12-05-2011, 01:20 PM
No worries. I've done a lot of research on fear of abandonment as a sufferer myself.
Its not actually not a fear of rejection as such although they are related its a fear of being alone either in the present or in the future. As in I can go out and approach a whole lot of girls or go on dating sites. I'm not afraid of being rejected as such it doesn't really phase me but the main reason I do it is because I am afraid of being alone for the rest of my life.
There is a difference there. I found rejection relatively easy to break through although never goes away completely but I found going from a place where you aren't afraid of being alone the rest of your life a hard one. I've just noticed it as a theme in some of the posts here especially around breakups etc. It also contributes to people staying with or starting a relationship with emotionally unhealthy people.
In a way I view a fear of abandonment as sometimes the root cause of a fear of rejection.
I hope all of that makes sense and displays the difference between the two
Its not actually not a fear of rejection as such although they are related its a fear of being alone either in the present or in the future. As in I can go out and approach a whole lot of girls or go on dating sites. I'm not afraid of being rejected as such it doesn't really phase me but the main reason I do it is because I am afraid of being alone for the rest of my life.
There is a difference there. I found rejection relatively easy to break through although never goes away completely but I found going from a place where you aren't afraid of being alone the rest of your life a hard one. I've just noticed it as a theme in some of the posts here especially around breakups etc. It also contributes to people staying with or starting a relationship with emotionally unhealthy people.
In a way I view a fear of abandonment as sometimes the root cause of a fear of rejection.
I hope all of that makes sense and displays the difference between the two
