hasn’t involved law enforcement. That may be because I have a distinct advantage when dealing with them (or she thinks so anyway.).
And then sometimes she’s not like that at all, and now she’s sometimes visibly trying to restrain herself.
Thanks For the info Shannon, I may have allowed myself to get into a real bad situation.
BTW, your run in with the bail bonds woman sounds like a real interesting story.
