07-12-2014, 08:01 PM
And that's a wrap folks. All finished this morning. BIABW/? Tonight. I loaded my ipod w/ DAOS as the secondary, but I think that I might need to go with letting go of past relationships, trust people, PTPA, Carpe Diem. On the flip side, I just remembered something that a friend told me today about feeling negative and feeling like their life wasn't moving forward until they started keeping a gratefulness journal, which they have now been doing since 2000. It changed their life and got them moving forward out of their head (where we all attack ourselves from). Instead of changing subs I'm going to journal the things I'm grateful for.
I suppose I should do a final wrap up. I like how I've seen this done, so I'm going to copy this:
Have let go of any negative self image, attitudes, thoughts and beliefs about yourself.
[/b]Before I couldn't look myself in the mirror and have a positive thought, let alone be naked in front of myself and proud of the MAN that I have become. That is my reality now. Not quite all neg stuff about 60% (1st run of AM 5, I'm SO fired up about AM6).
Have a powerful, positive sense of self respect, self esteem, self image and self worth.
damn rights see last bullet.
Have unshakable self confidence.
I just realized today that for the last couple weeks I've been calling myself a champ with all the shit that I have overcome. 80% Still have my days, but that is being human. Next step.... Bulletproof.... Soon
Be unaffected by rejection.
Talked to someone yesterday that ignored my existence. In my head I thought must be a bitch. 60% the women that were my friends before AM have the ability to affect me, but to a lesser degree than before.
Treat women as people to enjoy the company of, without taking them too seriously, needing them, or being easily upset by them.
Totally. Doing AM5 in a woman-dominated environment made all the difference. Didn't care if they were in a mood. About 75% for this one. Another run and I bet it would be 100%
Have released expectations towards women, which often lead to bad choices, actions, attitudes, thinking and responses.
Not on the hunt, so don't really care. 65% Often expect that women will be selfish, and serve their own needs. Think it would turn positive in time.
Be self sufficient and self reliant mentally, emotionally and otherwise.
Someone that just met me is week commented that I really enjoy being alone and that I must enjoy my own company a lot. 75-80% I think that I'm skewed though because I was co-dependant before"
No longer be, or come across to others as “needy”.
I don't know about this one as I don't feel needy, but I used to like crazy. I had a needy moment about two months ago that I wrote in my journal at length about, that was instigated by being misled by a utilitarian woman.
Take good care of yourself, your hygiene and your appearance, not just because you want to be attractive to beautiful women, but because it makes you feel good about yourself.
Took good care before. Now I'm aware of it and I feel great about it 90%.
Be able to effortlessly approach any woman you want – and the more attractive you find her, the easier it will be.
I had shit tons of trouble with this before, but now I notice that when I do decide to approach I am actually attracted to the women I talk to, so 50-70% (I still lock up if they are the women who would give me butterflies.)
Be selective about whom you spend your time with, and which women you give your time, interest and affections to.
100% if they don't add value to my life, I don't hang out with them.
Exude an aura of confidence, commanding presence and authority, which gets you respect, attention and obedience.
Nods by random men. Doesn't matter their nationality. The women that I first started working with said that I became an asshole after a couple months. The people that were new said that I wasn't an asshole. I just "didn't put up with 'girl shit'". 60% I believe that I need more humility, but people automatically listen to me and then realize they did after the fact.
Exude an aura of sexiness that makes you much more attractive to the beautiful women you encounter. The more beautiful they are, the more attracted and interested they will be.
I believe this one is inhibited by the work on my self image, but next run/BIABW/DAOS will rock that 50%
Have a Zen attitude, which keeps you calm when other guys would lose control, thus demonstrating your self control and mastery of the situation – an Alpha/dominant male trait.
People that I knew before and people that I worked with say that they don't understand why I never flip out and at the restaurant they called me The Robot because I was always awesome.65% because I still want to punch people in the face and sometimes... Maybe in their throat (just to stop them from talking
)
Display graceful, confident body language, which broadcasts your power and dominance to all, but especially females (for whom body language is a very important way of communicating, and thus determining the men they are interested in).
People tell me that I look exceptionally confident, but I don't always feel it, so 60%ish.
Display the attitude, thinking, actions and speech patterns of an Alpha/Dominant Male.
I believe so, but no scale to check against. Still feel myself do beta shit sometimes like looking down if I'm intimidated 1 in 100 times, so 85-90%
No longer seek approval from others, nor be concerned with what they think of you or what you do or say.
Hi, I'm Ike and I DGAF, ever.... Except if you're reeeeeeaaallly hot... Then a bit, so 90% (Especially because this was my life before)
Be your own man, who does what he wants, when he wants, how he wants, where he wants.
Pretty much, would be nice to include other people, but not there yet, so 50-60%
Be in control when dealing with women, and especially beautiful women or women you are interested in.
Wanted to wait till AM was done, so haven't actively hunted since I read about the guy that got derailed in stage 4 after getting a GF. With that said I have controlled the situation/frame especially when other people around me fail at controlling it, so 60-75%.
Be entirely unconcerned about “getting the girl” or achieving sexual interaction, which will make the ladies percieve you as higher status, higher value, and more worthy of both.
See entry about DGAF. Have had about 3-4 instances in the last month where I have not cared and have actively said no and chose to walk away.80-90%
Be easily able and willing to walk away from people and situations you don’t like, and TELL HER NO – whether it’s to her asking for sex or anything else.
See last entry. Blew a girl off for pushing for sex.Didn't think this was possible 85%
Be in complete control of yourself and your environment, and YOU will be the one who controls when, how, and with whom you have sex.
See last again. Have to be actively hunting girls that I think are hot, believe if my personal 10 said let's go I may have a problem saying no. so 50-60%
Develop and display a fantastic sense of humor, which will make you socially popular and attractive to others, especially beautiful women.
I used to weird people out with my humour because I use dry epically witty humour, now I choose when I want to weird them out and when people around me laugh. Still think there is more in there, so 50%
Be entirely comfortable in social situations of any type, whether they are familiar to you or not.
I'm comfortable most of the time, but I like to be alone in a crowd a lot, so maybe it will be different when I'm in large groups, so 60%
And do it all while being polite and graceful!
Yup, when I want to be, but not because I have to be.100%
• Acceptance of, and feelings of deservedness of, being treated well
Yup, I do 100%. If not.. I get irritated.
• Deserving respect from others
Yes and because I expect it. I get it.
• Self love and liking yourself
Totally, and looking forward to being every min of the day 50%
• Valuing yourself
See last 50%
• Extended ego balancing
I believe that I don't have enough humility, so 40-50%
• Strong, centered masculinity and masculine presence
I find men seek me out when they need to be balanced out by a strong man and people that are intimidated easily scurry, so 65-70%
• Destruction of negativity within you concerning yourself and others, and replacement with positivity
I'm going to say that this aspect had it's work cut out for it, so 40-50%.
• Self acceptance with continual striving to be better than you are
Still see the negative in myself that I want to change, so 50%
• Destruction of laziness
To a degree, but leaning to about 40% decrease
• Motivation boost
Somewhat. 50%
• Doing what needs to be done, because it needs to be done, and that is the way of the Alpha
I believe so, which allowed me to see my grandmother before she died. Something that I bailed on with my grandfather, so 75%
• Extroversion enhancement and training
When I want to be I am to the nth degree, so 75-80%
• Self forgiveness
Couldn't before. Now do for almost everything in my life, so 80%
• Social stability, skill and strength
Still balancing the strength my personality and meeting people, so for now, 50%.
• Overcome abandonment issues
Had a couple days recently, but it used to be weeks, so 40-50%
• Success training
Somewhat, it got me back into a job I didn't think I would get back into because it is a better opportunity.
• Gratitude
I'm grateful, but I feel like I did a lot on my own, so I'm grateful to Shannon for his awesome work, but other places in my life I don't give credit to.
• Self trust
This is the first time in my life I COULD trust myself, but it doesn't feel peaked, so 60%
• Self image of man, instead of boy
Without a doubt, didn't think so before. 100%
• Leadership training and development
Yes, additionally there is a desire to lead especially when the existing leader is incompetent. Can get very assertive about this 90%
• Decisiveness training
Ish, still indecisive like mad, so 35-40%
• Authenticity and congruency training
Only came into play on the last stage before people commented that my confidence didn't match how confident my body language was. Still think this is an issue, so 65%
• Destruction of jealousy and possessiveness, and replacement with self security, self reliance and self satisfaction
Pretty much, still back to the women I knew before AM. They can affect me in this, but anyone that is new can't. 50%
• Constant self growth and progress.
Without a doubt. 100%[b]
If in the next couple weeks this changes and I'm feeling different about this numbers and comments I will change them.
I suppose I should do a final wrap up. I like how I've seen this done, so I'm going to copy this:
Have let go of any negative self image, attitudes, thoughts and beliefs about yourself.
[/b]Before I couldn't look myself in the mirror and have a positive thought, let alone be naked in front of myself and proud of the MAN that I have become. That is my reality now. Not quite all neg stuff about 60% (1st run of AM 5, I'm SO fired up about AM6).
Have a powerful, positive sense of self respect, self esteem, self image and self worth.
damn rights see last bullet.
Have unshakable self confidence.
I just realized today that for the last couple weeks I've been calling myself a champ with all the shit that I have overcome. 80% Still have my days, but that is being human. Next step.... Bulletproof.... Soon
Be unaffected by rejection.
Talked to someone yesterday that ignored my existence. In my head I thought must be a bitch. 60% the women that were my friends before AM have the ability to affect me, but to a lesser degree than before.
Treat women as people to enjoy the company of, without taking them too seriously, needing them, or being easily upset by them.
Totally. Doing AM5 in a woman-dominated environment made all the difference. Didn't care if they were in a mood. About 75% for this one. Another run and I bet it would be 100%
Have released expectations towards women, which often lead to bad choices, actions, attitudes, thinking and responses.
Not on the hunt, so don't really care. 65% Often expect that women will be selfish, and serve their own needs. Think it would turn positive in time.
Be self sufficient and self reliant mentally, emotionally and otherwise.
Someone that just met me is week commented that I really enjoy being alone and that I must enjoy my own company a lot. 75-80% I think that I'm skewed though because I was co-dependant before"
No longer be, or come across to others as “needy”.
I don't know about this one as I don't feel needy, but I used to like crazy. I had a needy moment about two months ago that I wrote in my journal at length about, that was instigated by being misled by a utilitarian woman.
Take good care of yourself, your hygiene and your appearance, not just because you want to be attractive to beautiful women, but because it makes you feel good about yourself.
Took good care before. Now I'm aware of it and I feel great about it 90%.
Be able to effortlessly approach any woman you want – and the more attractive you find her, the easier it will be.
I had shit tons of trouble with this before, but now I notice that when I do decide to approach I am actually attracted to the women I talk to, so 50-70% (I still lock up if they are the women who would give me butterflies.)
Be selective about whom you spend your time with, and which women you give your time, interest and affections to.
100% if they don't add value to my life, I don't hang out with them.
Exude an aura of confidence, commanding presence and authority, which gets you respect, attention and obedience.
Nods by random men. Doesn't matter their nationality. The women that I first started working with said that I became an asshole after a couple months. The people that were new said that I wasn't an asshole. I just "didn't put up with 'girl shit'". 60% I believe that I need more humility, but people automatically listen to me and then realize they did after the fact.
Exude an aura of sexiness that makes you much more attractive to the beautiful women you encounter. The more beautiful they are, the more attracted and interested they will be.
I believe this one is inhibited by the work on my self image, but next run/BIABW/DAOS will rock that 50%
Have a Zen attitude, which keeps you calm when other guys would lose control, thus demonstrating your self control and mastery of the situation – an Alpha/dominant male trait.
People that I knew before and people that I worked with say that they don't understand why I never flip out and at the restaurant they called me The Robot because I was always awesome.65% because I still want to punch people in the face and sometimes... Maybe in their throat (just to stop them from talking
)Display graceful, confident body language, which broadcasts your power and dominance to all, but especially females (for whom body language is a very important way of communicating, and thus determining the men they are interested in).
People tell me that I look exceptionally confident, but I don't always feel it, so 60%ish.
Display the attitude, thinking, actions and speech patterns of an Alpha/Dominant Male.
I believe so, but no scale to check against. Still feel myself do beta shit sometimes like looking down if I'm intimidated 1 in 100 times, so 85-90%
No longer seek approval from others, nor be concerned with what they think of you or what you do or say.
Hi, I'm Ike and I DGAF, ever.... Except if you're reeeeeeaaallly hot... Then a bit, so 90% (Especially because this was my life before)
Be your own man, who does what he wants, when he wants, how he wants, where he wants.
Pretty much, would be nice to include other people, but not there yet, so 50-60%
Be in control when dealing with women, and especially beautiful women or women you are interested in.
Wanted to wait till AM was done, so haven't actively hunted since I read about the guy that got derailed in stage 4 after getting a GF. With that said I have controlled the situation/frame especially when other people around me fail at controlling it, so 60-75%.
Be entirely unconcerned about “getting the girl” or achieving sexual interaction, which will make the ladies percieve you as higher status, higher value, and more worthy of both.
See entry about DGAF. Have had about 3-4 instances in the last month where I have not cared and have actively said no and chose to walk away.80-90%
Be easily able and willing to walk away from people and situations you don’t like, and TELL HER NO – whether it’s to her asking for sex or anything else.
See last entry. Blew a girl off for pushing for sex.Didn't think this was possible 85%
Be in complete control of yourself and your environment, and YOU will be the one who controls when, how, and with whom you have sex.
See last again. Have to be actively hunting girls that I think are hot, believe if my personal 10 said let's go I may have a problem saying no. so 50-60%
Develop and display a fantastic sense of humor, which will make you socially popular and attractive to others, especially beautiful women.
I used to weird people out with my humour because I use dry epically witty humour, now I choose when I want to weird them out and when people around me laugh. Still think there is more in there, so 50%
Be entirely comfortable in social situations of any type, whether they are familiar to you or not.
I'm comfortable most of the time, but I like to be alone in a crowd a lot, so maybe it will be different when I'm in large groups, so 60%
And do it all while being polite and graceful!
Yup, when I want to be, but not because I have to be.100%
• Acceptance of, and feelings of deservedness of, being treated well
Yup, I do 100%. If not.. I get irritated.
• Deserving respect from others
Yes and because I expect it. I get it.
• Self love and liking yourself
Totally, and looking forward to being every min of the day 50%
• Valuing yourself
See last 50%
• Extended ego balancing
I believe that I don't have enough humility, so 40-50%
• Strong, centered masculinity and masculine presence
I find men seek me out when they need to be balanced out by a strong man and people that are intimidated easily scurry, so 65-70%
• Destruction of negativity within you concerning yourself and others, and replacement with positivity
I'm going to say that this aspect had it's work cut out for it, so 40-50%.
• Self acceptance with continual striving to be better than you are
Still see the negative in myself that I want to change, so 50%
• Destruction of laziness
To a degree, but leaning to about 40% decrease
• Motivation boost
Somewhat. 50%
• Doing what needs to be done, because it needs to be done, and that is the way of the Alpha
I believe so, which allowed me to see my grandmother before she died. Something that I bailed on with my grandfather, so 75%
• Extroversion enhancement and training
When I want to be I am to the nth degree, so 75-80%
• Self forgiveness
Couldn't before. Now do for almost everything in my life, so 80%
• Social stability, skill and strength
Still balancing the strength my personality and meeting people, so for now, 50%.
• Overcome abandonment issues
Had a couple days recently, but it used to be weeks, so 40-50%
• Success training
Somewhat, it got me back into a job I didn't think I would get back into because it is a better opportunity.
• Gratitude
I'm grateful, but I feel like I did a lot on my own, so I'm grateful to Shannon for his awesome work, but other places in my life I don't give credit to.
• Self trust
This is the first time in my life I COULD trust myself, but it doesn't feel peaked, so 60%
• Self image of man, instead of boy
Without a doubt, didn't think so before. 100%
• Leadership training and development
Yes, additionally there is a desire to lead especially when the existing leader is incompetent. Can get very assertive about this 90%
• Decisiveness training
Ish, still indecisive like mad, so 35-40%
• Authenticity and congruency training
Only came into play on the last stage before people commented that my confidence didn't match how confident my body language was. Still think this is an issue, so 65%
• Destruction of jealousy and possessiveness, and replacement with self security, self reliance and self satisfaction
Pretty much, still back to the women I knew before AM. They can affect me in this, but anyone that is new can't. 50%
• Constant self growth and progress.
Without a doubt. 100%[b]
If in the next couple weeks this changes and I'm feeling different about this numbers and comments I will change them.
