A men's coach I'd connected with earlier this year did a live webinar on self-love earlier this week, and I watched it. I wished to share what I did today as an encouragement for those resisting emotional changes on UMS or any of Shannon's subs.
This guy had suggested we watch a documentary of active men's group work done inside Folsom Prison. I've done some men's weekend retreats, and if the setting is right, and I needed it, I opened up. I thought of this while watching it.
It's called The Work, and it's on Amazon. I rented it for $4. A group of about 20 men come from the outside--but not necessarily to assist. Many find some healing themselves in the process. It's a 4 day event, and the inmates' courage was very moving. These guys have brass gonads to be willing to walk right into unexpressed areas of pain and release it. But what touched me most was how some of the outsiders were affected.
One such guy had long hair, and he worked in a museum. I saw that and realized he was making minimum wages while undervaluing himself Looking at his posture....well, I've done that. Eyes down. Detached.
On day 3 this guy broke down unexpectedly. The safety and courage in the group got to him, and he peeled open, crying it out. He'd been undervalued by his dad, and he'd been living up to these low expectations all his life--he was only in his 30's, and he didn't see himself as a real man. But he had decided he was willing to face this when he walked into the prison. It was very moving. I cried through half of it. Very raw, very real, and I'd recommend it to anyone desiring some clarity. The inmates in this video are really fortunate to have real healing possible, and getting to the roots of one's pain often takes not being alone. Many have found their peace after going through the pain. Highly recommended.
Edit: the men's coach shared this on Wednesday. I was physically tired, but I was mostly scared, knowing it might touch something very raw in me. It's Saturday now.
This guy had suggested we watch a documentary of active men's group work done inside Folsom Prison. I've done some men's weekend retreats, and if the setting is right, and I needed it, I opened up. I thought of this while watching it.
It's called The Work, and it's on Amazon. I rented it for $4. A group of about 20 men come from the outside--but not necessarily to assist. Many find some healing themselves in the process. It's a 4 day event, and the inmates' courage was very moving. These guys have brass gonads to be willing to walk right into unexpressed areas of pain and release it. But what touched me most was how some of the outsiders were affected.
One such guy had long hair, and he worked in a museum. I saw that and realized he was making minimum wages while undervaluing himself Looking at his posture....well, I've done that. Eyes down. Detached.
On day 3 this guy broke down unexpectedly. The safety and courage in the group got to him, and he peeled open, crying it out. He'd been undervalued by his dad, and he'd been living up to these low expectations all his life--he was only in his 30's, and he didn't see himself as a real man. But he had decided he was willing to face this when he walked into the prison. It was very moving. I cried through half of it. Very raw, very real, and I'd recommend it to anyone desiring some clarity. The inmates in this video are really fortunate to have real healing possible, and getting to the roots of one's pain often takes not being alone. Many have found their peace after going through the pain. Highly recommended.
Edit: the men's coach shared this on Wednesday. I was physically tired, but I was mostly scared, knowing it might touch something very raw in me. It's Saturday now.
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