Interesting concern.
I always had a hate of the word 'nice'. And Alpha was an interesting journey, first it made me explosive at times which was needed to start getting more respect and to be able to stand up for myself.
It went a bit far with the anger, but then balanced out and by the end I got along much better with people, especially guys I was working with (just left my job) who would give me alot of crap but in the end not so much at all, just the joking around kind and I am able to give it back now. Occasionally they may step out of line and I have been able to deal with that.
The other interesting thing is now I feel I am able to be 'nicer' so to speak to people who deserve it, because now it is more coming from strength. And to give them a chance to walk peacefully out of the club for example and if they started talking crap I could give it back and be assertive, but with the added calmness and inner strength I was able to be more patient and polite to these people. Doesn't mean it went overboard into being a 'nice guy'.
For a while a few years ago I thought the way was becoming an asshole, but it just hurt myself and also the girls I was with. Building the kind of strength that Alpha helps you with is ideal. It definately helped me to EXPRESS my real feelings. And yes some friendships were turbulous for a while, and have settled back down in a better way than before I believe, one friend is now out of my life, but I have realized he was one who was one of the most manipulative and that I don't think I could put up with now.
I'm still not fully where I want to be with it, but I am hugely improved from like a year ago.
-Ben
I always had a hate of the word 'nice'. And Alpha was an interesting journey, first it made me explosive at times which was needed to start getting more respect and to be able to stand up for myself.
It went a bit far with the anger, but then balanced out and by the end I got along much better with people, especially guys I was working with (just left my job) who would give me alot of crap but in the end not so much at all, just the joking around kind and I am able to give it back now. Occasionally they may step out of line and I have been able to deal with that.
The other interesting thing is now I feel I am able to be 'nicer' so to speak to people who deserve it, because now it is more coming from strength. And to give them a chance to walk peacefully out of the club for example and if they started talking crap I could give it back and be assertive, but with the added calmness and inner strength I was able to be more patient and polite to these people. Doesn't mean it went overboard into being a 'nice guy'.
For a while a few years ago I thought the way was becoming an asshole, but it just hurt myself and also the girls I was with. Building the kind of strength that Alpha helps you with is ideal. It definately helped me to EXPRESS my real feelings. And yes some friendships were turbulous for a while, and have settled back down in a better way than before I believe, one friend is now out of my life, but I have realized he was one who was one of the most manipulative and that I don't think I could put up with now.
I'm still not fully where I want to be with it, but I am hugely improved from like a year ago.
-Ben
