10-25-2016, 03:28 PM
(10-25-2016, 03:18 PM)maxx55 Wrote:(10-25-2016, 03:11 PM)bits Wrote:(10-25-2016, 02:52 PM)maxx55 Wrote: Unrelated to DMSI
I'm just frustrated. I invited a girl out to grab some food soon from one of my classes and she was ridiculously hesitant. And she was like "just to hang out?". Without thinking I just said yeah. And she said she'll let me know on Saturday. I said I'm probably busy, but let's just exchange numbers. A lot more hesitation and "ums" and *****. After like a minute of all this SHIT, I was just like "Nevermind, it's fine." and acted like I was brushing it off. I'm SO SICK of being in this ***** position! And no, I wasn't expecting any "boost" from DMSI! She had been giving ***** "iois" for most of the semester.
**** THIS. **** IT ALL.
Instead of just forgetting about it, I'm gonna have to see her whenever I go to class and she'll be there in the social circle. THIS is why I'm so particular with who I choose. Because I gotta live with the repurcussions for next year plus! I'M SICK OF ***** LOSING
I feel where you're coming from but women in this age range, even the hot ones, can be incredibly insecure about dating and sex. You're job as a man, especially in the context of dating/sex, is to reassure them that nothing is a big deal.
Exchanging numbers is no big deal, going for coffee is no big deal, kissing is no big deal, going back to your place is no big deal, having sex is no big deal, getting into a relationship is no big deal, splitting up is no big deal, seeing each other in social circle after a breakup is no big deal, etc.
On the flip-side, her not giving you her number is no big deal, not going on a date with you is no big deal, not kissing you is no big deal, not sleeping with you is no big deal, etc.
By getting upset at her like that you kind of proved her intuition right, that for you coffee was a big deal and that she was right to be nervous and insecure about it. If you weren't visibly mad at her it may be salvageable if you want to get to know her just put it behind you and act normal towards her as if nothing ever happened and try again some other time.
I can practically guarantee that I will not "try again". I'm not gonna make myself lose twice to the same girl. That's ***** *****
However, I'm use to just being normal the next time I encounter them. I've done it many times. The only way something will happen between us now is if she gives me her number and invites me out.
I don't need this shit.
Was she perhaps insinuating she wanted more than just "hanging out?"
